Fetish Bachelorette Party?

[KoPilot]

SITUATION: My fiance will be enjoying his, but I won't be enjoying mine so much. I don't find male strippers particularly hot, just funny, because my sexuality is so convoluted and I need some semblance of fetish fuel to get my blood pumping. I've also seen countless naked men during my years in art school, so they have to work extra hard for me to be even remotely interested now.

PROBLEM: I want to enjoy my bachelorette party.

SOLUTION #1: Do I petition all the various friends and family members (who would readily throw a party on my behalf without me) for a fet-fuel party? This would result in coming out of all kinds of closets to them. Could potentially squick some out, or make some angry.

SOLUTION #2: Throw two parties. Vanilla for friends and family, kinky one for close friends. This would involve coming out to fewer people. No hiring of costly strippers involved; mostly just downloading movies I find hot and watching them, I think. Perhaps with a cake made to look like a giant robot cock. Also booze.

SOLUTION #3: Do neither. Suck it up, and get wasted so I don't even have to remember how disappointing my own party was by the time it's over. Get over ensuing jealousy from the fact that my fiance had a much better time than me.

Thoughts?

 

[Debbie920]

Well I have no idea why I'm reading this as I have nothing in common with your problem but I was always told to be honest.

 

[Social Dark]

SITUATION: My fiance will be enjoying his, but I won't be enjoying mine so much. I don't find male strippers particularly hot, just funny, because my sexuality is so convoluted and I need some semblance of fetish fuel to get my blood pumping. I've also seen countless naked men during my years in art school, so they have to work extra hard for me to be even remotely interested now.

PROBLEM: I want to enjoy my bachelorette party.

SOLUTION #1: Do I petition all the various friends and family members (who would readily throw a party on my behalf without me) for a fet-fuel party? This would result in coming out of all kinds of closets to them. Could potentially squick some out, or make some angry.

SOLUTION #2: Throw two parties. Vanilla for friends and family, kinky one for close friends. This would involve coming out to fewer people. No hiring of costly strippers involved; mostly just downloading movies I find hot and watching them, I think. Perhaps with a cake made to look like a giant robot cock. Also booze.

SOLUTION #3: Do neither. Suck it up, and get wasted so I don't even have to remember how disappointing my own party was by the time it's over. Get over ensuing jealousy from the fact that my fiance had a much better time than me.

Thoughts?

Ok, yeah i'm a guy, but i think solution 2 is the way to go.

 

[leyna]

Door #2! Door #2!
A close friend just had to do something similar:
A tame gathering for the big group and an "after-party" for those inclined.

 

[seela]

Does your bachelorette party have to get your blood pumping in a sexual way? Could it be something else altogether and not have anything to do with sex, so that you wouldn't feel disappointed by the vanilla strippers, penis pasta and candy undies and what nots?

Just hang out with your friends and family, good food, good times, thrills of non-sexual kinds. I mean, you could do anything you want to from spas to sky diving and bungee jumping.

I don't know what bachelor/ette parties are like over there, maybe the sex stuff is the default. Maybe it's something you absolutely want. Nothing wrong with it, I just thought I'd say that you could get your blood pumping in some other ways, as well.

 

[cfuhrer]

Solution the fourth-

Throw a co-party with the future hubbs.

There could be boys and girls in attendance.
There could be boys and girls entertaining.
There could be tons of booze
There could be a cake of a robot cock nestled between robot boobs (you would roll your eyes and gasp then ask in mock exasperation which of *his* friends thought that up)
And you and your man could throw each other knowing glances all night.
You would have fun
He would have fun
And all of his friends would wonder why you were getting tons of hot lap dances from the dancing girls.
(Obviously I'm functioning on the assumption you and future hubbs are having all kinds of fun in the closet together)

 

[HottieMama]

Either #2 or the completely different option of having the most awesomely tacky bachelorette party EVER...nothing realistic....just good, tacky, off the wall fun...

 

[the captians wench]

Does your bachelorette party have to get your blood pumping in a sexual way? Could it be something else altogether and not have anything to do with sex, so that you wouldn't feel disappointed by the vanilla strippers, penis pasta and candy undies and what nots?

Just hang out with your friends and family, good food, good times, thrills of non-sexual kinds. I mean, you could do anything you want to from spas to sky diving and bungee jumping.

