I like to be submissive if a woman is directing, I like to explore my bi slutty side but I also have a dominant side that I love to let out. I was wondering, as there are a lot of men who enjoy being submissive, do other people have this duality? How does it work for you. My wife loves the fact that I can be both, submissive and sultry or strong and commanding. Love to hear your thoughts, for men and women.
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flameinacorset
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I have the same duality that you do and would really appreciate same in my sexual partner. I haven't really explored either sides, so would be great if my partner was the same as me so we could explore all of this together.
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I'm definately a switch, i love BDSM so much that i couldn't commit myself to a single role. I prefer if my other half is also switch but can play either dom or sub if that is what he/she prefers.
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The ability to switch and explore and take either role with ease is one of the greatest traits for a partner. I love being a switch and finding someone who can easily play both roles, as well a struggle for the top, so that its earned and won not just handed over.
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I want to be dominated, no I want to make you be submissive to me, no wait, idk. hehe
I am a switcher too. Vying for power is the best sex there is, in my opinion anyway.
I am a switcher too. Vying for power is the best sex there is, in my opinion anyway.
Coven911
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mmmm...damn, the kinky perverted thoughts you just brought about! I to am a switch and love the thought of a woman taking my ass!
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My wife loves to roleplay the submissive. She wants to do it nearly every time we have sex. I have to say I'm not really into it, but I find myself having to spank her, call her a slut, and tell her what her 'master' wants from her.
I have had to go online and learn these things and get some scenarios in submissive stories.
Honestly, I don't understand why she just can't be honest and say she just reall wants to be free sexually and fantasize about fucking a lot of people. why do I have to pretend to make her do it???
Deep thoughts, by PartSecond.
CandiCame
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See... I'm the same way- I can't get off if I have to Dom- and my man has the same trouble understanding it you do...
It's not about "not being free", at least for me- it's about relinquishing control. The world is a fucked-up place, and you have to be on your guard, in control, all the fucking time- just to get through the day. You have to worry about a lot of shit, you have to deal with a lot of bullshit- and the only way for me to fully relax is to be able to hand myself off to someone else. That's the only way that I feel free. I don't wanna make my own decisions, goddamn it- because I make bad decisions.
I dunno; I've never been able to switch it up, but I admire folk who can.
They'd just get really bored with me really quickly.
You nailed it there, thats how it is for me a lot of hte time, thats why being sumbissive is so sexy, you can just let go of all the pretence and bs and enjoy...
and now I know there is a name for my topic, switching
JakeLongman
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i must be bi as well...
That is, I can fantasize about being the sub and the dom, depending on the situation.
My wife will play along in bed and talk about fucking dominant men in front of me. That's very hot, but its all talk. We will probably never find a "real man" to do it with. But my years of fantasizing have made me realize exactly what the "dom" male should do with a married couple. I think I would be an awesome cuck stud, because I know what pussy boys want to hear.
That is, I can fantasize about being the sub and the dom, depending on the situation.
My wife will play along in bed and talk about fucking dominant men in front of me. That's very hot, but its all talk. We will probably never find a "real man" to do it with. But my years of fantasizing have made me realize exactly what the "dom" male should do with a married couple. I think I would be an awesome cuck stud, because I know what pussy boys want to hear.
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I have a dom and sub side in fantasies, but often in the sub side, I'm a 'girl'. So my 'dom' side is male, sub is female. Brad or Brandy. lol
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See... I'm the same way- I can't get off if I have to Dom- and my man has the same trouble understanding it you do...
It's not about "not being free", at least for me- it's about relinquishing control. The world is a fucked-up place, and you have to be on your guard, in control, all the fucking time- just to get through the day. You have to worry about a lot of shit, you have to deal with a lot of bullshit- and the only way for me to fully relax is to be able to hand myself off to someone else. That's the only way that I feel free. I don't wanna make my own decisions, goddamn it- because I make bad decisions.
I dunno; I've never been able to switch it up, but I admire folk who can.
They'd just get really bored with me really quickly.
Total switch here. When I feel submissive, I like the other person to take complete control. I don't want to have to think, damn it!
When I'm dominant, I want you to give up all control. Not because I can take, but that you can give, without really having to give.
Hope that makes sense.
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its great
My wife has had me sucking cock for years she demands it controls it provides it and is always coming up with something new it always gets better
My wife has had me sucking cock for years she demands it controls it provides it and is always coming up with something new it always gets better
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Switch indeed
Yeah, I'm not sure which side I'm on. A few years ago it was on the submissive side, but the pendulum is headed back the other way.
The stories I've posted here are probably stronger when i write from a submissive standpoint, but they only represent what I write when I'm in a funk, and are from a few years ago. The dominant stories are more about balanced kinky fun than being The Merciless Master... I just want sweet, hot fun between two people who are both into it.
My GF and I recently figured out we match up kink-wise. She likes the idea of being tied up, and I like the idea of tying her to the bed and fucking her. I ordered some restraints today.
Last weekend I put her in a cheesy pair of toy handcuffs, sat her in a chair, laced my fingers into her hair and fucked her in the mouth. That was fun. When we talked about it later we both agreed it was pretty hot (for both of us).
Here's why I used "Search" to find this thread though -- how about the psychology of dom/sub relationships? After a few minutes in the chair II stood her up then pushed her face down on the bed. I didn't really have a plan or a scenario in mind, and I lost focus, lost my hard-on, and we spent the next hour and a half playing around in a totally non-kinky fashion. Which was also fun.
But it makes me wonder if I need a well-planned scenario to do this stuff. Improvising was kind of a big fail. This time. We'll play around some more, it will probably get better.
Any thoughts, folks?
Yeah, I'm not sure which side I'm on. A few years ago it was on the submissive side, but the pendulum is headed back the other way.
The stories I've posted here are probably stronger when i write from a submissive standpoint, but they only represent what I write when I'm in a funk, and are from a few years ago. The dominant stories are more about balanced kinky fun than being The Merciless Master... I just want sweet, hot fun between two people who are both into it.
My GF and I recently figured out we match up kink-wise. She likes the idea of being tied up, and I like the idea of tying her to the bed and fucking her. I ordered some restraints today.
Last weekend I put her in a cheesy pair of toy handcuffs, sat her in a chair, laced my fingers into her hair and fucked her in the mouth. That was fun. When we talked about it later we both agreed it was pretty hot (for both of us).
Here's why I used "Search" to find this thread though -- how about the psychology of dom/sub relationships? After a few minutes in the chair II stood her up then pushed her face down on the bed. I didn't really have a plan or a scenario in mind, and I lost focus, lost my hard-on, and we spent the next hour and a half playing around in a totally non-kinky fashion. Which was also fun.
But it makes me wonder if I need a well-planned scenario to do this stuff. Improvising was kind of a big fail. This time. We'll play around some more, it will probably get better.
Any thoughts, folks?
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SubmissiveBrat
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I am very submissive but only to one strong enough to conquer me
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I'm definately a switch (in my fantasies at least). I love the idea of being dominated by a woman just as much as I like the idea of pinning her down and having my way with her! But in my bi fantasies, I'm usually passive.
