Do you ever feel strange or different

[phoenix1105]

Like the title says, do you ever feel strange, different, guilty, or any other negative stigma because of whatever your fetish is? Personally, I have led a pretty sheltered life even at the rip old age of 31. Very conservative family, the whole 9 yards. Sometimes though I feel like I shouldn't be turned on or embrace what turns me on.

Can anyone shed some light on what they might have felt and how they overcame it? In otherwords, I basically want someone to tell me its normal and I'm not crazy

 

[itismeinnz]

I don't discuss anything much of my private sex life, even with close friends. I remember that the one time I began to broach the subject of Domination/submission with my closest male friend when we were talking about stuff in general over a beer (I didn't say anything in erefence to myself, just skirted around the subject) he immediately made a very negative remark. I realised at that point, I just can't be bothered with the hassle of having to explain myself.

To me a safe/sane/consensual lifestyle or fetish would have to be very strange to not be able to find like-minded peopel in communities such as Lit. In RL it can be tougher, especially in smaller communities.

As I've got older I have more and more realised we cannot please others and cannot live life trying to justify oursleves all the time. I am who I am, and I simply don't have to reveal everything about myself to everyone around me. That's cool. But I'm sure you can find support here phoenix.

 

[klippert]

nope don't feel strange at all...I may feel strange if I felt strange

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Like the title says, do you ever feel strange, different, guilty, or any other negative stigma because of whatever your fetish is? Personally, I have led a pretty sheltered life even at the rip old age of 31. Very conservative family, the whole 9 yards. Sometimes though I feel like I shouldn't be turned on or embrace what turns me on.

Can anyone shed some light on what they might have felt and how they overcame it? In otherwords, I basically want someone to tell me its normal and I'm not crazy

I'm 64. Years and years ago, I wondered if I was "different". I found I liked pissing and being pissed on. I liked anal sex. I liked walking around naked. I liked wearing women's lingerie. I liked masturbating. A lot. I still like all of those things. And as I've got older, I've decided (with additional help from a lot of people on Lit) that I'm completely normal. You are too.

 

[Ex Princess]

Everyone has a "freak flag" but only a few are brave enough to wave it.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Everyone has a "freak flag" but only a few are brave enough to wave it.

Amen to that, even though I'm not religious. Now, I'll read your stories, EP.

 

[peachesmelba]

I hear you...

Like the title says, do you ever feel strange, different, guilty, or any other negative stigma because of whatever your fetish is? Personally, I have led a pretty sheltered life even at the rip old age of 31. Very conservative family, the whole 9 yards. Sometimes though I feel like I shouldn't be turned on or embrace what turns me on.

Can anyone shed some light on what they might have felt and how they overcame it? In otherwords, I basically want someone to tell me its normal and I'm not crazy

Grew up much the same way myself - conservative, religious family - sheltered. For this and many other reasons I felt like the cuckoo in the nest and thought it was MY problem. It took me longer than 31 years the love of supportive friends (excellent therapists-lol) and finally cutting all communication with my birth family before I began to realize I was okay....THEY have some serious problems! I don't advertise what I write to all and sundry, but most of my friends and chosen family know. And the LitE community, as a whole, has taught me that - it is a whole beautiful rainbow of a world, with many complex and fascinating colors, hues and tints - and that you and I are a beautiful part of that complexity.....and perfectly NORMAL (in our kinks, quirks and oddness)!

 

[Girlyguy2112]

I used to. now not so much. Im a guy who wears lipstick and heels.

 

[PaulBlart]

I think everyone has some kind of kink. Call it a fetish if you like. It's just that most people out there aren't willing to fully embrace their sexuality and live who they really are. I would be one of those. I have a foot fetish. I'm married to someone who won't let me suck her toes and I have to be content with giving her foot rubs. I'm very much in to d/s and have had a few d/s relationships in the past, but ended up marrying a woman whom I love, but who I thought I could "make" into my dominatrix because she has dominant personality and was sexually adventurous when we met. Yeah, that kind of thing doesn't work in real life. You're younger than I. You have time to live as the person you really are. Unless I want to throw away my entire life (which I'm unwilling to do), that ship has sailed for me. You are who you are. Sexuality is hard wired and you can't change that. Learn from my mistake. Know who you are and what you need and communicate that in your relationships before you get too far along. Perhaps you'll find a "match" to your kink. But, more realistically, you'll find someone who loves you and is willing to accept who you are and indulge you a bit. The real pain comes from hiding who you are. Now, that being said, none of what I wrote counts if your kink harms or victimizes another without their consent.

 

[phoenix1105]

Thanks for all your responses. It does make me feel a little more "normal" to be on Lit, around others with similar points of view. Later on today or tonight I will post again, but I have to run. I just wanted to say thanks to those that chimed in!

 

[shesnotcheating]

I feel constant guilt about my fetish. So, you're not at all alone in that.

 

[Boundlife]

nope don't feel strange at all...I may feel strange if I felt strange

Just so you know...klippert might not be joking..****, eh?

Amen to that, even though I'm not religious. Now, I'll read your stories, EP.

Amen means "Let it be" in hebrew(?) ... The word is not religious... just not translated

If every one like the same thing, we would be ants...

 

[strapon_tales]

Strange, no; there are a few things that I know not to bring up in real life, though, not even with the person closest to me. I don't feel bad about the things I like, but I know others don't feel the same way, and it's not my right to disturb them with details they don't wish to hear.

 

[Roc_crawl]

To all,

A friend once said to me, "There's an ass for every seat, that's why we were able to sell the AMC Eagle".

Pick your seat and enjoy it...it's the drive that matters...not what people think of your driving.

Besides...If you asked enough people you'd find someone who enjoys sex with chickens.