Slut as a lifestyle.

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Originally Posted by redheadedtxn View Post
Purely by word of mouth. I don't need to advertise.

Fortunately for me, I have friends in all the right places.

Thanks, corporate America

I am guessing that I did not read your posts carefully enough,
or follow your threads closely enough-

I am guessing that I have misunderstood what kind of choices that you have made.

(I had hopes that men were so enlightened in 2011, and women were so comfortable with their sexuality,
that everyone involved was able to cope with having multiple, simultaneous boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.)
Polyamory, but without the commitment and dependency issues?

That does not mean that I disapprove. It's your body and your life and your choice.

- I took some classes from a woman who did sell her time and the "sharing" of her body.
- She told us all a story about spending some intimate time with her client.
- She told us that she exhibited signs that she was enjoying herself during the session with her client.
- Her client was surprised about this fact.
- Her client asked her point blank, if she was enjoying herself during the session.
-She told him that she did.
- He said to her-"In that case, maybe you should be paying me."

(I have no idea, if this was a joke, or if this happens all of the time, in Real Life.)

 

[richard_daily]

I dunno, I'm pretty damn happy. Talk away, how stupid are the ones that succumb? They should be way more ashamed.

If shame factors in.

To me, it's totally win/win.

Welcome to 2011, I hold all the cards.

You're talking to a woman who is miserable, and wants to take it out on you for DARING to be happy.

Red, You have to do what makes you happy in life... It's way too short to be stuck into something that you don't feel right about, or that makes you feel any less than absolutely alive...

Being a slut can be a liberating and extremely enjoyable experience... and as long as you're honest with everyone, you aren't harming anyone.

 

[Fabala]

You don't know as much about it as you pretend to. I know it probably won't prevent you from blathering on about sex work in the day-to-day but wanted to point it out.

I know a bit more about it than you would imagine.

On the surface this sounds good, but it's really an insipid analogy. What are you trying to say? Care to break it down? Is sex victimizing or painful for women by definition, (like....slavery or waitressing)?

No. Sex is wonderful and fun and sometimes boring and safe and sometimes edgy and freaky and all kinds of awesome.

I'm a bit confused about your conflation of slavery and waitressing.

It's such a weird thing to say too. Do you really see waitresses as glorified slaves? What about nurses, them too? Accountants crunching other people's numbers all day? Lawyers, married to the firm? All victims too? By your logic anyone/everyone probably is, but what you're trying to say isn't really based on logic is it?

And here I was thinking it was a relatively simple point.

When someone else is paying YOU to perform a SERVICE for them, YOU are not the one in control. Convincing yourself otherwise is, well, living in denial. It doesn't matter WHAT the service is.

I'm quite good at my job. I've got a lot of experience, a shitload of natural talent in my chosen professional area, and I've made myself very valuable to my employers. They pay me quite well for the services I offer them, and for my talents and skills.

And while that's great, it does not translate to me having control over my employment.

I do not "hold the cards".

It's the same reason I never would have tried for alimony when I divorced. Accepting money from my ex as payment for staying married to him for so long would have extended his perceived control over me.

And christ, "super sad" what are you 15?

Yes. I joined Lit when I was 5. Don't tell Laurel and Manu.

 

[richard_daily]

You're a whore?

Seriously?

You're jealous?

Seriously?

 

[redheadedtxn]

You're talking to a woman who is miserable, and wants to take it out on you for DARING to be happy.

Red, You have to do what makes you happy in life... It's way too short to be stuck into something that you don't feel right about, or that makes you feel any less than absolutely alive...

Being a slut can be a liberating and extremely enjoyable experience... and as long as you're honest with everyone, you aren't harming anyone.

Very liberating.

Never in my life have I ever felt so free and at ease with life. People are way too hung up on appearances and some Puritan idea of right and wrong.

 

[redheadedtxn]

I know a bit more about it than you would imagine.



No. Sex is wonderful and fun and sometimes boring and safe and sometimes edgy and freaky and all kinds of awesome.

I'm a bit confused about your conflation of slavery and waitressing.



And here I was thinking it was a relatively simple point.

When someone else is paying YOU to perform a SERVICE for them, YOU are not the one in control. Convincing yourself otherwise is, well, living in denial. It doesn't matter WHAT the service is.

I'm quite good at my job. I've got a lot of experience, a shitload of natural talent in my chosen professional area, and I've made myself very valuable to my employers. They pay me quite well for the services I offer them, and for my talents and skills.

And while that's great, it does not translate to me having control over my employment.

I do not "hold the cards".

It's the same reason I never would have tried for alimony when I divorced. Accepting money from my ex as payment for staying married to him for so long would have extended his perceived control over me.



Yes. I joined Lit when I was 5. Don't tell Laurel and Manu.

I do. I choose to do what I want to do. If I don't want to spend time with someone? I don't. I have it in my power to say No.

 

[richard_daily]

Very liberating.

Never in my life have I ever felt so free and at ease with life. People are way too hung up on appearances and some Puritan idea of right and wrong.

What's so ironic, is the places you can find these puritanical party poopers...




I'm glad that you're finding your way... So few people are willing to overcome their fears and do what they really want.

 

[richard_daily]

I do. I choose to do what I want to do. If I don't want to spend time with someone? I don't. I have it in my power to say No.

I think that people are making the mistake that you're some sort of street walker.

