I wanna try a guy but...

[ChasingShadowsX]

Hey every1 I'm just curious. I want to try a guy but I don't want to come out or have any one know about it. Therefore I don't want to put my pictures up on dating sites and proclaim myself gay. And I'm not sure if I feel comfortable going to gay bars.

Any advice?

 

[Safe_Bet]

Hey every1 I'm just curious. I want to try a guy but I don't want to come out or have any one know about it. Therefore I don't want to put my pictures up on dating sites and proclaim myself gay. And I'm not sure if I feel comfortable going to gay bars.

Any advice?

Why wouldn't you feel comfortable going to a gay bar?

Cuz they are full of horrible queer people who will want to have sex with you or because you might actually see somebody's face & learn their name and find out they are just normale folks???

 

[Deleted member 1215945]

Nice reply

=.=

That was a good reply Safe... but not in a smart assed kind of way. A long time ago I felt the same way, but through life I have made many good friends with people who have a different orientation. What is important is that we're all humans and we are better to treat others as we would like to be treated. Who knows what kind of "friendships" might develop. I've come to realize an open mind will let me love twice as many people...

Here's 2 U

=.=

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

I don't want to go to a gay bar in case someone knows who I am and then tells every one! I do like most gay people they just don't know im gay =)

 

[emap]

You aren't gay unless you only get hard looking at naked men.

If you get sexually excited looking at both sexes then you are bisexual. Wanting to scew or be screwed by a guy only makes you gay when all you want is a guy. Wanting a woman and a guy makes you bisexual and according to some, normal.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

I don't want to go to a gay bar in case someone knows who I am and then tells every one! I do like most gay people they just don't know im gay =)

Well in that case; I hope you find somebody else in the closet and somehow you find each other out. Oh and just because someone in a gay bar that you know and they know you, doesn't mean they'll go blabbing. Chances are it'll be somebody you didn't know was gay because they keep it away from the job or gym or church or where ever you know this proverbial person from. Mind you straight people sometimes wonder in to these places too. Mum's the word my queer curious friend.

 

[mc44k]

I am like chasingshadows in that i want to experience things with another man but don't know how to go about finding one. I don't drink or go into bars as all so going into a gay bar would be really weird for me. I guess I will have to stay in this closet and hope I find someone in here.

 

[carlg111901]

after a long time of searching, i found a guy on CL that is similar to me. Similar in many ways it's scary. we met today in person just to meet up, and to see if we could take that next step. we both almost backed out, and were both extremely nervous and we felt awkward. however, finally meeting another guy to talk openly to about my fantasies was a HUGE relief. if you dont feel right going into a gay bar, check local ads. dont post an ad, instead search for an ad that sounds similar to what you are looking for. exchange some emails and then plan to meet in person. set the expectation of no hooking up in this meet up, instead its just an ice breaker and to help settle nerves.
we are now planning on a more private meet up so we can explore. i cant wait to finally explore a guy . hopefully it will be in the very near future, i cant stand to wait any longer, lol.

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

It's weird I'm also really picky about guys... That makes it even harder if I don't know what they look like and as soon as I know what they look like I don't want to be an ass and tell them they're ugly lol

 

[EroticElectric]

Try Adam 4 Adam. Put up like a body shot, you meet lots of interesting people on there.

 

[carlg111901]

For me being physically attracted to the guy was not as important as feeling comfortable. The person i found is not a bad looking guy (hes actually more fit than me), but im not attracted to him. I wasted years searching for a guy that i felt i would be attracted to, and recently i realized i was using that as more of an excuse to not take the next step. The guy i met today emailed me and said he was comfortable and wants to move fwd to explore, and i agreed i felt the same way. Hopefully we can meet up sometime next week and explore. If you are looking to be in a relationship with a guy, by all means hold off and wait to find someone you are physically attracted to. But if u are curious to explore and you are a straight curious guy, my advice is to find someone you are comfortable with that you can relate to that is clean and takes care of themself. Just sharing what worked for me recently. If u look at my join date here add about 5-10 years of being curious. I look back and realize i went about it the wrong way this whole time.

