Almost got the courage to go to a GLBT support group meeting

[StacyCD39]

Damn! There was a GLBT support group meeting last night at the campus of the local college. It was open and free to anyone. I seriously almost went, but I chickened out at the last minute.

Somebody please box me up some courage and send it my way. Please.

I'm just scared to go. I wish I knew someone, so I could go with them and not feel so nervous!

The first step is always the hardest, I suppose!

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Damn! There was a GLBT support group meeting last night at the campus of the local college. It was open and free to anyone. I seriously almost went, but I chickened out at the last minute.

Somebody please box me up some courage and send it my way. Please.

I'm just scared to go. I wish I knew someone, so I could go with them and not feel so nervous!

The first step is always the hardest, I suppose!

Stacy, just remember that everyone else at the support group was probably as nervous as you when they attended their first meeting, They will all understand how you will feel, one of the reasons for attending is to SUPPORT each other through the tough stuff. If you cant find someone to accompany you dont stress.
After your first meeting your only thought will be "why didnt I get the nerve to go sooner". After all, if you dont like it you can always make your excuses and leave, you dont have to stay, if your not comfortable.

There is nothing that can actually happen to you thats bad just by attending.

If it helps, have a relaxing bath, and listen to your favourite chill out music while your getting ready to go. Personally I would avoid any alcohol before going, but reward youself when you get back home after. Concentrating on planning your reward rather than attending, itself will hopefully reduce your nerves.

Good luck, get ya pretty butt down there and let us know how it goes

 

[Phydeax69]

Walk in....sit in the back...listen, and when the spirit moves you...partcipate! If the spirit doesn't move you clam up...but maybe you'll hook up at the very least! ;-)

 

[jackstud]

Go girl

 

[StacyCD39]

Stacy, just remember that everyone else at the support group was probably as nervous as you when they attended their first meeting, They will all understand how you will feel, one of the reasons for attending is to SUPPORT each other through the tough stuff. If you cant find someone to accompany you dont stress.
After your first meeting your only thought will be "why didnt I get the nerve to go sooner". After all, if you dont like it you can always make your excuses and leave, you dont have to stay, if your not comfortable.

There is nothing that can actually happen to you thats bad just by attending.

If it helps, have a relaxing bath, and listen to your favourite chill out music while your getting ready to go. Personally I would avoid any alcohol before going, but reward youself when you get back home after. Concentrating on planning your reward rather than attending, itself will hopefully reduce your nerves.

Good luck, get ya pretty butt down there and let us know how it goes

Thanks, naughty! This is exactly the kind of support I need, and thank you to everyone! Just gotta find that courage!

 

[ProfBoxers]

Speaking as a person who has been on a college campus for awhile, and has talked with a lot of GLBT student, I can tell you that when you find the courage to go (and you will!), you will find that they are ready to accept you with open arms, and provide you a lot of support.

It won't be just students, but teachers, staff and community members too. Perhaps someone you know already goes, but they are too scared to admit it too.

Such a group can be a great source of strength. I know it's a leap of faith to go your first time, but after that, it's almost a relief to know that there are others who have face similar things.

Good luck!

 

[StacyCD39]

Speaking as a person who has been on a college campus for awhile, and has talked with a lot of GLBT student, I can tell you that when you find the courage to go (and you will!), you will find that they are ready to accept you with open arms, and provide you a lot of support.

It won't be just students, but teachers, staff and community members too. Perhaps someone you know already goes, but they are too scared to admit it too.

Such a group can be a great source of strength. I know it's a leap of faith to go your first time, but after that, it's almost a relief to know that there are others who have face similar things.

Good luck!

Thanks Prof! I know there's going to be another one next month, but I don't know when, exactly. I'm already psyching myself up for it! Part of me wants to stand up and declare, once and for all, that I'm transgender. Just finally get it out in the open. I'm sure there's a massive about of liberation there.

The other part of me just wants to sit in the back of the room and pretend I'm there for some school project, or some other lame excuse.

All of this would have been so much easier if I would have just been born with the right body!

