The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[FloggingMolly]

I really wish I _didn't_ want kids, it'd make things a whole lot easier.

 

[intothewoods]

Huh?

I don't think Shy said she was infertile. She just doesn't want kids.

Oh, yes, I got that. Sorry, late night and I left out some explanation there. My point was just that sometimes women who aren't interested in having kids aren't always propted by their doctors to check out certain facets of their gynecological health.

You might ignore certain indicators of, say, infertility (just as an example) because you think you don't want kids anyway, but those indicators may be clues to serious underlying health issues. Not always, I'm not trying to freak people out, but sometimes doctors discover other underlying issues that cause infertility or even that come up during pregnancy. I'm not saying everyone should go to a fertility doctor. Just that I think that it's important to be very thorough about your gynecological health, regardless of whether or not you want kids.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Its a good point ITW. If it hadn't been for infertilty investigations, I'd never have had my under-active thyroid dagnosed because I wouldn't have thought of my symptoms as being all that much of a problem.

 

[chy_girl]

On the continuum of "that which does not kill you," we are quickly approaching the line separating "makes you stronger" and "had better run pretty damned fast."

And I'm kind of tired for any major running after of things.

 

[the captians wench]

Full day of shopping with my mom (tho buying was at a minimum and considering we went to 3 fabric stores that's huge!) and still managed to get 12 todler chemise cut out!

Productive day.

 

[minx1]

Monday week, please. I dislike humidity, make it nice and walm, pleasethanksbai.

Woohoo, we just had the cyclone warning cancelled

Wish I had read this before I dragged the rest of the stuff from the back yard into the shed lol

 

[naxalite0906]

Thanks for the comments Cattypuss, The Captains Wench, Etolie, Keroin and ecstaticsub

A lot of people I went to high school with are now settled with children, or expecting. I keep thinking I SHOULD feel in some way maternal and I don't.

ecstaticsub - I won't rule it out, I can completely understand what you are saying

Phew

I wondered whether to chip in here, but i couldn't resist! Keroin is right (as usual!) there is nothing wrong with you. But problems arise when a couple have differing opinions on this matter, and in this case I think they are on the same page

 

[minx1]

Phew

I wondered whether to chip in here, but i couldn't resist! Keroin is right (as usual!) there is nothing wrong with you. But problems arise when a couple have differing opinions on this matter, and in this case I think they are on the same page

This is a good point Nax. One I find myself pondering quite a bit.

My clock didnt kick in until I was in my mid thirties. Up until that point having a kid hadnt crossed my mind. I wasnt adamant that I wouldnt have one, I simply didnt think about it at all.

Now though the bells clanging and I feel because of my age I only have a short window and basically cant afford to hang about being with someone who has very different life plans.. I even found myself discussing it with the Dom the other day lol, not because I am planning on having his baby (not after two weeks! ), but because a baby does feature in my plans (if able).

It seems bloody ridiculous to be having these converstions lol and I certainly wouldnt be if I was 5 years younger.

As it happens they dont really feature in his future plans; he thinks he is too old and worries that its too dangerous for a woman to have one after a certain age.

So not sure what will happen there medium term. Sort term though I reckon I can spend some time enjoying his company. Anyway I dont even know if I can have one!

sheesh, sorry lol I'm blurting because its been on my mind a bit.

 

[Bandit58]

I had my children young. I was 24 when I had the first, 29 when I had the second.

The almost 5 year gap wasn't planned that way though. It took me 18 months to conceive my first and just over 2 years for the second. I have a retroverted uterus and didn't find that out until after I went to the doctor after the first year of trying without success. The doc wanted to test my ex's sperm count but he didn't want to do that

I think I am lucky to have those kids, I wasn't going to try when I got past 30 (by then the marriage was having some problems anyway). I did think I was pregnant again when I was 42 but it turned out to be one of my body's ways of letting me know that I was under stress (the other was to give me an ulcer ).

I do know that if I had been pregnant then, I would have had an abortion

 

[Mads]

Oh, yes, sorry, do please shout at me because its obviously _my_ fault that you're too much of a pleb to pick up the damn phone when you're meant to

 

[Keroin]

Keroin is right (as usual!)

