Rough Housing/Equal Control (M+F)

[GoodReasons]

OK... so I considered putting this in BDSM but it's not quite like that.

See... I find it a turn on to rough house a little... I like wrestling with a guy who I trust to control himself and not hurt me, but is strong enough to restrain me. Not in a domineering sort of way. That's why I put this as a fetish. And not every one of my relationships worked this way. It depends on the guy...

It's a really good way to wear me out a little... I am pretty rowdy and I like to be exhausted by the end of it (so it works well for foreplay, especially if you start out naked... hmm guess that's not quite foreplay). Anyway, I am a tiny bit sadistic so the the guy needs to take a little pain because I like to nip and whatnot (though I give very fair warning that I have such an intention)... And I make sure there occasions are where I am straddled across his chest and the on 'on top' in a sense...

See in my case the trick is making sure neither of you actually goes anywhere near hurting each other. I have a decent amount of control myself but it's that awareness that the guy you are with is much stronger than you but can control it. I just find it sexy. That's why I have always found bigger guys attractive (and not in the brutish overly muscled way). I am 5'2 so while I have a good range of guys who would be taller than me I still like the 6'4+ better. My first boyfriend had hands that were the length of my forearm... And I just loved it. I never worried that I could hurt him. He could take care of himself and me. But he was nice and slender... you couldn't see the power until you pushed it.

And when you pushed it you just end up getting picked up and tossed into the bed...

Anyway, I guess thats just what I like... I like the physical contact... and the feeling of adrenaline... and by the end of it I just like looking up as my hands are gently pinned above my head and realizing we are both panting... and very hot and bothered... And then round two is played a little differently...

So yeah... at some point in this thread I am sure I will keep going but I want to know what you lit readers think first.

I know I can't be alone...

 

[GoodReasons]

Ohhh and I should add

...another major thing is of course that awareness that he is controlling himself but wants to jump your bones as soon as you say go.

See this part could be BDSM but I guess it's more the fun of it... You both have this high tension foreplay and when you are straddled on his chest or your ass is rubbing up against... yeah... hard not to think about it...

(I want guys opinions too btw)

 

[sereneone4u]

I like to be pinned and such...

However, I am 5'8"

 

[GoodReasons]

I like to be pinned and such...

However, I am 5'8"

Hehe yeah I'm short... But I have what me and my friends call big person syndrome... I never remember I am short till I am giving someone a hug and realize I don't reach their collarbone haha.

And most people don't realize I am short initially either.

It just comes up on occasion.
Hell Steerpike69 realized today he is actually quite a bit taller than me. We've been seeing each other for a year.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I find it a turn on to rough house

Is there any other way to fuck? Are there people out there who DON"T do this???

 

[sereneone4u]

Is there any other way to fuck? Are there people out there who DON"T do this???

plenty rosco...there can be soft seduction...sensuality...

 

[GoodReasons]

plenty rosco...there can be soft seduction...sensuality...

I like happy mediums.

But I dooo have to much energy for my own good.

 

[rosco rathbone]

plenty rosco...there can be soft seduction...sensuality...

Oh, you mean like stimulating her nipples with butterfly kisses and stuff like that.

 

[GoodReasons]

Oh, you mean like stimulating her nipples with butterfly kisses and stuff like that.

Gawd there's so many ways. So fun.

 

[richard_daily]

What, no choking?

boo.

 

[sarel101]

being 6'5", I'm partial to tall and big girls. it also makes the occasional rasslin' match a bit more interesting

 

[jasper3738]

male here

Yes I like the contact a.little rough not enough to make marks or scary situations
I have crossed it a.few.times and it lead to long stint of no sex with wife. I suppose breach of
Trust all I did was rip her panties off and I guess she.thought that was close to rape since.she.lost
Her virginity when she was.young by the guy ripping her panties brought back memories so no rough sex here
But was fun when it lasted

 

[rosco rathbone]

being 6'5", I'm partial to tall and big girls. it also makes the occasional rasslin' match a bit more interesting

Rasslin lol.

Those big girls are mighty grateful when they meet a man big enough to make them feel womanly. They'll follow you around like a faithful hound, once they get a taste of the petite life.

 

[GoodReasons]

What, no choking?

boo.

I don't have him do it to me but I have done that to someone else.

I'm open... with a bit of sadism.

 

[GoodReasons]

being 6'5", I'm partial to tall and big girls. it also makes the occasional rasslin' match a bit more interesting

Well I'm out of luck there.

But I always though it was more the personality. There's some men who are... Twig-like. Just wimpy. For me if there something I really don't like I will just say something. (Aka you have a poky elbow dude, breasts don't feel good.). And then keep playing. There is nothing a guy could accidentally do which hasn't happened already in another situation. And like I said some guys I wouldn't trust to hold my coffee so it's pick and choose.

 

[GoodReasons]

Rasslin lol.

