hearing about a better lover

[slowpoking]

I get turned on by the idea of my wife screwing others, and I've always felt perfectly comfortable with that. I love the fact that she enjoys having her pussy stretched by an extra-large dildo, and I've always been clear that part of the attraction was its being bigger than me. Maybe it's easy not being threatened by an inanimate object, and besides, it's so hot to see her in sexual ecstasy.

But there's something beyond that -- something I don't understand as well and something that is a little uncomfortable to admit.

I'd like to hear about her fucking someone and for her to tell me that he's better than me.

Admitting that, I'm immediately compelled to explain some things that my fetish is not. I've read about guys who enjoy being taunted because they have little dicks, who like being dressed up in panties -- or worse yet, diapers. All huge turnoffs for me. I've seen videos of women getting screwed by someone else as they loudly berate their boyfriends or husbands, and I find them depressing. I don't want to be degraded.

But it seems like an exquisite push of the envelope to have her say not just that this other guy was good, but to tell me quietly but frankly that he was better than me, to say almost apologetically that he was so superior -- made her feel so much more satisfied -- that she's going to continue doing him. Maybe she feels she can't help it.

I have't figured out the line of demarcation, and I'm not sure exactly what I like about this. I do know that for me it's intense.

 

[Kudram123]

Am I reading it right, when I think you are not the cuckhold type.

But you are so selfless that you would grant your wife pleasure that you can't provide for her.

Perhaps being with a "better lover" and granting her this is a present to her then, and you like to her your present was well recieved?

 

[MrsWriter]

I get turned on by the idea of my wife screwing others, and I've always felt perfectly comfortable with that. I love the fact that she enjoys having her pussy stretched by an extra-large dildo, and I've always been clear that part of the attraction was its being bigger than me. Maybe it's easy not being threatened by an inanimate object, and besides, it's so hot to see her in sexual ecstasy.

But there's something beyond that -- something I don't understand as well and something that is a little uncomfortable to admit.

I'd like to hear about her fucking someone and for her to tell me that he's better than me.

Admitting that, I'm immediately compelled to explain some things that my fetish is not. I've read about guys who enjoy being taunted because they have little dicks, who like being dressed up in panties -- or worse yet, diapers. All huge turnoffs for me. I've seen videos of women getting screwed by someone else as they loudly berate their boyfriends or husbands, and I find them depressing. I don't want to be degraded.

But it seems like an exquisite push of the envelope to have her say not just that this other guy was good, but to tell me quietly but frankly that he was better than me, to say almost apologetically that he was so superior -- made her feel so much more satisfied -- that she's going to continue doing him. Maybe she feels she can't help it.

I have't figured out the line of demarcation, and I'm not sure exactly what I like about this. I do know that for me it's intense.

So you want your wife to have all the pleasure she can get and a part of you would like to make sure she is getting that pleasure and that she is satisfied. The way to make sure of that is if you talk about it openly. Is that it?

 

[slowpoking]

good in bed

Am I reading it right, when I think you are not the cuckhold type.

But you are so selfless that you would grant your wife pleasure that you can't provide for her.

Perhaps being with a "better lover" and granting her this is a present to her then, and you like to her your present was well recieved?

I do like the idea of this being a gift to her. At least I tell myself that there is an aspect to the sharing that is based on love for her.

But to be honest, I'm not sure that has anything to do with this being a kink for me.

Also, I want to say that it's not that I'm unable to provide her pleasure. I'd like to have sex more often than we do, but I'd say the sex that we have is high quality and almost always very satisfying for both of us. I'm not a Cassanova, and I'm sure I could do some things better, but I have too much pride not to be adept in bed.

And still, there's this other thing....

 

[slowpoking]

not exactly

So you want your wife to have all the pleasure she can get and a part of you would like to make sure she is getting that pleasure and that she is satisfied. The way to make sure of that is if you talk about it openly. Is that it?

That's the thing, this isn't about her. Well, that's not quite right. Obviously there are a lot of things that get all twisted together, and maybe you can't separate them. I love my wife dearly, for lots of reasons, and when we have sex there are lots of things going on and a lot of reasons that I like it. The simple intimacy is wonderful. I also want to give her pleasure (and I do) and of course that's love... blah, blah, blah.

