I'm turning from lesbian to bisexual.

[StarFang]

I need somewhere to get this all out. I'm currently writing a story about it too.

Here we go. I'm a lesbian, I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, my last girlfriend I was with for 4 years.

Just lately there's this guy a work I really, really like. And here begins my issue.

He's clearly off limits, he's way too young. I'm in a stable, loving relationship. But I just want to tear his clothes off at every given moment.

I don't generally fancy any other guys, it's just him.

I need a detox from him

That is all.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It happens.

 

[LucyH]

Hey, maybe your girlfriend would fancy him too.

Just a thought.

 

[FanaticLover]

I understand. I'm (mostly) straight, but every once and awhile I'll see a guy I really wish I could jump in bed with.

 

[StarFang]

Hey, maybe your girlfriend would fancy him too.

Just a thought.

Definitely not. She would go absolutely mental if she even knew I liked him, or even that I was writing story about it. She's very puritan when it comes to her sexuality.

I think she also called him a lanky streak of piss at one point in the past.

 

[BiUncle]

Damn

I turned from lesbian to bisexual too!

 

[LucyH]

Definitely not. She would go absolutely mental if she even knew I liked him, or even that I was writing story about it. She's very puritan when it comes to her sexuality.

I think she also called him a lanky streak of piss at one point in the past.

Oh well. So much for that idea.

On another note, as of this week, I've just given up on predicting what sort of person I'll be attracted to, after being wrong one time too many, so you're not alone in being surprised.

 

[StarFang]

It's not like I'm not still attracted to her too. I most definitely am.

 

[LucyH]

It's not like I'm not still attracted to her too. I most definitely am.

You hadn't said anything to make me think otherwise.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I'm not going to say anything one way or the other about you wanting to fuck some dude.

What I will say is that:

You are NOT a lesbian if you want to (even if you don't go through with it). I've never met a lesbian that wanted to rip the clothes off of a dude. That kinda disqualifies you, ya know? (regardless of what you "used" to be or could be again)

Secondly, I SERIOUSLY hope you let your GF know before you have sex with him. I don't know, maybe she'd want you back afterwards (I sure wouldn't and I know damn few dykes that would), but SHE has the right to choose just like you do. To take that choice away from her by being deceitful or lying would be some major bullshit.

 

[celticbtrfly]

I need somewhere to get this all out. I'm currently writing a story about it too.

Here we go. I'm a lesbian, I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, my last girlfriend I was with for 4 years.

Just lately there's this guy a work I really, really like. And here begins my issue.

He's clearly off limits, he's way too young. I'm in a stable, loving relationship. But I just want to tear his clothes off at every given moment.

I don't generally fancy any other guys, it's just him.

I need a detox from him

That is all.

Just because you have a thing for him and want to rip his clothes off doesn't mean you have to follow through with it. Writing the story might help work it all out in your mind (and in my experience, what I can create in my head is often so much better than the reality of the fantasy).

 

[janeyruth]

...there's this guy a work I really, really like. And here begins my issue. .. I'm in a stable, loving relationship. But I just want to tear his clothes off at every given moment...

If your current relationship is as stable and loving as you claim, she will understand and continue to love you. As a side note, stable and loving relationships are as boring as the term "stable and loving."

Having said that, if you don't tear his clothes off and fuck his brains out, you'll never forgive yourself. You'll be spending the rest of your life with "Miss Stable" wondering about what might have been.

Gp for it!

 

[StarFang]

I'm not going to say anything one way or the other about you wanting to fuck some dude.

What I will say is that:

You are NOT a lesbian if you want to (even if you don't go through with it). I've never met a lesbian that wanted to rip the clothes off of a dude. That kinda disqualifies you, ya know? (regardless of what you "used" to be or could be again)

Secondly, I SERIOUSLY hope you let your GF know before you have sex with him. I don't know, maybe she'd want you back afterwards (I sure wouldn't and I know damn few dykes that would), but SHE has the right to choose just like you do. To take that choice away from her by being deceitful or lying would be some major bullshit.

Seriously, I'm not sure at what point I said I was going to fuck him. With or without her consent. Secondly, I think I'd already stated I was no longer a lesbian. Labels suck anyway, sexuality is fluid. Finally, stable and lovig were crap were words to choose.

Maybe she has a right to know how I feel, then maybe its a phase so what's the point of worrying her unnecessarily. And she would worry if I told her.

 

[klippert]

Screw the labels,titles and what ever your team will say....throw caution to the wind and go for it.. You never know.

 

[Etoile]

Hey, I would have Ian McKellan's double-gay love children, and I'm still a lesbian. I'm not gold star either, so GASP maybe I will fuck a guy TOMORROW.

Or...not. I'm gay because I'm gay, not because somebody vetted me as such.

