Drunken sex scene - How to??

[EnclosedOne]

So I'm sitting here just chugging along typing whatever is coming to my mind and somehow I have ended up with my main female character drunk and trying to get the main male character (who is not drunk)to give in and satisfy her needs. The problem with this is that I have no idea whatsoever as to how to go about writing a drunken (possibly wild) sex scene.

I don't drink nor do I hang out with people who do so I really don't have any personal experience with how drunks behave.

any pointers on this subject would be greatly appreciated!

 

[PennLady]

So I'm sitting here just chugging along typing whatever is coming to my mind and somehow I have ended up with my main female character drunk and trying to get the main male character (who is not drunk)to give in and satisfy her needs. The problem with this is that I have no idea whatsoever as to how to go about writing a drunken (possibly wild) sex scene.

I don't drink nor do I hang out with people who do so I really don't have any personal experience with how drunks behave.

any pointers on this subject would be greatly appreciated!

Who's POV is the scene from? And how drunk is she? Enough to loosen inhibitions but still stand up? I don't drink much, either, nor have I been around any of my friends when they wee drunk. There's a range of behavior, though, I'm sure. Some people are slightly buzzed on a couple of beers, others are fall-down drunk after maybe three.

And how about the guy? Is he put off by a person being drunk? Is he amused but not drinking b/c he's the DD? Hard to answer to much without more context.

 

[EnclosedOne]

Who's POV is the scene from? And how drunk is she? Enough to loosen inhibitions but still stand up? I don't drink much, either, nor have I been around any of my friends when they wee drunk. There's a range of behavior, though, I'm sure. Some people are slightly buzzed on a couple of beers, others are fall-down drunk after maybe three.

And how about the guy? Is he put off by a person being drunk? Is he amused but not drinking b/c he's the DD? Hard to answer to much without more context.

the scene is from her POV
I wouldn't say she's totally drunk but she is pretty buzzed, slurring her words and not able to walk straight.
the guy isn't drunk because he is used to it and he's persistant in his attempt to get her home before she does something she'll regret and I would say he is slightly amused. This is kind of a first date scene going on and he didn't know she'd never had alchohol before.

not sure if i should lead them up to drunken sex or cockblock her for now lol

 

[PennLady]

the scene is from her POV
I wouldn't say she's totally drunk but she is pretty buzzed, slurring her words and not able to walk straight.
the guy isn't drunk because he is used to it and he's persistant in his attempt to get her home before she does something she'll regret and I would say he is slightly amused. This is kind of a first date scene going on and he didn't know she'd never had alchohol before.

not sure if i should lead them up to drunken sex or cockblock her for now lol

Well it would seem to me -- and I am by no means an authority -- that if she's drunk enough to slur words and not walk straight, she's beyond "buzzed." Also can't imagine she'd be much good in the sack at that point, but I wouldn't know.

Is the story written in first person or third? That might make a difference as well. I was thinking that if she's so drunk, but the story's in first person, it'd be hard for her to be that drunk, plus relating the events.

 

[EnclosedOne]

Well it would seem to me -- and I am by no means an authority -- that if she's drunk enough to slur words and not walk straight, she's beyond "buzzed." Also can't imagine she'd be much good in the sack at that point, but I wouldn't know.

Is the story written in first person or third? That might make a difference as well. I was thinking that if she's so drunk, but the story's in first person, it'd be hard for her to be that drunk, plus relating the events.

I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to the difference between shit faced drunk and really buzzed so I've ended up ditching the idea of a drunken sex scene for a drunken fight with another character. However, since I still like the idea for possible later use I would love any tips on how to do such a scene.

and the story is from first person too, currently, her POV.

 

[PennLady]

I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to the difference between shit faced drunk and really buzzed so I've ended up ditching the idea of a drunken sex scene for a drunken fight with another character. However, since I still like the idea for possible later use I would love any tips on how to do such a scene.

and the story is from first person too, currently, her POV.

Oh, I think the drunken sex scene isn't a bad idea. You may want to have it later, like you said. Perhaps she could get buzzed enough to get past her inhibitions, or lower her guard or whatever, and convince the guy to go to bed with her. I'm curious if the guy wants this -- is he a friend who has wanted to? Would he "take advantage" of her in this situation, if he saw it that way?

Do I ask too many questions?