Those big girls are mighty grateful when they meet a man big enough to make them feel womanly. They'll follow you around like a faithful hound, once they get a taste of the petite life.

Every woman feels like that I think.

I've only met... Four guys... Who will do that. This is partly because I'm scared I'll hurt someone and/or they didn't have the strength/trust/contol thing down pat.

 

[avrgblkgrl]

I hope I'm not scooting in where I don't belong, but I just ran across this thread and smiled. I love the idea of soft seduction and sensuality(and there is a lot of that to be found even in rough play). I'ts not discussed enough on Lit. Also Rosco, I love it that you are attracted to the bigger woman. You are right, they have a deep desire to feel delicate in the arms of a man and it takes a real man to do that. I'm medium (haha average), only 5'4 (and a half). But I love tall, big men as well. I like to feel like I can't kick your ass if I wanted to (and you wouldn't kick mine because you are secure in your self). Nothing like being in his arms, large hands stretching across my back. Or, his hand at the small of my back leading me through a crowd. And me, not worried about anything. Those are old school concepts that are still very much alive. I better stop while I'm ahead. I may just lose my Strong Black Woman Card!!

 

[GoodReasons]

I hope I'm not scooting in where I don't belong, but I just ran across this thread and smiled. I love the idea of soft seduction and sensuality(and there is a lot of that to be found even in rough play). I'ts not discussed enough on Lit. Also Rosco, I love it that you are attracted to the bigger woman. You are right, they have a deep desire to feel delicate in the arms of a man and it takes a real man to do that. I'm medium (haha average), only 5'4 (and a half). But I love tall, big men as well. I like to feel like I can't kick your ass if I wanted to (and you wouldn't kick mine because you are secure in your self). Nothing like being in his arms, large hands stretching across my back. Or, his hand at the small of my back leading me through a crowd. And me, not worried about anything. Those are old school concepts that are still very much alive. I better stop while I'm ahead. I may just lose my Strong Black Woman Card!!

This is an awesome description of what I meant. And also he reason I wasn't sure where to put this thread. It's not jut rough housing and the title but everyhig behind it as well. Thanks for the wonderful contibution.

 

[GoodReasons]

Yes I like the contact a.little rough not enough to make marks or scary situations
I have crossed it a.few.times and it lead to long stint of no sex with wife. I suppose breach of
Trust all I did was rip her panties off and I guess she.thought that was close to rape since.she.lost
Her virginity when she was.young by the guy ripping her panties brought back memories so no rough sex here
But was fun when it lasted

Good for you. That's the control I meant... not pushing it and listening.

 

[avrgblkgrl]

Thank you GR. I'm always so self-conscious about commenting and being understood

Yes I like the contact a.little rough not enough to make marks or scary situations
I have crossed it a.few.times and it lead to long stint of no sex with wife. I suppose breach of
Trust all I did was rip her panties off and I guess she.thought that was close to rape since.she.lost
Her virginity when she was.young by the guy ripping her panties brought back memories so no rough sex here
But was fun when it lasted

Hats off to you. It takes a special type of man to adjust himself to their lover and understand how important that thin membrane of trust is--even in quality D/s relationships. The fact that you liked it but let it go to not hurt her speaks volumes.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Looooove to wrestle around with Master....a huge turn-on because he IS stronger than I am....Makes me feel so little and powerless *sigh*

 

[Boundlife]

I loved play wrestling. Groping, trying to pin your guy but knowing you are going to lose( but still win). I'm only 5'3'' so it was always a mismatch. If you both have the same goal in mind, fun all around. If someone forgets to playing together, its anoying.
My icky ex once got competitve and pushed me back on the couch. He thought it was funny and kept knocking me back. (I sent him home)

 

[Cthulhu1138]

Good Reasons- Think that I suffer from the same mental condition you do. I stand 5'10" and weigh about 180, but most people I know think I'm a "big guy." think that I cultivated a "Don't F**k with me" attitude from a young age from buyyling. Then came the weight training for the swim team in HS.

Most of my girlfriends in college loved how ticklish I was, which led to lots of tough housing and tussling around on the floor--which led to lots of fun later on.

It is fun to burn off energy with a partner, and always a pleasure to make a girl feel delicate & adored, regardless of her size.
Rough, tender, change is good.

 

[sereneone4u]

I don't feel height has a whole lot to do with it. My current husband of almost 18 years is 6ft, he pins me with no problems...well sometimes with problems if I am in a feisty mood, lol. My ex-husband was my height, maybe and inch taller, but again,no problems. Men naturally have longer limbs and greater upper body strength. It also can be an incredible turn on when in addition to the pinning they have your legs open with their hips and/or thighs, your arms held above your head and they have that other hand free to torment you...lol

*sigh* I love men

 

[cfuhrer]

I love light power play. As for choking... I like that too now and then. My guy has the perfect amount of pressure in all the right places, leaves me feeling helpless AND totally safe. Mmmmm.