Whew, I dodged a bullit here. (Ex-GirlFriend content)

[Saiyaman]

Okay, five years ago I had a relationship with a woman who I met through my best friend, we had been introduced to each other through him and we hit it off right away.

But as the months went on I began to lose the feelings I had toward her and in addition to an ever increasing workload had less and less time to spend with her, made me decide to end the relationship, no hard feelings, we just ran out of gas as far as I was concerned.

A few years later she hooked up with that said friend who introduced us to each other back then. They appeared to be happy with eachother and pretty quickly I got word that he got her pregnant.

Now that friend has been through a very messy divorce before and he and his ex-wife have a daughter. And she has since been the subject of mud-slinging from her mom to get the custody over her and that's slowly eating at my friend.

Imagine my surprise when I got a telephone call from my friend just a few weeks prior to his second child being born that my ex-grilfriend had left him, without a warning, no reason, just left him there and then.

Turns out that she started haning with my friend's ex-wife and the both of them apparently have teamed up on him to get the sole custody over their children.

Now one of the arguments here is that they say that my friend isn't a good father, never makes time free for his children, doesn't take care of them properly and shouldn't be allowed anywhere near them.

Now, I have been around when he still had his marriage working, I have been a taxi driver when I took them and their daughter to a playground. I have seen the love he has for his daughter, how he's willing to sacrifice EVERYTHING for her. When we were in a band together he had a my then girlfriend baby sit her. He went through great lengths to be there for his little girl to be there for her, against enormous odds. I'm pretty sure both his ex-wife and my ex-girlfriend remember this as well.

Now as I was talking to my band mates about this they said that I had been lucky, if I had continued the relationship, she would have pulled this on me. I had been the wise one here and dodged a bullit.

My friend agrees with this logic, I might not be lucky with women but at least when the thing went sour I had the good sense of ending it there and then.

 

[3113]

Funny, but after all that the story doesn't seem to me about how you dodged a bullet so much as how your poor friend is getting screwed out of his kids by these two women. Is anyone--like you and his other friends--helping him and his lawyer to do something about this terrible injustice?

That, it seems to me, is the real story. That you dodged a bullet seems really...moot by comparison. How, after all, did this horror story with your friend become about you?

 

[jomar]

It also makes me wonder about your best friend.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Stories are posted on the submissions page, not here in the forums.

As for you dodging the bullet, not really, but you friend didn't that's for sure.

 

[PennLady]

This reminds me of a woman at work who once was going on about the crash of TWA Flight 800 some years ago. She was saying how she'd "dodged a bullet" since she was supposed to take (or have taken) that flight -- some month apart from the date of the crash. Not exactly coincidence.

You didn't dodge anything.

 

[TE999]

Bullit is a movie starring Steve McQueen...I think you meant bullet...in any case, the probability of a woman gaining custody of children in a dispute such as this is easily 90%. Most men have to prove overwhelmingly in court that they are not a bad parent (or the wife is) and the bench still sides with the mother more often than not.

I think it's much less the case of your dodging a bullet than your friend making some unfortunate choices in regard to female companionship. He'll be lucky to receive reasonable visitation rights.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"A woman I used to date is getting a divorce from the man she married. She wants custody of the kid."

This story is not about you.

 

[lovecraft68]

In 2003 my wife who is a huge hairband fan wanted to see Great White perform. I really did not like the band and the venue was a shit hole club that I couldn't stand. But wifey wanted to go and resorted to the pout (amongst other things) so I told her we would go.

The day of the show I got the migraine from hell and knew I couldn't go. My wife was still going to go at first but it became one of the migraines that I literally couldn't see and she didn't want to leave me alone so we stayed home. after midnight we recieved a half a dozen calls from friends asking if we were okay.

the date? 2/20/2003

The venue? The Station

What happened? The deadliest club fire in history killing over 100 people. That is dodging a bullet. Your post is someone else's soap opera.

Now aren;t you people here happy that I didn't go?

 

[sadangel]

In 2003 my wife who is a huge hairband fan wanted to see Great White perform. I really did not like the band and the venue was a shit hole club that I couldn't stand. But wifey wanted to go and resorted to the pout (amongst other things) so I told her we would go.

The day of the show I got the migraine from hell and knew I couldn't go. My wife was still going to go at first but it became one of the migraines that I literally couldn't see and she didn't want to leave me alone so we stayed home. after midnight we recieved a half a dozen calls from friends asking if we were okay.

the date? 2/20/2003

The venue? The Station

What happened? The deadliest club fire in history killing over 100 people. That is dodging a bullet. Your post is someone else's soap opera.

Now aren;t you people here happy that I didn't go?

Aren't you thankful for a migraine on that date?! Glad you missed that concert!

 

[lovecraft68]

Aren't you thankful for a migraine on that date?! Glad you missed that concert!

I truly believe everything happens for a reason. It was not my time. Although honestly I think the powers that be kept us home because of my wife not me. She is a life coach runs a clinic to help people fight obesity and also volunteers as a councilor at a shelter for battered women. She really makes a difference in people's lives. I am just here to keep her company!

 

[3113]

In 2003 my wife who is a huge hairband fan wanted to see Great White perform. I really did not like the band and the venue was a shit hole club that I couldn't stand. But wifey wanted to go and resorted to the pout (amongst other things) so I told her we would go.

The day of the show I got the migraine from hell and knew I couldn't go. My wife was still going to go at first but it became one of the migraines that I literally couldn't see and she didn't want to leave me alone so we stayed home. after midnight we recieved a half a dozen calls from friends asking if we were okay.

the date? 2/20/2003

The venue? The Station

What happened? The deadliest club fire in history killing over 100 people. That is dodging a bullet.

Damn good story! Though it is a pity you needed a migraine to dodge it. I use to get terrible migraines too (couldn't keep food down), so I empathize. What do you take for them?

 

[MarlowBunny]

My grandmother had a ticket on the Lusitania for the voyage when it was sunk by a German U-boat. She never boarded because her friends in the USA invited her to stay a few days longer. When she arrived later, she heard the news about the ship. Her family was planning her funeral assuming she was lost at sea.

Then, in 1939, she stopped in Greenland so her flight could refuel. It took off again without her for a test run around the airport to check something mechanical and crashed. The news got back to her family in a muddled fashion, and they once again planned her funeral. She arrived in Liverpool a few days later on another plane.

 

[lovecraft68]

Damn good story! Though it is a pity you needed a migraine to dodge it. I use to get terrible migraines too (couldn't keep food down), so I empathize. What do you take for them?

I think I made out pretty good having the migraine considering the alternative. I used to take Fiorinal's but they would knock me on my ass. Lately I have been taking Imetrex and it works pretty well. I am fortunate that I usually see the "aura" before they hit so if I have one with me I can avoid the worst of it.

Sometimes they will not cut it and it turns into laying in a dark room and praying for a quick merciful death.

 

[3113]

I think I made out pretty good having the migraine considering the alternative. I used to take Fiorinal's but they would knock me on my ass. Lately I have been taking Imetrex and it works pretty well. I am fortunate that I usually see the "aura" before they hit so if I have one with me I can avoid the worst of it.

Sometimes they will not cut it and it turns into laying in a dark room and praying for a quick merciful death.

I had one doctor put me on Vicodin, which did diddily outside of making me hallucinate. I've been told Vicodin can be addictive, but that is one drug I will never become addicted to as I now associate it with migraines! Then I wisely went to another doctor who put me on Cafergot. Worked like magic.

I don't get migraines that bad any more, but I'd swear by Cafergot if I did.