 

[redheadedtxn]

What's so ironic, is the places you can find these puritanical party poopers...




I'm glad that you're finding your way... So few people are willing to overcome their fears and do what they really want.

Thank you

I fully expected to get certain reactions from certain folks.

 

[redheadedtxn]

I think that people are making the mistake that you're some sort of street walker.

yeah. I'm not.

 

[Saint Peter]

I like red.

I plan on only charging her half of my retail rate.

 

[redheadedtxn]

I like red.

I plan on only charging her half of my retail rate.

hooray!

 

[richard_daily]

Thank you

I fully expected to get certain reactions from certain folks.

Well in that case, so that I'm not disappointing...




Make sure you post pictures!

 

[Fabala]

I do. I choose to do what I want to do. If I don't want to spend time with someone? I don't. I have it in my power to say No.

And if they weren't paying you for the pleasure of your company, would you still be "spending time" with them?

This:

HAHAHAHHA!!!!!!

That is so damn funny. Grumpy guy enjoys watching me with the hitachi. Sure, I can cum from that, but---it's because I've got my eyes closed and I'm fantasizing about TMWFM.

Sweet guy - well, he's got a rescue complex. I fear he wants to save me.

Doesn't sound like someone who is doing things just because she "wants" to. Sure, I'll allow that I could be wrong. It makes no personal difference to me whatsoever. I moved beyond my history a bit differently than you've chosen to, but not without going through the same place you're describing now.

I no longer choose to please someone (like Grumpy guy) by behaving in a sexual manner that makes me have to close my eyes and mentally be somewhere else/with someone else in order to achieve a feeling of pleasure.

*shrug* Enjoy.

 

[Killswitch]

You're jealous?

Seriously?

No, I just never knew she did did those things for money.

 

[richard_daily]

No, I just never knew she did did those things for money.

We all do things for money.

 

[redheadedtxn]

And if they weren't paying you for the pleasure of your company, would you still be "spending time" with them?

This:



Doesn't sound like someone who is doing things just because she "wants" to. Sure, I'll allow that I could be wrong. It makes no personal difference to me whatsoever. I moved beyond my history a bit differently than you've chosen to, but not without going through the same place you're describing now.

I no longer choose to please someone (like Grumpy guy) by behaving in a sexual manner that makes me have to close my eyes and mentally be somewhere else/with someone else in order to achieve a feeling of pleasure.

*shrug* Enjoy.

Nope. I do it purely because I want to. The money is part of the want to. If I didn't want to, I wouldn't. Simple.

Plus, I kinda like feeling slutty sometimes.

 

[Saint Peter]

No, I just never knew she did did those things for money.

How much do you charge to dress up as a woman and prance around in powder blue tights?

 

[Killswitch]

How much do you charge to dress up as a woman and prance around in powder blue tights?

For you? I'll do you for free sweetcheeks.

Pm me.

 

[redheadedtxn]

come ON y'all....

Technically speaking, almost everything we do, we do for a payoff.

You think the woman you're dating is going to put out if you've not put out cash for dinner, drinks, gifts, etc? How about a housewife? She doesn't work, and a man provides all of her needs and money? (and no, not a talking about a woman with small children that she's raising full time - different story)

 

[Saint Peter]

For you? I'll do you for free sweetcheeks.

Pm me.

I will pay your the regular rate if you mow my grass while you are at it.


Watch out for the dog shit.

 

[Killswitch]

I will pay your the regular rate if you mow my grass while you are at it.


Watch out for the dog shit.

I'm not wearing those spike heels you like while I mow.

 

[richard_daily]

You think the woman you're dating is going to put out if you've not put out cash for dinner, drinks, gifts, etc? How about a housewife? She doesn't work, and a man provides all of her needs and money? (and no, not a talking about a woman with small children that she's raising full time - different story)

THe woman I'm dating had better realize that I'm not paying for dinner because I expect something out of her... it's because I enjoy going out to dinner and want to buy something for her. I don't do it in anticipation or expectation of anything... In fact, most of the women I expect something from in a sexual manner, I have been very upfront with about that.

If I want a dirty slut who I can drag into an ally and molest... I'll be VERY up front about that, and I won't be buying dinner ahead of time... Unless I want her to get dressed up and look pretty before I rough her up a little.



As for the housewife, I've only fucked a few of those... so I can't say I have all that much experience with them.

 

[richard_daily]

I'm not wearing those spike heels you like while I mow.

You've sort of developed a sense of humor and a personality over the last couple of years...

I have to admit that I'm a little shocked.

 

[redheadedtxn]

THe woman I'm dating had better realize that I'm not paying for dinner because I expect something out of her... it's because I enjoy going out to dinner and want to buy something for her. I don't do it in anticipation or expectation of anything... In fact, most of the women I expect something from in a sexual manner, I have been very upfront with about that.

If I want a dirty slut who I can drag into an ally and molest... I'll be VERY up front about that, and I won't be buying dinner ahead of time... Unless I want her to get dressed up and look pretty before I rough her up a little.



As for the housewife, I've only fucked a few of those... so I can't say I have all that much experience with them.

heh heh heh

I wonder...that statement really makes think. It's odd that TMWFM and I don't go out very often, yet If he snaps his fingers I'm there on my knees. I'd do anything sexually with and for this man. I adore him to pieces and I don't care "what he does for me".