The Last Thing You Thought...
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Fish_Tales
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I so wish ....
Mmmm I ...
I am not sure if I disappoint myself more...or if the people I thought I trusted do?
I sometimes think people are correct. I am naive, gullible or maybe simply stupid.
You may well be, but I'd rather be that than the alternative
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You may well be, but I'd rather be that than the alternative
Really?
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She's in bed beside me...her body is so very warm. Now I can relax enough to write.
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Hi LI
Well.....not completely in terms of letting yourself be completely run over. But being positive means sometimes leaving yourself a little open (to me anyway). Not ideal, but I can live with it.
But....if it was a choice of either/or with no shades in between, then yeah - really.
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*hugs a Sirrah*
I should have a reply for you soonish. Then I owe Sasha.
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I'm surprised.
If you're being honest in that regard, Fish, then I'm surprised. I tend to believe most people (if being 100% honest) would take the other shade. Myself included.
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I get told all the time that I'm far too nice. But its all about healthy boundaries. One can be a nice person and still not let themselves get walked all over. Its something the human race in general seems to have forgotten.
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Moderation, obviously, is the choice approach. That wasn't really the question at hand, however.
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It followed along the same lines of being naive or walked over. Seems to me that most people put kindness and naivety in the same boat far too often, when they are two completely different things.
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Being "nice" is often a great cover for a wide variety of unsuitable behaviors. Stupidity, dishonesty, naivety, cowardice, and immaturity are often disguised as "kindness".
That, however, isn't really what the present conversation is about or what I was addressing to Fish. We were addressing which extreme we would choose.
I suppose addressing whether those are the only alternatives is a valid conversation. It seems pretty elementary for me, personally, but if people want to debate that it's fine. I just know what value can be had in that.
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I know what LI is saying - and he's right if we're 100% honest. I was being 100% honest when I said that if it was a black and white choice, then I'd rather be on the naive side because then at least you have a chance at something. No good not trusting anyone! (in my opinion)
However, I'm not totally naive, nor totally nice. Wish I was, but I'm not. Most times it's been for the better in terms of saving my skin or heartbreak, but not always. I have lived through some recent problems where I really don't give a fuck if people want to play games with me - let them - it's to their detriment, not mine.
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LT: What an interesting conversation...
*continues to read*
*continues to read*
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was thinking almost the exact same thing...
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I believe its healthier, and leads to greater happiness, if you put understanding another individual ahead of trusting them.
Trust, in my opinion, is greatly overrated. There is too much implied faith involved for me to really affix a tremendous degree of value to it. I've found that knowing what to expect from people and understanding their motives is a more critical aspect of relationships.
Trust, in my opinion, is greatly overrated. There is too much implied faith involved for me to really affix a tremendous degree of value to it. I've found that knowing what to expect from people and understanding their motives is a more critical aspect of relationships.
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I believe its healthier, and leads to greater happiness, if you put understanding another individual ahead of trusting them.
Trust, in my opinion, is greatly overrated. There is too much implied faith involved for me to really affix a tremendous degree of value to it. I've found that knowing what to expect from people and understanding their motives is a more critical aspect of relationships.
Trust, in my opinion, is greatly overrated. There is too much implied faith involved for me to really affix a tremendous degree of value to it. I've found that knowing what to expect from people and understanding their motives is a more critical aspect of relationships.
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