 

[ProfBoxers]

Thanks Prof! I know there's going to be another one next month, but I don't know when, exactly. I'm already psyching myself up for it! Part of me wants to stand up and declare, once and for all, that I'm transgender. Just finally get it out in the open. I'm sure there's a massive about of liberation there.

The other part of me just wants to sit in the back of the room and pretend I'm there for some school project, or some other lame excuse.

All of this would have been so much easier if I would have just been born with the right body!

There's still time to feel right, Stacy, and it's okay to take little steps. Sit in on one, then declare to the heavens in the next.

 

[StacyCD39]

There's still time to feel right, Stacy, and it's okay to take little steps. Sit in on one, then declare to the heavens in the next.

I may just have to! It's my dream to live 24/7 as a woman. Completely. I'm not sure how far I could go with transitioning, as it's very expensive, but, if I found a guy that fell in love with me, and could accept me for what I am, I could totally live the rest of my life as a woman. I'm already a woman from the neck up, anyway!

 

[ProfBoxers]

I may just have to! It's my dream to live 24/7 as a woman. Completely. I'm not sure how far I could go with transitioning, as it's very expensive, but, if I found a guy that fell in love with me, and could accept me for what I am, I could totally live the rest of my life as a woman. I'm already a woman from the neck up, anyway!

Well, it may just be words now, but I feel that there is someone for everyone. So the right man is out there for you Stacy, regardless of how far you go underneath physically. It's how you feel emotionally and compose yourself the outside that I feel are most important. Your naughty bits don't make who you are.

 

[StacyCD39]

I know, and I'm slowly coming to peace with it. I just have trouble believing that there's a guy out there who wants to be with another guy who wishes he was a girl, and wants to live as one.

If he wants a woman so badly, wouldn't he just go out and get a real one?

That's the part I have trouble reconciling.

 

[PressNightly]

Hey Stacy, I'm kind of in the same boat you are. I'm really in need of support, both for my GLBT issues and others, but everytime I have the opportunity to seek it out I chicken out in the worst way.

I have a really hard time connecting with people, even my own familly, and I know I need to break the cycle, but at times it seems like there's no way anyone could possibly know, or understand, and so why should I risk my sense of safety, even though I know there's millions of people in the world who feel something similar to the way I do.

No one should have to face stuff like this alone, so I'll tell you what, I'll make you a deal.

I'm going to get on the phone tomorow and find the very next meeting of a support group for my particular issues, and if I can get myself to attend a meeting then you promise me that when next month comes around, you'll muster up the the courage to do the same.

If you want I'll pm you and let you know how it went and I'll be here if you need a pep talk, or just to talk about your fears or anything that comes to mind.

Deal?

 

[PressNightly]

I'm currently chatting with someone who can find me help, let me know if you can help me help myself.

 

[ProfBoxers]

I know, and I'm slowly coming to peace with it. I just have trouble believing that there's a guy out there who wants to be with another guy who wishes he was a girl, and wants to live as one.

If he wants a woman so badly, wouldn't he just go out and get a real one?

That's the part I have trouble reconciling.

I'm a firm believer that love develops largely independent of physical connection. True, that attraction does happen and you need to be physically attracted to your lover/spouse, but ultimately, it's about the inside that count.

(sorry about being a walking cliche)

You are a woman, Stacy. I think anyone who has read your posts here knows that. And there is a man out there to love you, simple as that.

 

[stude_cruiser19]

the Prof has a good point

There is a difference between love and lust, some will lust after you looking for a one nighter, or for a short while, but some will love you for your mental prowess, your thoughts, your own passions and aspirations. At some point, there will not be a sexual connection, but a mental one,where you and another will meld into one commonality. Whether it's driving along Skyline Drive in the Fall to see the color change, or going to a ball game, or a concert, or playing cards, you will find a connection. True, you are physically different than most women ( at this point in time) but mentally you can be the ying to his yang, and you both compliment each other

 

[Stella_Omega]

I know, and I'm slowly coming to peace with it. I just have trouble believing that there's a guy out there who wants to be with another guy who wishes he was a girl, and wants to live as one.

If he wants a woman so badly, wouldn't he just go out and get a real one?

