advice about my cat. i promise, it relates.

[Alicechurchill]

Thank you for reading this....
Here is my quick story. Circumstances force me to choose between declawing my cat and boarding him with my partner for a few months. I would visit often. My cat has never experienced me in a D/s relationship. Does such activity affect a cat? I do not know what to do. Or is this question just crazy?

 

[seela]

Thank you for reading this....
Here is my quick story. Circumstances force me to choose between declawing my cat and boarding him with my partner for a few months. I would visit often. My cat has never experienced me in a D/s relationship. Does such activity affect a cat? I do not know what to do. Or is this question just crazy?

Ours tends to hide in the sauna, if there's some activity going on that causes loud noise. And even if it isn't necessarily loud, she doesn't seem to care for any hitting and leaves the room, if it happens. Other than that she doesn't seem to care one way or another. She is, though, very curious about sex in general and likes to stare when something like that happens. Talk about a mood kill.

I've heard of people having trouble with dogs in these circumstances, especially if the owner is the one being mishandled. But I don't think I've ever heard of cats or other animals being talked about in this context.

 

[Stella_Omega]

don't declaw your cat, that's a misnomer. What they do, actually, is amputate each toe to the second knuckle. Your cat will walk in pain for the rest of her life.

here's the nicest link I could find-- diagrams instead of photos; http://maxshouse.com/Truth About Declawing.htm

My cats leave the room when heavy sex occurs, except for the ones that don't give a fuck

 

[Mz_Cunningham]

I used to have a cat that would still try and sit on one of our chests during sex

My advice, cats tend to cope pretty well left to their own devices, if they don't like something they will leave the room...and return when they're hungry

 

[minx1]

Mine tends to watch the sex until she either gets fed up or until she thinks she is too close for comfort and is likely to get whacked by a leg or something.

she has tried to help with the rope during a punishment too

 

[DVS]

Thank you for reading this....
Here is my quick story. Circumstances force me to choose between declawing my cat and boarding him with my partner for a few months. I would visit often. My cat has never experienced me in a D/s relationship. Does such activity affect a cat? I do not know what to do. Or is this question just crazy?

Do NOT declaw a cat. That basically deforms the paws for life. You can clip the claws short, but if a cat is use to having claws and you clip them, you will have a confused cat falling off of things, because it expects its claws to assist.

A lot of animals don't like loud noises or a lot of activity by humans. They will usually get out of the way, or just leave the room. But you mentioned declawing so that makes me think your cat gets aggressive in some way during this activity.

I wish you would get more specific about what is going on, because, while I won't say all animals will react the same, most will. But to give viable advice, we need details of what is happening.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I can't speak for cats, but my rabbit either ignores my sexual activities entirely, or comes up to investigate what the heck I'm doing. Which I don't really appreciate

As for the declawing, I'd think really hard about how forceful those circumstances are. For the reasons stated above, declawing is not a recommended procedure any more and some vets these days outright refuse to do it. The only time that I find it to be justified is if, literally, everything else has been tried. And there are a lot of things to try! The fact that the other option for you seems to be to board it elsewhere for a few months implies to me that it's not at the stage where the cat should be declawed.

I think that you should ignore the opinion of your cat regarding your BDSM activities and board him with your partner. If the cat disapproves, he can always leave the room, eh?

 

[Keroin]

Declawing is inhumane. As blueeyes said, it is only justifiable when the only other option is euthanasia. If you wouldn't kill your cat, don't declaw him/her.

I was a veterinary assistant for five years. I have seen the procedure done. It is barbaric and painful.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm happy to see so many cat lovers that know it's horrible to declaw!

 

[Roughtrader]

Don't de-claw it, that's just cruel.

As to your other worries, it's a cat. If you feed it, it will stick around and act lovingly. If you don't, it will wander off and find somebody who will.

That's why I love cats. Dogs are so needy

 

[BiBunny]

I'm happy to see so many cat lovers that know it's horrible to declaw!

It also renders a cat incapable of ever really going outside because it has no way of defending itself, which I also think is horrible. They oughta be able to go out, at least occasionally, even if it's with supervision. Besides, what if your situation changes, and you have to get rid of the cat? Someone who might otherwise give him/her a good home might not be able to because the cat's ability to be outside at all has been taken away.

 

[rekane]

Have you tried cat nail caps? I have heard they work well.

 

[djhindy]

I think its great your concerned about your cat. I love animals. ^^ It should be fine though. If anything, it will be bothered more about moving to your Bf's house than your activities.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

It also renders a cat incapable of ever really going outside because it has no way of defending itself, which I also think is horrible. They oughta be able to go out, at least occasionally, even if it's with supervision. Besides, what if your situation changes, and you have to get rid of the cat? Someone who might otherwise give him/her a good home might not be able to because the cat's ability to be outside at all has been taken away.