 

[StarFang]

He's such a girl anyway that it hardly even counts. I think it's because he pays me so much attention. But so does his mate and I don't have a boy crush on him.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Hey, I would have Ian McKellan's double-gay love children, and I'm still a lesbian. I'm not gold star either, so GASP maybe I will fuck a guy TOMORROW.

Or...not. I'm gay because I'm gay, not because somebody vetted me as such.

Ummmm... No! (IMO )

LESBIAN: A person sexually responsive to only members of the female gender.

BISEXUAL: A person sexually responsive to both sexes.
(http://m.dictionary.com/d/?q=Bisexual&submit-result-SEARCHD=Search)


In other words, if your nipples pop and you get wet when you think of some dude, you ain't a dyke! If you find them "artistically attractive" or if you think he would genetically make pretty babies that's one thing. If you get a case of the "pussy gushies" that's another. In the first case you aren't really responding sexually (so you get to keep your membership card ) and in the second case you are (so just tear the damn thing up cuz we're changing the locks to the clubhouse!)

I guess what I'm really trying to say (once I pull my tongue outta my cheek) is that there IS a purpose for accurate labels. They allow for us who have distinct preferences to have a choice. If bisexuals now get to define themselves with the very specific label of "lesbian" then that choice is taken from us.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I guess what I'm really trying to say (once I pull my tongue outta my cheek) is that there IS a purpose for accurate labels. They allow for us who have distinct preferences to have a choice. If bisexuals now get to define themselves with the very specific label of "lesbian" then that choice is taken from us.

This is your best effort yet. Concise, to the point, non-blaming.

 

[cmky]

This...

If your current relationship is as stable and loving as you claim, she will understand and continue to love you. As a side note, stable and loving relationships are as boring as the term "stable and loving."

Having said that, if you don't tear his clothes off and fuck his brains out, you'll never forgive yourself. You'll be spending the rest of your life with "Miss Stable" wondering about what might have been.

Gp for it!

...is terrible advice. Don't throw away a relationship on a fuck. There is nothing wrong with stable.

I'm not in that kind of relationship right now, but if I was, I'd do just about anything to distance myself from the person I was lusting after. If you have someone who loves you, you have something very precious.

Every time you imagine being with him, imagine the look on her face when she finds out.

 

[boredVAwife]

This...

...is terrible advice. Don't throw away a relationship on a fuck. There is nothing wrong with stable.

I'm not in that kind of relationship right now, but if I was, I'd do just about anything to distance myself from the person I was lusting after. If you have someone who loves you, you have something very precious.

Every time you imagine being with him, imagine the look on her face when she finds out.

This. Is some of the best advice you could be given I think.

 

[StarFang]

This...

...is terrible advice. Don't throw away a relationship on a fuck. There is nothing wrong with stable.

I'm not in that kind of relationship right now, but if I was, I'd do just about anything to distance myself from the person I was lusting after. If you have someone who loves you, you have something very precious.

Every time you imagine being with him, imagine the look on her face when she finds out.

Thank you.

I don't need a lecture on sexuality, I'm well aware of the dictionary definitions.

As I've said, I think it's the attention. I'm probably not going to see him this week, due to opposite shifts, anyway.

I'll have a word and tell him we should calm things down at work as well.

 

[kilkennycpl]

I need somewhere to get this all out. I'm currently writing a story about it too.

Here we go. I'm a lesbian, I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, my last girlfriend I was with for 4 years.

Just lately there's this guy a work I really, really like. And here begins my issue.

He's clearly off limits, he's way too young. I'm in a stable, loving relationship. But I just want to tear his clothes off at every given moment.

I don't generally fancy any other guys, it's just him.

I need a detox from him

That is all.

hello from Ireland ,,,maybe your just human,,,,,,,,i mean maybe your just like everyone else in that sometimes ya just want something different
best of luck either way shane

 

[ivantheterrible]

there are studies out there that say that all humans are inherently bisexual. some choose to be homosexual, some choose hetero, some bi.
i'm hetero. dealt with that stuff long ago.

 

[Safe_Bet]

there are studies out there that say that all humans are inherently bisexual. some choose to be homosexual, some choose hetero, some bi.
i'm hetero. dealt with that stuff long ago.

If you're hetero then why are you here in the GLBT forum???

BTW, I "choose" to be a homosexual just the same way you "chose" to be a trolling butt nugget. (IOW, we didn't. We were both that way, you douche!)

 

[Safe_Bet]

Thank you.

I don't need a lecture on sexuality, I'm well aware of the dictionary definitions.

As I've said, I think it's the attention. I'm probably not going to see him this week, due to opposite shifts, anyway.

I'll have a word and tell him we should calm things down at work as well.

Nobody's lecturing you here.

I for one am just stating my opinions that if you need to "calm things down" you REALLY need to have a chat with your GF about your changing sexuality. If you are "changing" (not that there is anything wrong with that) then she deserves to know, IMO.

BTW, why so defensive if it's no big deal???