The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[seela]

tickets to an event he'd enjoy?

This is what I ended up doing, even before I read your post. Great minds and so on.

I got him tickets to a jazz concert.

 

[Keroin]

I have no desire to procreate. When I look into my future I don’t see little bundles of joy, I see tweed and horses...does that make me a bad person? Because I’m turning 30 shouldn’t I feel the desperate urge to create offspring?

Nope

I'm 43 and still waiting for my clock to start ticking (think it must be broken lol).

The world isn't exactly under-populated. I think you can be forgiven.

I'll second that and, no, you are not a bad person.

I am 41 and I have never, ever even remotely wanted children. I have never changed a diaper in my life. When I see babies I have no urge to hold them or coo over them as other women do. Just because you're female doesn't mean you must produce offspring, no matter what the world wants us to believe.

I love my my child-free life!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I have no desire to procreate. When I look into my future I don’t see little bundles of joy, I see tweed and horses...does that make me a bad person? Because I’m turning 30 shouldn’t I feel the desperate urge to create offspring?

Just don't totally rule it out. I was dead set against ever having children. Told my husband before we married at age 23 that I did not ever want to be a housewife, stay-at-home mom and I had no maternal instinct at all. I did not enjoy holding babies, plying with other people's children...nada

Then I was having some GYN issues and when I was told I most likely would not be able to have children something switched inside me.

I never did like being around other people's toddlers or children but I LOVE my own.

Though now both of my babies are teens, my son is now an inch taller than me. I am so proud of them. And of me. My maternal instinct did end up kicking in, two weeks after I found out I was pregnant.

There is a very good chance you won't change your mind. It's not for everyone. But just thought you should know sometimes minds can change.

 

[chy_girl]

I don't think this i s a phone call I'm going to want to make.

 

[the captians wench]

Then I was having some GYN issues and when I was told I most likely would not be able to have children something switched inside me.

This might be why mine went off with avenge.

I did know I wanted children when I was younger, I didn't care for the idea of a baby, but I wanted children.

When I turned 19 (just after my step father died, newly married) I had a rather rude OB/GYN very bluntly tell me that I would have to have help having children. And you know the old addage "you always want what you can't have". At that moment I needed a baby.

I've since learned that while it would be difficult, it's not as impossible as the doc seemed to make it, but I guess once it's set off it's hard to quiet.

 

[the captians wench]

Time to get off my duff and get stuff done!

 

[ShyVixen]

Thanks for the comments Cattypuss, The Captains Wench, Etolie, Keroin and ecstaticsub

A lot of people I went to high school with are now settled with children, or expecting. I keep thinking I SHOULD feel in some way maternal and I don't.

ecstaticsub - I won't rule it out, I can completely understand what you are saying

 

[Keroin]

Thanks for the comments Cattypuss, The Captains Wench, Etolie, Keroin and ecstaticsub

A lot of people I went to high school with are now settled with children, or expecting. I keep thinking I SHOULD feel in some way maternal and I don't.

ecstaticsub - I won't rule it out, I can completely understand what you are saying

I would say if the maternal thing kicks in, great, enjoy, but otherwise drop the notion that you "should" feel anything. That's rubbish.

I spent years listening to people tell me "You'll change your mind" or "Just wait, you'll see", as if the lack of desire to have children was some kind of physical defect to be magically cured with time.

Everyone's unique and if you don't suddenly wake up wanting to be pregnant one day, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.

 

[Cattypuss]

Everyone's unique and if you don't suddenly wake up wanting to be pregnant one day, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.

Hear, hear.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm having a new love afair with my ruffler foot.

 

[Cattypuss]

I'm having a new love afair with my ruffler foot.

What's a ruffler foot?

 

[the captians wench]

What's a ruffler foot?

It's a foot for my sewing machine that will gather for me. It sort of pushes a tuck in every so many stiches. So I don't have to pull gather, or hand gather, or what I usually do, pin quarter sections and smoosh together.

Looks so much more even, and goes so quickly!

 

[chy_girl]

Why is it that the days that are perfect for crawling under the bed covers and pretending the world doesn't exist are the days that it's least possible to do so?

