Lady with a question for the Guys

[Carol53000]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

 

[sfla]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

While I am not a boy (yet), I think the answer to this is pretty universal. Some people like to please. Get pleasure and arousal on getting someone off intimately.

I love cock. Sucking and stroking. Often, I have no interest in having him get off. The feeling and taste of his cock is enough for me.

From talking to some gay male friend, there is also that some guys have a thing for "strait" guys. To "turn" them. So this kind of ad would likely attract "strait" guys, fulfilling that fantasy or arousal point.

 

[moZRMe]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

It's the whole straight guys who crave cock thing. I'm a bit on that boat myself. The act of getting anyone off is still pretty hot in my book, whether it's a guy or not. You get that sense of achievement that you made someone enjoy themselves that much. Also for the mildly curious like myself, who are sort of just starting to poke around with such experiences. At least that's what I think.

I know I would love to wrap my lips around a rock hard cock and suck it till the cows came home, alas doesn't look like it's going to happen any time soon.

 

[none2_none2]

While I am not a boy (yet), I think the answer to this is pretty universal. Some people like to please. Get pleasure and arousal on getting someone off intimately.

I love cock. Sucking and stroking. Often, I have no interest in having him get off. The feeling and taste of his cock is enough for me.

From talking to some gay male friend, there is also that some guys have a thing for "strait" guys. To "turn" them. So this kind of ad would likely attract "strait" guys, fulfilling that fantasy or arousal point.

Realize that pleasing is not as simple as penis (pleasure seeker), mouth/ass/vagina/hand/etc (pleasure giver). There are plenty of "top" people who want the person on the bottom to have a wonderful time. Sure it is difficult to avoid feeling pleasure when your penis is involved, but that isn't always the soul purpose. When I was younger, there was no pleasure greater than feeling a bottom's prostate contract into orgasm while you are inside him. For many guys, once they cum, they find ANYTHING in their ass painful. So you have to pull out and take matters into your own hands so to speak.

I think some enjoy only getting the other guy off because they can do that so many times where as most guys can only get off once before needing a period of rest to replinish the drive. So for instance, a real slutty guy could go to a bathhouse or adult bookstore and go crazy getting off umpteen guys off with his body parts (ass, mouth, hands, etc). As for himself, he could only get off most likely just once (maybe twice if he is younger and really horny). Then he would probably want to just go home. So maybe he does get off, but not until he is with the last guy he wants to be with. Now, a top could do something similar. He could fuck or get sucked for a little while, and then stop and go on to someone else. Usually that happens because the top finds bottom guy not really compatible: maybe the bottom has sharp teeth; maybe he has bad breath or BO. Keep in mind for most tops, the penis comes attached to a heart and mind. It isn't like a dildo that can stay hard on command. If the interest leaves, trying to continue would be like throwing a pity fuck or suck. It just won't work. However, if the top does find a bottom who the chemistry is there, it is almost a personal insult to hold back and say you are not ready to get off for the evening. If it is your cum that he is seeking, to just leave would be a very personal insult.

Those are my past experiences. I've been in a monagamous relationship for years now. It took me a long time (still ongoing) to realize that my partner isn't easy to get off. I have rarely gotten him off before or even at the same time as me. So after I get off, I have to focus on helping him. I have always had the abilty to continue being sexually interested after getting off -- even if I cannot get hard again right away anymore. Many guys simply cannot think sex once they have gotten off. It isn't easy to keep interest after orgasm -- especially as you get older. At least for me, I have found that for sex after bedtime, my natural inclination is to want to cuddle and fall asleep soon after orgasm. However, I fight that urge and focus on whatever he needs to get off. Thank goodness he is ok with that. If he was one of those who simply wants to stop after just after getting ME off, I'd worry about him. Plus I'd feel like a real failiure in the bedroom. They say for prostate health, a guy needs to unload, so one way or another I want his prostate to stay healthy. So I would find it hard to just leave him without him having a draining.

 

[SuZiE69]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

To give pleasure to another person is an incredibly sexy thing to do. You're there only for his pleasure and you'll work hard until you achieve this. And while you're there sucking on his cock you're the centre of his world, this is all that exists, him and you... giving him pleasure... only you can make him cum and you'll keep on at it until you've achieved your goal - then finally you make him cum - you give him pleasure - and you feel happy to have done it and you're rewarded with a yummy mouthful of cum... and it'd be rude to spit so you swallow it then tell him how much you enjoyed it.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The simple answer is that the guy can jack off later thinking about what they did.

Edit-- I mean to say that delayed gratification can be very gratifying.

 

[jackielicker]

The simple answer is that the guy can jack off later thinking about what they did.