 

[SimoneLisbon]

I'm a bartender sometimes, and I did the whole drunken state in college. I could two fist my beers and everything. Now I just have a little Bailey's in the coffee from time to time. In theory alcohol makes a person horny. I say in theory because what it actually does is depresses a person. Alcohol is a downer, intoxication can lead to feelings of lonliness and unihibited behavior. There's a need to compensate by flirting, speaking louder than necessary, and a lack of muscle tension, hence, fall down drunk...If your character is too drunk, she won't be having sex, she will be raped instead. She can't give informed consent if she passes out from her intoxication.

I think you may be asking what it's like to be really really really drunk. My own experience is I'm fine for a while, as I finish my 3rd or 4th drink. I'm a smoker when I drink. I do it on purpose to gage how drunk I am. If I don't want a cigarette it's time to quit drinking because I'm about to move beyond buzzed into drunk. Once in awhile I cross that line willingly, but the result is always the same. I feel euphoric and dizzy and I'm running to the bathroom to urinate like a diabetic especially when I have beer. Once I get horizontal, the room spins but my body and mind feel light as a feather until I finally need to vomit. Once I've passed the dry heave state of vomiting, I drink a lot of water and take an aspirin.

Some people blackout, I do not because I always take a drink knowing both my parents were alcoholics. I can count on one hand and two fingers the amount of times I've been fall down drunk as a result. I hope that helps you with your writing. And if you're after a sex scene, the more details the better. At least this gives you an idea of what a drunk person does and feels while drunk.

 

[1sickbastard]

Drunk sex, in my experience, really, really SUCKS!

I don't like having sex with women who are drunk-fucking a dead starfish may be a turn on for some guys, but I like my sex to be interactive.
And I don't like being drunk for sex either, same reason, plus there's the phenomina known as 'brewer's droop'. Mostly I don't like being intoxicated if I have to interact with anyone.

There are better ways to lower one's inhibitions, but if you're determined, I would recomend allowing the characters no more than a drink or two, as part of setting a mood.

That's my two cents, but only because you asked...

 

[NikkiBastion]

Drunk Sex

Hi

This will be my first post here at all - new to the site itself and delving into adult fiction, and this looks like an excellent little resource for learning and networking.

So, that being said, this question caught my eye and I'd like to help you answer your actual question with some experience on my side. Yes, I've had drunk sex and while it's not the best sex to have, it didn't always suck.

First, a couple of truths about alcohol - many people are under the erroneous assumption that alcohol causes you to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do, and so like to use alcohol to justify behavior they wouldn't have done otherwise. Not only having experience with enjoying my tequila, and having been bitten by the hair of the dog, I'm also a long time bartender, having worked in numerous bars and clubs of all types and there are some alcohol facts that would come in handy for you to keep in mind.

Alcohol is a truth serum. It does not cause antithetical behavior in any measure. It facilitates behavior we'd already do anyway - it brings down our sober social barriers and what is already inside us to do will be more apt to come out. A character who would never have sex with another character sober will NEVER have sex with that character while drunk - least not by choice. That character would be more inclined to boldly deliver every reason under the sun as to why he or she will NEVER have sex with the other one.

Things we wish we could say sober will come hurling out of our mouths the more tanked we get.

Men can consume more alcohol than women before getting sauced.

The smaller the frame, the quicker the buzz. For example, I am a petite woman of 5'2. I can hit a double shot and be grinning my ass off in 5 minutes. I can, over the course of several hours, have 8-10 shots and maintain. Those same 8-10 shots in one hour will probably kill me ;-p

Buzz happens first, usually off a couple shots or drinks. The mood is upbeat, social, friendly (with everyone) and lots of hugs, love everybody. The slurring and stumbling is coming on but you'd still capable of coherence.

After half a dozen drinks or shots in a shorter period of time, the drunkenness comes on, the slurred speech and lack of coordination comes, the warped conversations (we all sound retarded at this point), and then comes the bartender's nightmare: drunk people repeat the same thing over and over and over and over and over and over until you want to shoot them in the head. "Did Iiiiii ever tell youuuu hoooow much you look like Brad Pitt" teehee did I spit on you omg sorryyyy heeey my mom drives a car like that....did I teel you hoooow much you look like...um...that guy...Prad Bitt! You dooo! I just looooveeeee you soooo much...and this is the funnest nigh...hey, you look like Brad Pitt, anyone ever tell you that? " (retarded). Five minutes later, same question.