 

[Somehowyou]

did you ever consider a transsexual? This is sort of like going half way though. If it is a cock you want to suck than I suggest you consider buying a VIP membership from TER and search for a well reviewed shemale that excites you and then go for it. It will be with a professional who will not kiss and tell and there will be no strings. This is what I do every now and then. I even went to a gay bar but I am just not attracted to men. I can't even fake it but a beautiful passable T-gurl is another matter entirley.

It is sort of like the thread Mr. Briggs started about being attracted to cock but not men. This is so true for me. I like my cock in a woman's package (LOL). Consider this.

 

[PressNightly]

Other options for finding no strings fun:

Go to your local nature park, most likely in the mid- late morning and start wandering the hiking trails looking for other guys who are interested in hooking up. Or if you see someone flash their breaklights at you at a parking lot, follow them and don't be shy. Just watch out for undercover police officers, they can ruin that whole "I'm not GAY!" image you have going. Check Squirt.org for locations and also personals.

Put up a post here in the GLBT personals and see what comes of it, read through the threads and see if you can find someone local to you, or if you travel for work, look for the appropriate threads.

Put an ad up on craigslist, most are done without pictures, or at most a picture of your erect 'screwdriver' will suffice. Identify first whether you are more interested in a top or a bottom position as this will help a bit. Be careful with craigslist, you can never be completely certain as to what you're going to get.

Go to a gay bar in your area. If you see someone you might know, then there are two probable outcomes, either they are themselves in the closet and would not want to out themselves by outing you, or they're normal compassionate human beings and would not out you without your consent. Gay people know what it's like to be gay/questioning themselves and are not likely to spill your beans any more than they would like to have their beans spilled. The advantage to a gay bar is that you get to see/talk to/meet the person you will be involved with first, and if you don't find a lover you may just find a new friend.

Whatever you do, remember, safe sex is good sex.

 

[Chrissi]

Hey every1 I'm just curious. I want to try a guy but I don't want to come out or have any one know about it. Therefore I don't want to put my pictures up on dating sites and proclaim myself gay. And I'm not sure if I feel comfortable going to gay bars.

Any advice?

Usually I can offer advice or some direction, but in your particular post? None, absolutely nothing. If you don't want anyone one to know about it, then you are destined to remain alone and anonymous. But otherwise I wish you the best of luck.

 

[emap]

I'm surprised nobody has said this one already. Find a glory hole get on your knees and have fun. Nobody sees anything at a glory hole, well I assume because people go to them all the time. I mean if you get spotted and people talk at a glory hole then they would not be as popular.

To find one, do a search and you will find listings of them.

 

[infinity706]

Well, people that have sex at gloryholes aren't likely to run and go tell the world. Depending on the location, though, there might be conversation. Afterall, sluts are people, too.

 

[PhoebeP]

I wanna try a guy butt.

 

[drewcantlose]

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[LucyH]

I don't want to go to a gay bar in case someone knows who I am and then tells every one!

I think most people in a gay bar know that...

a) Walking into the bar doesn't automatically mean you're gay.
b) It's bad manners to go announcing it to the world if you find out that someone is gay, but have a reason to think they may be in the closet. (Like, say, you hadn't the slightest idea they were gay until you met them in a gay bar and discussed gayness or something.)

 

[Mr. Briggs]

did you ever consider a transsexual? This is sort of like going half way though. If it is a cock you want to suck than I suggest you consider buying a VIP membership from TER and search for a well reviewed shemale that excites you and then go for it. It will be with a professional who will not kiss and tell and there will be no strings. This is what I do every now and then. I even went to a gay bar but I am just not attracted to men. I can't even fake it but a beautiful passable T-gurl is another matter entirley.

It is sort of like the thread Mr. Briggs started about being attracted to cock but not men. This is so true for me. I like my cock in a woman's package (LOL). Consider this.

I know what you mean