Not saying that stuff isn't important, just that I'm talking now about something else. This fantasy that I have is for me. Let me put it this way. I do everything I can to please her in bed, but if I had a choice to completely satisfy her myself or to have another guy do it and then have her tell me about it, and if I was making this decision purely for selfish reasons, I'd pick the latter hands down because I would find it so arousing.

See what I'm saying?

 

[klippert]

you humiliation

:0 not sure

 

[Kudram123]

So you want your wife to have all the pleasure she can get and a part of you would like to make sure she is getting that pleasure and that she is satisfied. The way to make sure of that is if you talk about it openly. Is that it?

It was not my intention to call you "bad in bed" or anything like that.

But certain things, we have no influence on. The size or shape of our manhood, or perhaps the length and flexibility of our tongue.

Plus, one man is only one man and you cannot specialise in everything.
you might be good with your tongue, while others are gifted with fingers.

And I think, you want your wife to experience it all?

 

[twister947]

I understand. That's exactly how I feel.

 

[MrsWriter]

That's the thing, this isn't about her. Well, that's not quite right. Obviously there are a lot of things that get all twisted together, and maybe you can't separate them. I love my wife dearly, for lots of reasons, and when we have sex there are lots of things going on and a lot of reasons that I like it. The simple intimacy is wonderful. I also want to give her pleasure (and I do) and of course that's love... blah, blah, blah.

Not saying that stuff isn't important, just that I'm talking now about something else. This fantasy that I have is for me. Let me put it this way. I do everything I can to please her in bed, but if I had a choice to completely satisfy her myself or to have another guy do it and then have her tell me about it, and if I was making this decision purely for selfish reasons, I'd pick the latter hands down because I would find it so arousing.

See what I'm saying?

I think so. Let's start again. You want to share your wife. Not because you want to be cuckholded, but because the thought of having another man pleasing her and then her coming up to you and telling you everything in detail turns you on.

Sort of like getting yourself out of the picture for a while and then hearing about it "from a distance"?

I think I get what you're saying but you were right, it's hard to put it into words!

 

[CaliGuy60]

I think so. Let's start again. You want to share your wife. Not because you want to be cuckholded, but because the thought of having another man pleasing her and then her coming up to you and telling you everything in detail turns you on.

Sort of like getting yourself out of the picture for a while and then hearing about it "from a distance"?

I think I get what you're saying but you were right, it's hard to put it into words!

I feel the same way, I would love her to have intense pleasure with another, more than she might get from me, both because the body would be different and the excitement of something new. And I want to hear about every detail of it when I fuck her afterwards.

 

[shesnotcheating]

I get turned on by the idea of my wife screwing others, and I've always felt perfectly comfortable with that. I love the fact that she enjoys having her pussy stretched by an extra-large dildo, and I've always been clear that part of the attraction was its being bigger than me. Maybe it's easy not being threatened by an inanimate object, and besides, it's so hot to see her in sexual ecstasy.

But there's something beyond that -- something I don't understand as well and something that is a little uncomfortable to admit.

I'd like to hear about her fucking someone and for her to tell me that he's better than me.

Admitting that, I'm immediately compelled to explain some things that my fetish is not. I've read about guys who enjoy being taunted because they have little dicks, who like being dressed up in panties -- or worse yet, diapers. All huge turnoffs for me. I've seen videos of women getting screwed by someone else as they loudly berate their boyfriends or husbands, and I find them depressing. I don't want to be degraded.

But it seems like an exquisite push of the envelope to have her say not just that this other guy was good, but to tell me quietly but frankly that he was better than me, to say almost apologetically that he was so superior -- made her feel so much more satisfied -- that she's going to continue doing him. Maybe she feels she can't help it.

I have't figured out the line of demarcation, and I'm not sure exactly what I like about this. I do know that for me it's intense.

So very close to my own fantasy, though in my case I'd be watching. And, while I'd kick his ass if he said anything, I yearn to hear her say, "Oh, honey, I love you so much. But, I never understood what the big deal was about sex until now. His big cock stretches me, fills me, makes sex so much better than it ever was with your little one."

