Ball binding

[CandiCame]

Had my first experience with thls a few days ago & LOVED it. Was wondering if anyone had any tips/tricks/safety issues-especially time-wise. I wanna keep pushing it, but he doesn't want to cause any permenant damage. How long is TO long? Most things say to stop when you start getting discoloration, but that happens so fast with me....

 

[BiBunny]

It depends on how tightly you're doing it and what you're binding them with. But, regardless, I wouldn't go longer than about 15-20 minutes at a time.

 

[reachedme]

I use a boot lace to bind them and I love it and do it for up to 40 minutes with no problem

 

[BeeBeestoy]

It does depend on what you use and how tight you tie them. BeeBee likes to use boot laces or chain. Odveously the chain does a lot of pinching and can leave marks but being shaved and trimed short helps as well as using some lube.
As far as how to tie them she will tie above the boys first pretty tight leaving room to seperate them. Then she tie behind the scrotum tightly and whatever is left goes around the shaft and as far up as she can go. She likes the extra "texture" this gives while she rides me. This is of course not real comfertable for me. She will leave them tied as long as I can handle it then release them and move on to other things.
During other play she will tie them up loosely and leave them for a longer period of time generally with a ribbon or maybe a extra set of handcuffs, just around the back of the scrotum and left to dangle.
The main thing to remember is, know your knots, know for sure you can release them quickly. He'll tell you when things are to tight or when the discomfort has gotten to be to much, respect that and have loads of fun.

 

[CandiCame]

It does depend on what you use and how tight you tie them. BeeBee likes to use boot laces or chain. Odveously the chain does a lot of pinching and can leave marks but being shaved and trimed short helps as well as using some lube.
As far as how to tie them she will tie above the boys first pretty tight leaving room to seperate them. Then she tie behind the scrotum tightly and whatever is left goes around the shaft and as far up as she can go. She likes the extra "texture" this gives while she rides me. This is of course not real comfertable for me. She will leave them tied as long as I can handle it then release them and move on to other things.
During other play she will tie them up loosely and leave them for a longer period of time generally with a ribbon or maybe a extra set of handcuffs, just around the back of the scrotum and left to dangle.
The main thing to remember is, know your knots, know for sure you can release them quickly. He'll tell you when things are to tight or when the discomfort has gotten to be to much, respect that and have loads of fun.

Yeah... it's actually me that's getting bound...
And my dom has made it very clear that I don't get to set my own limits, because when we do that, I hurt myself. I go into sub-space pretty quick and have a pretty big sub fetish... That's the main reason I need a dom- or I'm going to be one of those guys who dies of auto-erotic asphyxiation and my family gets all pissed off at the funeral. And/or accidentally castrates myself, which is what he was afraid of.

We used these leather bondage strips from Hustler- and since neither of us knew much about it, he erred on the safe side- I don't think he was even going to tie it tight enough to cut off the blood flow except I kept rubbing against him and asking him to go tighter. I actually wanted the leather because it tightened up even more when you got it wet and I wanted to see how long I could last...

So yeah, he just looped around at the base, but I LOVE the idea of separating them- and it would have never occurred to me to use chain! Though that does sound like it would pinch a LOT- and I'm not sure I need to be more sore/swollen. But it didn't take long before I started turning purple- which is when he decided to take them off- and after the first one he wouldn't do the actual torture (the smacking/hitting/grabbing/squeezing/ect.) anymore because I was all swollen and he said it, "hurts just looking at you".

Then he put me in the bathtub and came in with a baggie of ice that he kinda smashed down on my swollen balls- with no warning- at least none that I could remember- and that hurt just as much as anything else- it took me a second to figure out that he wasn't still going, he was trying to get the swelling down. He freaked out on me and kept saying that I was going to be hurt- I was like, "No shit- fuck that's cold- fuck that's cold-"

That's something else... If someone has ice on your swollen balls, you really can't think. You can't make it through a sentence in your head. You're like, "Yeah, maybe we should- FUCK THAT'S COLD." Every thought.

But yeah, all through the next day I was still kinda swollen and couldn't get an erection. He was really worried about me and wouldn't go back to binding- no CBT at all (not that we didn't do lots of other fun stuff- Candi fun fact: I can cum without getting an erection). I kept telling him it would be fine... and now it is. So... good for me. But he's really scared of CBT now, so... not good for me. I just wanna show him that it can be safe.

I know it was longer then 20 minutes- it had to be. I think that I just need to get my timing down. I also, for some reason, really like the idea of ribbon. It wouldn't be restricting, but once you're already sore, it would be soooo fucking cute! I could totally pull that off.

I wanted to go really extreme- that kind of intense pain that makes you nautious- that takes the edges off reality until you think you're going to (and possibly do) pass out. He still doesn't seem to really believe me about how far I want to go- or... actually, more likely, he's scared of hurting me. He's never been a dom before (though he's actually pretty good at it, and swears that he's not just doing it for me) so we're kinda of learning together. Neither of us have ever really been with a guy before, either- so... learning on all fronts.

 

[BiBunny]

Eh, 20 minutes is erring on the side of caution, but I'm paranoid about shit like that. I can tell you from experience with having body parts bound (not balls, obviously, but tits) that it's really easy to think 15-20 minutes is, like, 2 hours, LOL.

Have you thought about or tried ponytail holders? If you use the thick ones, the ones with the larger diameter, that don't have any metal on them, they're pretty safe and easy as hell to use.

Not a domme, but I do have a thing for CBT.

 

[CandiCame]

Eh, 20 minutes is erring on the side of caution, but I'm paranoid about shit like that. I can tell you from experience with having body parts bound (not balls, obviously, but tits) that it's really easy to think 15-20 minutes is, like, 2 hours, LOL.

Have you thought about or tried ponytail holders? If you use the thick ones, the ones with the larger diameter, that don't have any metal on them, they're pretty safe and easy as hell to use.

Not a domme, but I do have a thing for CBT.

Wow- I feel like a dumbass for not thinking of that- it's brilliant!

Yeah, I questioned that myself- how long it really was- it's that tattoo pain- where time stops mattering so much. But the soreness lasts for so long that I like to think I can take the binding for a while- I dunno...