Tongue in the bum

[bound4_fun]

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[twister947]

No.

To me, neither is "freaky." Someone else may find 69 over-the-top, point being, it's a subjective call. Tags like this are counterproductive.

 

[bound4_fun]

yes but

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[twister947]

... how does the female mind work...?

Now, you know better than to ask that.

 

[bound4_fun]

Ask What?

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[davalene]

No Kinky Sex? Why?

Just tie her up and gag her. She used to have no problem with it. Now she doesn't drink and seems to have Catholic guilt.

I really like all types of what people call KINKY SEX. One that I have not had the opportunity to experience is sex with a "Shemale."

I like licking a woman or a man's bum as long as they are clean. Just the thougt of lots of saliva while rimming them and then to ease my dick into them make me HOT HOT.

 

[bound4_fun]

The difference

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[Sir_Winston54]

Why don't you ASK her?

The key to any lasting relationship is communication. Try it. You'll like it.

 

[bound4_fun]

Of Course

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[Stella_Omega]

Have you guys ever done a real negotiation? The kind where each of you lays out the activities they like, want and need and why-- and also the ones you don't care about, don't care for, never want to partake in...

Your homework is;
asking her, and listening to her answers.
believing her answers.
Not being obtuse about her answers.

Answering her questions.
Not being obtuse about her questions.
Making sure she believes your answers.

 

[bound4_fun]

Been together a long time

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[seela]

She doesn't drink any more and I feel she is inhibited. It is much easier to not care and let your inner animal take over when you have a glow on.

Wow. I mean... wow.

If alcohol is the only way for her to let her inner animal take over, then maybe she really doesn't want her inner animal to take over? Wouldn't you rather she actually wants to do the kinky things because she just can't resist them? If she's drunk, even has a glow on, how can you be sure she won't regret it later as something stupid she's done while intoxicated?

 

[bound4_fun]

Alcohol is an aphrodisiac

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[CurvAppeal]

No.

To me, neither is "freaky." Someone else may find 69 over-the-top, point being, it's a subjective call. Tags like this are counterproductive.

I agree. What may seem "freaky" to you may not seem that way to your wife. Talk about it. I always say communication is key

 

[bound4_fun]

She's Shy

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[Stella_Omega]

I talked to her today about the situation and she told me she considers sex with props to be slam bam sex. Being an anniversary, she wanted it to be "romantic".

Huh.
Let's think about this; why does she think that sex after bondage is "slam bam?" Could it be that's all she's getting after getting all tied up-- "slam bam?"

Like, it's so damn hot to see her like that that you stick in her and go off like a happy little (or well hung) rocket?
Ask any woman; Mr Dude is plenty satisfied, and her-- she gets rope burn.

Even as a female butch, topping someone I love and am connected to can send me shooting off ahead of time. Since my dick doesn't go limp though, I can continue untill she's happy as I am.

My suggestion to you is that you show her exactly how romantic bondage sex can be. That means you're going to have to keep control.

Jack off earlier in the day if you need to take the edge off.

Once you've got her tied up, make it about her and how much you luuurve her. And drag at least two orgasms out of her before you let yourself come -- in fact, try your damndest to come with her, or even-- pretend you did.

Now you've got some romance cooking, baby.

When I talk about it, she gets hesitant and accuses me of being a sex pervert.

"Not that there's anything wrong with that"

Ask her *which words and phrases she finds bothersome.*

Do not use those words for at least ten years. She'll get her sense of humor and enjoy the raunch once more-- but at her speed, not at yours. You have to use the language she speaks, if you want to get what you want. This isn't really negotiable, in my experience. If you want to negotiate, this is how you're going to have to do it.

IMO, the biggest problem between men and women is that women are wordy and men are inarticulate.

 

[CurvAppeal]

When I talk about it, she gets hesitant and accuses me of being a sex pervert.

"Not that there's anything wrong with that"

Try to come to a happy medium, that's really all that you can do.

 

[bound4_fun]

Why so complicated?

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[Lilac_Sky]

A few random thoughts:

First, she doesn't sound overly vanilla or puritanical to me .... she likes to give and receive oral sex, 69, and she rimmed you and tongued your ass ...

Second, is she opposed to bondage sex completely or just not on the night in question? I love love love bondage sex but can totally understand where on an anniversary she would want a more "mutual/equal" loving (rather than one person having no "control" and the other having all the control). If that is the case, can you understand her view on why she was interested in one but not the other (tonguing you vs bondage)

Third, it concerns me that she could eventually feel pressured to have sex in the way you want, to please you or to keep peace. If that were to be the case, it will likely end in resentment on her part and that is not healthy for you, or her, or your marriage.

And finally, I suppose you could blame it on being a woman myself, but I am not really seeing where this is complicated. She sounds like she also enjoys a fun/creative sex life from what you have described. But on the night in question she wanted something different than what you wanted.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I just want to have a fun and creative love life. She / women need so much more. I'm willing to do what she wants to make her happy. I always make sure she has an orgasm when we're together. She never goes to sleep frustrated.

When I tie her up, of course its all about her. Her reactions make me believe she enjoys the scene. I think it is more about attitude. I wish she had a friend that would talk to her about enjoying bondage. If she knew she would still be a respectable lady no matter how wild she got it bed, I believe it would help.

Sorry about the rambling - its still awful early on a Monday.

This may be very much the issue, I agree.

I too wish women "weren't so complicated" and I'm one myself. I can feel myself getting "complicated."

On the other hand, it is what it is, and dudes just can't expect things to be so simple.

Would she come here to talk? We would make her welcome, I can promise you that.

 

[bound4_fun]

I Agree

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[Stella_Omega]

I'm going to assume that you're downloading erotica that gets very high reviews from women, right?

But even so, different women have different preferences.

She'd probably prefer erotica that reads like a murder mystery. Does she have favorite mystery authors?

 

[warl0ck1]

I have to agree with the rest her talk talk talk. and yes I am an inarticulate Ogre just ask my wife. or a hand full of people here. my guess is that it was the day not the act. anniversaries are more the food drink flowers and that sort of night.

 

[Dr_O]

When a woman voluntarily puts her tongue in my ass, I don't usually describe her as "inhibited."

 

[Dr_O]

it is what it is

Please, stop, before it's too late.