I really couldn't think of a clever title so this must suffice- Concerning BDSM Relat

[LaisCrisas]

Concerning BDSM Relationships and the means by which they are formed...

Okay, this is probably a question that should be posted as a poll. I was not sure but, after much vacillation, decided to just go with the standard post.

It seems that one of the most notable aspects of BDSM relationships is the difficulty involved in finding someone to have one with (I am quite new so this assertion may very well be erroneous therefore potentially rendering my post quite...well not good).

Okay. The Question. I am have been wondering if there are many individuals who frequent these fine forums (alliteration is always so much fun) and are in a BDSM relationship with a person whom they first met in everyday life. That is to say, you did not speak to an individual online then arrange to meet for coffee. Likewise, for the purpose of this question I am also excluding munches and other such lifestyle events and gatherings. I would love to hear stories from anyone who is now in a BDSM relationship with someone whom they got to know in a vanilla context or someone they knew for a long time. I have been in situations where I suspected that someone I knew was into BDSM but was never bold enough to inquire. Okay it is quite late for me and I am really hoping that I managed to actually write a question and, still hopefully, that the aforementioned question makes sense .

 

[HottieMama]

I met my soon-to-be ex HusDom at the grocery store and then we ran into each other at a kink event the next weekend, does that count?? We began chatting in the grocery store because I gave him advice on picking a cantaloupe. Talked for a bit while we were both shopping and left it there. Imagine my surprise when the next weekend, I am demo bottoming for a fire play demo and look up and see him walk into the room.

 

[LaisCrisas]

HottieMama,

That is a GREAT story, very cool. I can't imagine how surprised both of you were!

 

[NinCerise]

I met my ex in a book store. We hit it off and went for coffee, exchanged numbers. After months of dating, we slipped into a M/s dynamic, but we never actually had a conversation about it.

 

[eastern sun]

My husband and I met at work. He was put in charge of training me.

 

[Kurokami]

I met my wife in a pub while I was on holiday. We dated for months before things got kinky, and THAT was only because she got a look at my internet history. We probably would have had a discussion about kink eventually, given my wife's amazing honesty, but that probably made it happen faster. That turned out okay

 

[GrimsPet]

I met my Master online on a forum devoted to Miniature painting!

I was however drawn to the fact that most of the minis he painted were women in bondage or other erotic poses. The artwork was screaming, "Save me from my vanilla life!" Turned out I was VERY correct on that!

At the time I met him online I had been four years without a partner other than the brief talking to someone online and deciding they weren't worth meeting.

 

[graceanne]

My husband and I me when I was 15 and he was 24. Nothing happened, we just met. His brother and my step-dad were best friends, and I babysat for his brother. We weren't even friends, at that point. About 3 years later he was on a bowling league with my step-dad, and he'd come over afterward, and he and I became friends, then started dating. We didn't get into kink for about ... what? 5 years later? It was about the time I joined lit, and we were married in 1997 - do the math.

 

[Philotes]

My husband and I met at work. He was put in charge of training me.

Am I the only one that finds this to be really ironic? And seriously hot?

The only time I dipped a toe into BDSM was with my ex. We met at work. He was my manager at the time. I have very fond memories of that job. It was always fun to go to work because I knew I would have opportunities to see him and interact with him throughout the day.