Your cheque is in the mail.

 

[CeriseNin]

I want donuts, I want donuts, I want donuts.
Must eat clean, must eat clean, must eat clean.

Fuck.

 

[chy_girl]

Every once in awhile I start to think I'm a half-way intelligent human being. Then I proceed to demonstrate exactly how wrong I am.

And just out of curiosity, in the world of BDSM, who protects you from the fucking protectors?

I am SO fucking stupid for letting myself hope and I'm even more stupid for allowing myself to believe him. Worthy, my ass.

 

[the captians wench]

Every once in awhile I start to think I'm a half-way intelligent human being. Then I proceed to demonstrate exactly how wrong I am.

And just out of curiosity, in the world of BDSM, who protects you from the fucking protectors?

I am SO fucking stupid for letting myself hope and I'm even more stupid for allowing myself to believe him. Worthy, my ass.

*huggles the chy*

if it makes you feel better, I'm a sap too most days

 

[CurlyKat]

Why do the kitties always want to lay all over you when you already feel like you're about to spontaneously combust?

 

[the captians wench]

wishing I could tell my job to fuck off for a while.

 

[Cattypuss]

Saw some teeny tiny baby lambs today when walking in the hills. They were TEENY and still had all their umbilical bits dangling. It's below freezing now. I hope their mummy will cuddle up to them to keep them warm on the hillside tonight

 

[KayKat]

Hugs to you Chy!

 

[FloggingMolly]

*hugs Chy*

 

[chy_girl]

*huggles the chy*

if it makes you feel better, I'm a sap too most days

I wish it were only a matter of my being a sap. Unfortunately I seem to have pole vaulted directly over the line separating masochist and stupid. And, from the evidence, the line between submissive and doormat.

Quite telling a telling night last night. But on the bright side, any respect for the PYL in question is now dead. Took a fair bit of my self-respect with it, but I'm willing to work on rebuilding *my* self-respect.


ETA:
I'm back on Fet as chy_spirit. They only let me send so many friend requests at a time though, so if you were on my list and haven't gotten a request, please feel free to send one. And if we weren't friended but ya wanna be, feel free to send me on

 

[graceanne]

I had my children young. I was 24 when I had the first, 29 when I had the second

That's young?

I was married at 19, had my first child at 20, second child at 23, and last child at 24. Then I got my tubes tied because I was told another pregnancy might kill me.

Every once in awhile I start to think I'm a half-way intelligent human being. Then I proceed to demonstrate exactly how wrong I am.

And just out of curiosity, in the world of BDSM, who protects you from the fucking protectors?

I am SO fucking stupid for letting myself hope and I'm even more stupid for allowing myself to believe him. Worthy, my ass.

Oh, hon. *hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

I wish it were only a matter of my being a sap. Unfortunately I seem to have pole vaulted directly over the line separating masochist and stupid. And, from the evidence, the line between submissive and doormat.

Quite telling a telling night last night. But on the bright side, any respect for the PYL in question is now dead. Took a fair bit of my self-respect with it, but I'm willing to work on rebuilding *my* self-respect.


ETA:
I'm back on Fet as chy_spirit. They only let me send so many friend requests at a time though, so if you were on my list and haven't gotten a request, please feel free to send one. And if we weren't friended but ya wanna be, feel free to send me on

I've been there too. Remind me to tell you about "master asshole" some time.

 

[minx1]

I wish it were only a matter of my being a sap. Unfortunately I seem to have pole vaulted directly over the line separating masochist and stupid. And, from the evidence, the line between submissive and doormat.

I've been there too. Remind me to tell you about "master asshole" some time.

Me too with bells on lol. Happens to the best of us hon


Keep your chin up and dont let the bastards grind you down. There's so much more out there *hugs*

 

[Etoile]

Did I mention I had really great sex Friday night? After some SUPER long dry spells, it was nice.

 

[the captians wench]

cramping so bad I keep switching from the urge to curl in a ball and cry all day to kill anything that moves.