Evolution of online relationships

[Chiara_searches]

I was reading this thread (http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=36709172) about the appeal, or lack of appeal, to online relationships. It made me curious as to how many people have transitioned from an online relationship to real life. What are your experiences? Did it work out? If it did, was there any one thing that made it work in real life? If it didn't, would you have another relationship follow the same path? Since all this is new to me, I find myself very curious.

 

[kimuk]

We met here. Talked here for a while. Moved on to text msgs and phone calls. Share an on line diary where we keep in touch. Have met once, which was much better than i anticipated. We have a real connection. Although our relationship my be viewed as "second class" by the lit puerests. It develops and grows constantly as we learn about each others wants needs and desires. i thank the day that he approached me and and that i had the courage to persue it. It has lasted 13 months and feels better each day.
i have no regrets and hope it contines for a long long time.
i cant imagin being with anyone else in this situation.
Happy and content.

 

[Bandit58]

Sir and I met on Lit in 2002, became more than friends in 2003, and I moved to be with Him in January 2004. We married in December 2006.

I was a new sub, He an experienced Dom. He suffers from renal failure and is on home haemodialysis, which I assist with. We work as a team to keep Him as healthy as possible.

What makes it work? Lots of love, caring and support, from both sides. Honesty, trust and communication. Hugs, kisses and showing that love every day.

 

[catalina_francisco]

We met online, met a few short months later and married 3 weeks after meeting in the flesh (but had already planned the wedding before that meeting), and will have been M/s and married for 9 years this year. We do not regret a minute of it and just hope there are many more years to enjoy each other and what we have.

Catalina

 

[KoPilot]

Started out as online, now long-distance, and will soon be making the international jump to moving in with him full time before the end of 2012. :]

We've met 4 times, and plan on seeing each other twice more before getting married.

 

[Chiara_searches]

We met online, met a few short months later and married 3 weeks after meeting in the flesh (but had already planned the wedding before that meeting), and will have been M/s and married for 9 years this year. We do not regret a minute of it and just hope there are many more years to enjoy each other and what we have.

Catalina

That is so amazing. I'm happy that you found someone that special in the world. Okay, and I'm a sucker for romantic endings...but it sounds like even though you've got nine years in, it's more a romantic beginning, even after all this time. Thank you for sharing your story.

 

[Chiara_searches]

Started out as online, now long-distance, and will soon be making the international jump to moving in with him full time before the end of 2012. :]

We've met 4 times, and plan on seeing each other twice more before getting married.

A connection and an international move. Amazing. I'm glad it is working out for you and congrats on the impending changes.

 

[catalina_francisco]

A connection and an international move. Amazing. I'm glad it is working out for you and congrats on the impending changes.

Ours required an international move also which is possibly the most difficult part...distance from familiar surroundings and family, different culture, different language, different food, costly for home visits.

Catalina

 

[KoPilot]

A connection and an international move. Amazing. I'm glad it is working out for you and congrats on the impending changes.

Thank you! It's all exciting and scary and stuff. :3

 

[KoPilot]

Ours required an international move also which is possibly the most difficult part...distance from familiar surroundings and family, different culture, different language, different food, costly for home visits.

Catalina

Hehe nah I'm not going that far... maybe about 30 miles north of the border and that's about it! It will take a while to get used to the damn monopoly money, though....

 

[Chiara_searches]

Sir and I met on Lit in 2002, became more than friends in 2003, and I moved to be with Him in January 2004. We married in December 2006.

I was a new sub, He an experienced Dom. He suffers from renal failure and is on home haemodialysis, which I assist with. We work as a team to keep Him as healthy as possible.

What makes it work? Lots of love, caring and support, from both sides. Honesty, trust and communication. Hugs, kisses and showing that love every day.

Thanks for sharing your story. I've seen elsewhere on the boards that you do much to care for your Sir. Not only am I glad you found someone to share your life with; but I'm also glad he found someone to help him stay healthy.

 

[Chiara_searches]

We met here. Talked here for a while. Moved on to text msgs and phone calls. Share an on line diary where we keep in touch. Have met once, which was much better than i anticipated. We have a real connection. Although our relationship my be viewed as "second class" by the lit puerests. It develops and grows constantly as we learn about each others wants needs and desires. i thank the day that he approached me and and that i had the courage to persue it. It has lasted 13 months and feels better each day.
i have no regrets and hope it contines for a long long time.
i cant imagin being with anyone else in this situation.
Happy and content.

Just remember: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt. If the "lit purests" want to judge your relationship as "second class" they should probably reflect the mirror back on themselves to see what defects also exist in their lives. If your life is working for you, live it with joy. It sounds like it is, so I hope you are experiencing plenty of joy and happiness. Thanks for sharing your story.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I was reading this thread (http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=36709172) about the appeal, or lack of appeal, to online relationships. It made me curious as to how many people have transitioned from an online relationship to real life. What are your experiences? Did it work out? If it did, was there any one thing that made it work in real life? If it didn't, would you have another relationship follow the same path? Since all this is new to me, I find myself very curious.

What exactly do you mean by real life? Are you just asking about people who went from on-line to living together 24/7?

My PYL and I don't live together or even in the same state. We met on-line over 6 years ago on another site. Started chatting privately shortly after that and quickly moved to phone conversations. At that point my relationship with him became "real". A few months after that I became his submissive and we met for the first time about 5 months after starting to chat.

We have met countless times since then. He has met my husband a few times, too. We both have other life responsibilities that will forever prevent us from living together but my submission to him is 24/7 and it is real life.

 

[Chiara_searches]

What exactly do you mean by real life? Are you just asking about people who went from on-line to living together 24/7?

My PYL and I don't live together or even in the same state. We met on-line over 6 years ago on another site. Started chatting privately shortly after that and quickly moved to phone conversations. At that point my relationship with him became "real". A few months after that I became his submissive and we met for the first time about 5 months after starting to chat.

We have met countless times since then. He has met my husband a few times, too. We both have other life responsibilities that will forever prevent us from living together but my submission to him is 24/7 and it is real life.

I think this type of response is exactly what I'm looking for as I learn. I'm new to submission and new to lit. I still don't have the right language or understand the complexities of these very personal relationships. But your point is extremely valid: what is "real life" depends upon how your relationship works for you as an individual and how it imbibes your life. The emotional and mental commitment more than the physical proximity is what makes it "real life" as I'm coming to understand. I will still admit a fondness for the romantic endings (or beginnings) of others who were free of those life responsibilities and able to live with their PYL. But I all to well know life responsibilities can be hurdles preventing the fairy tale ending. Thanks for sharing your view.