That's the part I have trouble reconciling.

hell, I am a female-bodied male. And I might be happy with a guy-- but only if the guy could approach me as a gay guy. Hetero men love me for the tits on my chest, which are somethign I would love to not have.

meanwhile, I love women and prefer to have sex with them-- but I do not and never will, see myself as a hetero man, even if I magically had perfect penis surgery.

Well, maybe.

Hmm.. magically perfect penis surgery. Now there's a thought.

 

[ProfBoxers]

hell, I am a female-bodied male. And I might be happy with a guy-- but only if the guy could approach me as a gay guy. Hetero men love me for the tits on my chest, which are somethign I would love to not have.

meanwhile, I love women and prefer to have sex with them-- but I do not and never will, see myself as a hetero man, even if I magically had perfect penis surgery.

Well, maybe.

Hmm.. magically perfect penis surgery. Now there's a thought.

I am truly hopeful that there will be a day in the future when medical technology allows anyone to be given the body that they feel comfortable in.

I know the ramifications for such things are far reaching, but I despise the idea that people are born into bodies that don't fit them.

 

[blade_rocknut]

hell, I am a female-bodied male. And I might be happy with a guy-- but only if the guy could approach me as a gay guy. Hetero men love me for the tits on my chest, which are somethign I would love to not have.

meanwhile, I love women and prefer to have sex with them-- but I do not and never will, see myself as a hetero man, even if I magically had perfect penis surgery.

Well, maybe.

Hmm.. magically perfect penis surgery. Now there's a thought.

Well, I don't *love* you.....that's a stong word. I do like you and respect you however......for your brains and balls.

 

[IzzyAndy]

I completely sympathise! In my first term at uni, I went to just one lunchtime meeting, a month after they had started, then sort of ran away. XD Even in the second term, I only went to a couple of events. This year I'll do better!

I agree with whoever it was to said everyone will completely understand how you're feeling! If it's just an AHHH NEW PEOPLE thing then just gird your loins and go for it once, honestly! If it's an "I'm crouching in the closet doorway" sort of thing, then just remind yourself that going to the meetings doesn't stick a label on your forehead!

Good luck! x

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Thanks, naughty! This is exactly the kind of support I need, and thank you to everyone! Just gotta find that courage!

Well your always welcome to PM me, if you have specific concerns, or just want support. I do check my messages daily, even if I dont post everyday, life at the moment, is dragging me into unchartered territory, scary but exhilerating.

 

[StacyCD39]

It truly means so much that everyone is so supportive. From the bottom of my heart, the most sincere thank you to everyone!

I'm psyching myself up for another one. They haven't posted as to when, but I know they have them monthly throughout the school year, so it's just a matter of time. I'm gonna go, I'm really going to go...

I hope!

I also wish I could find a professional to talk to, but with money being the way it is, it's impossible to spend money on something like that. That's another reason I really want to go, in the hopes of finding some kind of help there as well.

This just isn't easy at all, is it?

 

[ProfBoxers]

It truly means so much that everyone is so supportive. From the bottom of my heart, the most sincere thank you to everyone!

I'm psyching myself up for another one. They haven't posted as to when, but I know they have them monthly throughout the school year, so it's just a matter of time. I'm gonna go, I'm really going to go...

I hope!

I also wish I could find a professional to talk to, but with money being the way it is, it's impossible to spend money on something like that. That's another reason I really want to go, in the hopes of finding some kind of help there as well.

This just isn't easy at all, is it?

I'm not sure if all schools are the same, but many offer free counseling, up to a certain number of sessions. I always suggest students to take advantage of it, because those sessions can be a big help.

 

[StacyCD39]

I'm not sure if all schools are the same, but many offer free counseling, up to a certain number of sessions. I always suggest students to take advantage of it, because those sessions can be a big help.

Really? I didn't know that! I'll definitely check into it! Thanks!

 

[ProfBoxers]

Really? I didn't know that! I'll definitely check into it! Thanks!

Anything I can do to help, Stacy. Anytime.

 

[StacyCD39]

Anything I can do to help, Stacy. Anytime.

*hugs*