Damn, Stella - I don't want to start a flame war with you, but you sure can pour a bucket of cold water over any thread you walk into.

 

[janeyruth]

That's our Stella, putting the poop back in party pooper...

 

[stargame]

The simple answer to this is; It's fun!

 

[infinity706]

I think the idea that sex is entirely for babies or orgasms is kind of shortsighted. You can even have fun, enjoyable sex even if no one involved gets off. Orgasms are great and desirable, but there's so much more you can enjoy from the dominance/submission to intimacy, to the smell/taste/touch/sounds/visual.

 

[Stella_Omega]

What the fuck is wrong with jacking off to your memories of a good time?

I do things all the time that don't get me off right away, but later on give me huge satisfaction.

 

[jackielicker]

I apologize for misreading you. On first read, it seemed blunt and dismissive, but I understand where you were coming from now.

 

[Seamen]

Personally, for me, its more about the relationship dynamic itself. At least for some people (myself included) being used is a huge turn on. Men taking what they want and just being in control is H O T Also, it might be that the bottom might just like being a slut

 

[Carol53000]

Thanks for the replies. I guess I have a greater insight now. Enjoy.

 

[woman_inside]

Personally, for me, its more about the relationship dynamic itself. At least for some people (myself included) being used is a huge turn on. Men taking what they want and just being in control is H O T Also, it might be that the bottom might just like being a slut

Exactly. Being used as a fuckslut is a huge turn-on for some of us.

 

[sterculius]

Regardless of their gender, I derive intense satisfaction in being able to arouse my partner and to cause them to orgasm. The more that I'm able to stimulate them, the more aroused I become. I'm a man, and I delight in making love to women, primarily because of the vicarious enjoyment and the sense of accomplishment that I experience while I'm stimulating them sexually. My very first sexual partner as a young teenager was my very best friend. I quickly discovered that I enjoyed sucking his cock and making him cum in my mouth even more than I liked having him do it to me. On more than one occasion, I got so excited and aroused while I was deepthroating his very big cock that I came without touching myself!!I'm convinced that becoming a cocksucker has been instrumental in making me a better lover with women because it taught me to focus on their escalating responses to my lovemaking.

 

[oxfordsea]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

Not unlike checking out another guy in a swimsuit or underwear. It's a tool, a key to sex if you will. So there's a certain satisfaction and confidence in your understanding what ANY cock wants/needs if you can satisfy one other than your own.

No, I personally have not. But I get the urge and desire.

Feel free to disagree, but I don't think it is at all that different in some women's fantasy to touch, finger, and eat out another woman. Knowing how to satisfy for another woman what you have.

I know what my cock needs, why wouldn't I get what another cock needs. If i'm confident, or interested enough, then why wouldn't I do it.

Different for each person, but that's my take.

Good question.

 

[bluesky496]

I see ads on craigslist for guys wanting to blow or give another guy a handjob but not wanting anything done to or with them. Can I ask what is the pleasure you get from just touching or blowing another person if they don't touch you or somehow "get you off"? This is a question I've had for a long time. Thanks.

i love the act and feeling of submission when i suck another guy off and dressing as a woman most of the time it also makes me feel more feminine and being done myself doesnt actually work for me.x p.m. me if you would like to talk some more ,x

 

[downforce]

Mine is more in line with what Stella said, I can get the person off, then.go home and jack off thinking about how everything went. I like being the use one with a guy because my wife is real submissive, which is great and we always have hot sex. But I like to turn the tables and be told what to do, and the nice load of cum I always ample reward

To me theres not much hotter than being some guys fuck toy, to use me to get him off. Knowing Ican do that for a man turns me on the most.

 

[klippert]

instead of getting into all the Pop. Psychology of it... Think of it like this, One has a better chance of hooking up, if it's a one way street.

A guy is hard up for sex... he's crossed the bridge idea..."heck I'd let a guy suck my willy"... "though, I'm not touching him".... Anonymous free sex.... up pops CL..Hard-up guys problem solved.

the guy with a fetish for sucking cock.... CL his problem solved. Just remember, EVERYONE has a fetish and guys luv there cocks sucked... I know I do.

 

[Afterhours22]

My point of view

It could be that these guys that post those ads are not gay but just want the experience of getting another guy off to fulfill a fetish. I for one would not mind sucking another guy off or giving him a hand job, WHILE I was horny and/turned on. The thing is, if I were to let him reciprocate, after cumming, I would be instantly turned off by the whole thing and would probably regret it, especially if I let them cum in my mouth. Then I would probably get so turned off that I may even get sick. I can't explain it any better than that for their reasoning.