 

[slowpoking]

that's interesting

I think so. Let's start again. You want to share your wife. Not because you want to be cuckholded, but because the thought of having another man pleasing her and then her coming up to you and telling you everything in detail turns you on.

Sort of like getting yourself out of the picture for a while and then hearing about it "from a distance"?

I think I get what you're saying but you were right, it's hard to put it into words!

I hadn't thought of it in terms of distancing. I'll have to chew on that.

 

[slowpoking]

stories about this

Has anyone had any experiences with this that they would care to share? Or, in lieu, read any good stories about it?

Thanks.
Slow

 

[klippert]

humiliation, not a tun on...on the other hand

I'm not turned on one bit by Humiliation. So hearing Mrs K tell me "oh he was so much better" that ain't my twist.

Now hearing about her lovers, and their big cocks or what she did...that is a serious fetish, turn on extraordinarie. I like that. Being humilated Naw Thank you.

 

[shesnotcheating]

It's a thin line

For me, any tale she tells would have to involve someone who is "better" than me. Why else would she be doing it? You see, although I love everything else about my wife, her sexuality is stuck somewhere in the mid-19th century. I was her first, and am her only lover. And sex is a duty, not something she enjoys.

So, I've created this fantasy in which her exposure to a huge cock unleashes the latent slut in her. The sight of it destroys her inhibitions; the feel of it inside her changes her views on sex completely.

So, he's "better", but I benefit by getting a wife willing to try anything in the sexual arena. And the words, "I never knew it could feel so good", herald the arrival of this newly sexual woman, so they're incredibly arousing.

Of course, this is all simply fantasy.

 

[Cherry_Rose]

That's the thing, this isn't about her. Well, that's not quite right. Obviously there are a lot of things that get all twisted together, and maybe you can't separate them. I love my wife dearly, for lots of reasons, and when we have sex there are lots of things going on and a lot of reasons that I like it. The simple intimacy is wonderful. I also want to give her pleasure (and I do) and of course that's love... blah, blah, blah.

Not saying that stuff isn't important, just that I'm talking now about something else. This fantasy that I have is for me. Let me put it this way. I do everything I can to please her in bed, but if I had a choice to completely satisfy her myself or to have another guy do it and then have her tell me about it, and if I was making this decision purely for selfish reasons, I'd pick the latter hands down because I would find it so arousing.

See what I'm saying?

I get what you mean, I like strong, hard sex, and often the things I enjoy others would associate with the humiliation side of sexual play (hair pulling, deep throating, spanking etc), but I'm turned off by humiliation.. so thats clearly not the reason why i enjoy it, hubby never says anything that could be taken as a humiliation either while we're having sex... So I can relate to the idea that one doesn't always lead to the other. Just because you want her to fuck someone with a bigger cock, doesn't mean you want to be humiliated about the fact.

Does the fantasy work, as some other people suggested, with past lovers? or are we talking someone new she meets? because if it works both ways, it might be just about the perception of your wife, there is a dirtiness that comes with knowing she is fucking (and loving it) another man, not because she doesn't love you but because she wants to be stretched and fucked like that, and so in turn that is a turn on for you because you get to know how much it turned her on etc.

Otherwise, if could just be a more developed idea from the toy thing, like you're not thinking about anyone in particular when you picture her fucking someone, just, a random no one? sort of like a giant dildo with a body attached? I'd bet my money you also get turned on by her telling you she has fucked herself with a big toy while you've been at work and what not too...

Just my two cents!

 

[slowpoking]

You're right about the toy. It does turn me on when to hear about her playing with one, although I would much rather see her playing with the big ones. I've written elsewhere about the thrill of seeing her go bonkers getting stretched by something really thick.

But for me the toy thing isn't the same as hearing about her with a real person. Hearing about a past lover would work -- and has -- but someone new would be better. Wonder what that says. Part of it would be the chronological immediacy of it, but I think it's more than that. Not sure I like to admit it, but yeah, it would be hotter to hear about a past lover since our marriage than one from before. I think because the fact that she was willing to go outside the marriage would say something about how good it was.