I don't know what bachelor/ette parties are like over there, maybe the sex stuff is the default. Maybe it's something you absolutely want. Nothing wrong with it, I just thought I'd say that you could get your blood pumping in some other ways, as well.

This was my thought.

My ex sister in law had two parties. One was a bridal shower and one was a bachelorette party. The shower was a fun sweet little party. Nothing sexy about it really. Her other party was a group of friends at a bar with some sort of scavenger hunt.

My sister in law was simular. One party for family, grandmas, moms, that sort of thing. We played games, finger sandwiches, presents, etc. And then a wild party later.

Personally I've never seen the apeal of bachelorette parties, but I'm shy and I'm not into porn or stripers. *shrug* Now if some one wanted to just take me out with a bunch of friends and get me drunk and a gift certificate to an adult store, that would be cool, but I'd feel cheated with out a hoity toity shower. But that's me.

 

[KoPilot]

Oh wow, good ideas guys!

Hmmmmm.

@seela: Shit, those are good ideas. It didn't even occur to me than it could be more than just strippers or nothing. That spa idea sounds really great. D:

@cfuhrer: While I love the all-inclusive idea, I'm kind of... environmentally hypersensitive/vigilant and it would probably take more alcohol than I'd like in order to get me to relax during a crazy party like that.

@wenchie: Those are good ideas, too. And haha I think you and I are on pretty similar pages about the whole thing.

I think I'll do some kind of combination between 2, 3, and a mix of yall's suggestions. Thanks!

PS- How in the hell would a hands-off kink bachelorette party work anyways? Now I'd like to hear your ideas on THAT, lol!

 

[the captians wench]

PS- How in the hell would a hands-off kink bachelorette party work anyways? Now I'd like to hear your ideas on THAT, lol!

Honestly, I wouldn't know how to do it in the mind frame of getting hot and bothered, but I do have ideas for so tacky and silly it's amusing.

 

[cfuhrer]

This was my thought.

My ex sister in law had two parties. One was a bridal shower and one was a bachelorette party. The shower was a fun sweet little party. Nothing sexy about it really. Her other party was a group of friends at a bar with some sort of scavenger hunt.

To me the bridal shower and the bachlorette party aretwo very different animals and I would want both, too.

Bridal shower is for family, co-workers, and the like.
Bachlorette party is one last hurrah for me and my closest, who are pretty well in tune with my kink anyway.

 

[cfuhrer]

Oh wow, good ideas guys!

I think I'll do some kind of combination between 2, 3, and a mix of yall's suggestions.

Congratulations on your upcoming numptuals(sp)!

 

[the captians wench]

To me the bridal shower and the bachlorette party aretwo very different animals and I would want both, too.

Bridal shower is for family, co-workers, and the like.
Bachlorette party is one last hurrah for me and my closest, who are pretty well in tune with my kink anyway.

I can understand why others might enjoy such things, but I never did understand the point in bachlorette parties. They just don't apeal to me.

I would how ever apreciate some one taking me for a drink why he went off and had his fun for the night. Not to say I would turn down a group of friends if they wanted to do more. But i'd be beat red the whole time.

 

[BiBunny]

You know, I never thought of bachelorette parties in terms of strippers and all that stuff. I always just thought of it as more like a night out with friends, drinking, dancing, or whatever appeals to you. I honestly thought they only did the stripper thing in movies, LOL.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I'm glad plenty of people have already said what I think: Why does it have to be sexy/blood pumping? You should just have fun, however the hell you want to have fun ^_^

 

[chaoticDeviance]

If I ever got married again for some UNGODLY reason, I would definitely want 2 parties. A bridal shower so my family could ooh and aah that I had finally decided to "settle down and have kids" (yea right) and a party for my closest friends. All like 3 of them! Then again, the only people that don't REALLY know about my KINKness is my family. I am pretty open with anyone else that cares to listen cuzzzz I just don't care.

But yea, bachelorette parties are meant to be pure fun. A night of singing to loud, drinking to much and forgetting why you are giggling so hard. Mostly so all the Princess's of the world can go out and be obnoxious so that they may attain the attention of everyone within screaming distance. (I am not saying you are obnoxious by any means, but I know for a fact I would be cuz I'm a Princess.)