 

[Mads]

God I'm sick of arrogant pricks with no interpersonal skills blaming their run ins on people in my profession,

 

[graceanne]

Because I’m turning 30 shouldn’t I feel the desperate urge to create offspring?

No. And this is coming from someone who loves kids.

This might be why mine went off with avenge.

I did know I wanted children when I was younger, I didn't care for the idea of a baby, but I wanted children.

When I turned 19 (just after my step father died, newly married) I had a rather rude OB/GYN very bluntly tell me that I would have to have help having children. And you know the old addage "you always want what you can't have". At that moment I needed a baby.

I've since learned that while it would be difficult, it's not as impossible as the doc seemed to make it, but I guess once it's set off it's hard to quiet.

I have a cousin who doesn't want kids, but won't get her tubes tied cause she knows how contrary she gets, and is worried she'll suddenly NEED a child if she gets her tubes tied. lol

but otherwise drop the notion that you "should" feel anything.

QFT - for anything, not just having children.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I just had a jar of pasta sauce explode all over me and the floor at the supermarket.

Talk about mortified.

 

[OzoneRed]

I just had a jar of pasta sauce explode all over me and the floor at the supermarket.

Talk about mortified.

Glass jar explodes. Pasta sauce everywhere, looking like blood. Yeah, mortified would be the least of it. You have my sympathy.

Assuming you didn't drop and break the jar, the contents must have been under pressure. Which means there must have been bacteria in the jar. Which means it wasn't really your fault.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Glass jar explodes. Pasta sauce everywhere, looking like blood. Yeah, mortified would be the least of it. You have my sympathy.

Assuming you didn't drop and break the jar, the contents must have been under pressure. Which means there must have been bacteria in the jar. Which means it wasn't really your fault.

Explosion might've been overstating it a bit.

But, the lid came off while it was in the basket, lord only knows how, so pasta sauce ran down my leg, splattered on my foot, and left a trail for 3 - 4 metres behind me by the time it'd gotten cold and wet and my foot and made me stop to see wtf was going on.

And it wasn't a trail of a few drips either, it was the bulk of the contents of the jar. Gross.

Oh, and all over my groceries, purse and car keys that were in the basket. Good thing I'd pocketed my phone!

 

[intothewoods]

Thanks for the comments Cattypuss, The Captains Wench, Etolie, Keroin and ecstaticsub

A lot of people I went to high school with are now settled with children, or expecting. I keep thinking I SHOULD feel in some way maternal and I don't.

ecstaticsub - I won't rule it out, I can completely understand what you are saying

There is no one way to feel about kids. I didn't always wanted kids, never played with dolls or did any of that other stuff, and I now love being a mom. But it's perfectly okay to never want them, have them, whatever. People will always have their two cents to share on this topic -- you can have one and when are you having another, you don't have one and you're just married so when are you having one, blah blah. Just shut that shit down.

The only thing I think it's important to remember is to have a good gynecologist. Sometimes infertility is the manifestation of an underlying issue, and some women who don't want kids end up paying less attention to their gynecological health. So don't do that.

 

[minx1]

Hoping the tropical cyclone thats approaching doesnt come too close tomorrow

 

[chy_girl]

praying for daylight...

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Hoping the tropical cyclone thats approaching doesnt come too close tomorrow

Bianca's chasing you now?

Yuck, tell it to go away by next week, please.

 

[minx1]

Bianca's chasing you now?

Yuck, tell it to go away by next week, please.

Yeah she's meant to hit sometime Sunday, just a bit unpredictable where! lol

OMG the humidity is something else but I am glad I've got through saturday night with power!

Have you had her already?? I will have a word and tell her to leave by Monday chick

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Yeah she's meant to hit sometime Sunday, just a bit unpredictable where! lol

OMG the humidity is something else but I am glad I've got through saturday night with power!

Have you had her already?? I will have a word and tell her to leave by Monday chick

Monday week, please. I dislike humidity, make it nice and walm, pleasethanksbai.

 

[Keroin]

The only thing I think it's important to remember is to have a good gynecologist. Sometimes infertility is the manifestation of an underlying issue, and some women who don't want kids end up paying less attention to their gynecological health. So don't do that.

Huh?

I don't think Shy said she was infertile. She just doesn't want kids.