*wince* from a medical standpoint, there's a whole slew of concerns if cats go outside. Most of them are in regards to parasites, and then there's the concerns regarding vehicles and other animals...not to mention the threat from neighbors who don't appreciate cats using their yard as a litter box. I have no particular problem with outdoor cats, but I also know that most outdoor cats don't have proper and regular parasite prevention... It sounds like nothing, but if a cat gets heartworm, it's practically a death sentence. The risk of injury is also a huge flag for me. Supervised play time is fine, but full-time outdoor cats are just a huge worry for me!

But yah, that's also a very good reason not to declaw a cat. Even if you don't let the cat out intentionally, it might escape.

I love how off the topic all of us always get. It makes conversations so much more interesting

 

[BiBunny]

*wince* from a medical standpoint, there's a whole slew of concerns if cats go outside. Most of them are in regards to parasites, and then there's the concerns regarding vehicles and other animals...not to mention the threat from neighbors who don't appreciate cats using their yard as a litter box. I have no particular problem with outdoor cats, but I also know that most outdoor cats don't have proper and regular parasite prevention... It sounds like nothing, but if a cat gets heartworm, it's practically a death sentence. The risk of injury is also a huge flag for me. Supervised play time is fine, but full-time outdoor cats are just a huge worry for me!

But yah, that's also a very good reason not to declaw a cat. Even if you don't let the cat out intentionally, it might escape.

I love how off the topic all of us always get. It makes conversations so much more interesting

I was actually meaning in regards to just going outside occasionally for a cat that's been indoors its whole life. But, yeah, there are some situations where they have to live outside. We adopt stray cats at our barn for mouse control, but we do keep the parasite control up.

I still say it's better to be an outside cat than a poor, starving stray or dead.

 

[intothewoods]

It also renders a cat incapable of ever really going outside because it has no way of defending itself, which I also think is horrible. They oughta be able to go out, at least occasionally, even if it's with supervision. Besides, what if your situation changes, and you have to get rid of the cat? Someone who might otherwise give him/her a good home might not be able to because the cat's ability to be outside at all has been taken away.

That's why I hadn't ever thought about declawing. I had no idea it was painful too!

This post must be a joke, but that's cool. I'm fairly certain I could be hanging from the ceiling by my toes, simultaneously beaten and fucked in the ass, screaming my head off and my cat's only concern would be when am I available again to scratch his head.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I was actually meaning in regards to just going outside occasionally for a cat that's been indoors its whole life. But, yeah, there are some situations where they have to live outside. We adopt stray cats at our barn for mouse control, but we do keep the parasite control up.

I still say it's better to be an outside cat than a poor, starving stray or dead.

Yah, barn cats are a different story, although of any cats, those need the parasite control the most!! An outside cat is def. better than being poor or starving or dead...but a poorly cared for outside cat isn't much different than a stray!

 

[FurryFury]

I agree that indoor cats generally live longer, healthier lives. Most of the people in my neighborhood seem to think all cats should be allowed outdoors. I don't agree at all.

I do agree that a life as a cared for outdoor cat is better than a life as an uncared for cat.

 

[Ellafun]

Heartily agree not to declaw. We have three cats (two adopted as strays, and one kitten who was born to one of those strays). All three have claws, and all have destroyed (so far) three of our window screens so that they could get out. So although we attempted to keep them indoors, they decided otherwise. And I guess I was too much of a p*ssy to fight them about it (pun intended, of course!)

Also agree that the cat probably couldn't care less about your sexual activity, but would react to being boarded somewhere else. I don't know...maybe you could put the cat outside the room, and close the door? It works for kids....most of the time, anyway!

 

[Etoile]

It's not a crazy question. I can't imagine it would affect him much, though. My cats sometimes come in, look at us, and leave. Then again, sometimes they come in, look at us, and stay. But sometimes they come in, ignore us, and stay. They really don't seem to mind at all.

I can't imagine any situation that would justify declawing a cat!

 

[Alicechurchill]

Thank you all so much. No, this is not a joke. For a time, I have to live with my folks, and they would require declawing. Because I do not want to declaw, my partner has offered to board my baby until I can find my own place. He is not aggressive or destructive. He is however very attached to me, and is sensitive to my moods. He has never been around during sexual activity and I was not sure how he might react. I really appreciate everyone 's thoughts and knowing I am thinking in the right direction. I hate the idea of being without him, but I really cannot stomach declawing.

 

[Etoile]

Sounds like moving him with your partner is a great solution!