Sex while buzzed is usually hot and fun, the high is pleasurable and the orgasm is intense. Sex while drunk is less enjoyable, and the more "active" it is, the more likely the drunk one rolls over and pukes on the floor during it because of motion turbulence. Or pass out completely.

Shitfaced usually won't make it to the "spot" for sex, shitface usually falls off the barstool and gets carried to the car and is out of it for the duration.

Shitfaced usually won't have clear details but drunk will...and drunk memories of having done something they're embarrassed they did will almost always be met with selective amnesia, blaming it on the booze as if they are no longer accountable for their behavior while 'under the influence.'

They are.

Buzz remembers and laughs, or blushes and facepalms...or cheers. Drunk remembers and pretends it didn't happen or they don't remember...shitfaced, something happened and it probably wasn't pretty and why do their pants smell like barf?


Hope that helps!

 

[PennLady]

Buzz remembers and laughs, or blushes and facepalms...or cheers. Drunk remembers and pretends it didn't happen or they don't remember...shitfaced, something happened and it probably wasn't pretty and why do their pants smell like barf?

Hope that helps!

Nikki, I know I wasn't the one that posted the original question, but thanks so much for sharing this. This is a great rough basis for stuff like that. I don't think any of the characters in my stories have ever been drunk and probably that's b/c I don't really know how to make a character act that way properly.

Thanks so much!

 

[1sickbastard]

I once read a short story by Tolstoy (Yeah, a short story, he actually wrote more than a few!)
About alcohol.
The condensed version; The Devil sends an imp to a village to do, well, impish things. The imp invents alcohol & proceeds to get the entire villiage drunk, and a period of debauchery ensues, including theft, murder and all manner of sexual perversions.
Delighted with the work of the imp, the Devil asks about the potion drunk by the villiagers, speculating the the imp must have included the blood of any number of animals (ex; pig, goat, wolf, each animal representing one of the sins commited by the villagers in their inebriated state).
The imp replied, that no, no blood was used or needed, humans have all these traits in them already. Alcohol merely freed the humans to respond to their base instincts.

Insightful, No?

 

[PennLady]

I once read a short story by Tolstoy (Yeah, a short story, he actually wrote more than a few!)
About alcohol.
The condensed version; The Devil sends an imp to a village to do, well, impish things. The imp invents alcohol & proceeds to get the entire villiage drunk, and a period of debauchery ensues, including theft, murder and all manner of sexual perversions.
Delighted with the work of the imp, the Devil asks about the potion drunk by the villiagers, speculating the the imp must have included the blood of any number of animals (ex; pig, goat, wolf, each animal representing one of the sins commited by the villagers in their inebriated state).
The imp replied, that no, no blood was used or needed, humans have all these traits in them already. Alcohol merely freed the humans to respond to their base instincts.

Insightful, No?

I have an MA in Russian Studies and never got to read that story. Damn. I'll have to look it up.

 

[davion2308]

Warning Bells!

A problem exists. The general rule is "Write what you know." You don't know what it's like to experience drinking and the effects and it'll be hard to pass it off as realistic. When kids in movies act like they're drunk, they seem goofy. There's a threat of that here as well. I don't want to pooh-pooh what you're doing, I want you to be aware of what may happen.

Try experimenting? Shelf the work for a bit, go out, drink, and see what it's like. If you're underage, that's cool, don't try it. Go find some people, for research purposes only, and see what they're like when they drink. Immerse yourself in the environment and you'll find writing about it more realistic and fun.

If that sounds like nothing you want to try, drunk people are generally very open and specific about what they want, they repeat themselves, they have poor hand-eye coordination, and can't talk well. But they act. They just decide to do things and then do them. Your female character could try persuading the guy to have sex with her. If he turns her down, she just takes off her shirt to try to be sexy. If that doesn't work, she puts her hand in his crotch. She does things. She's constantly acting and moving.

Try writing some story, post it, and we'll all tell you where you need to be and if you require changes.

Good luck!

 

[evanslily]

A problem exists. The general rule is "Write what you know." You don't know what it's like to experience drinking and the effects and it'll be hard to pass it off as realistic. When kids in movies act like they're drunk, they seem goofy. There's a threat of that here as well. I don't want to pooh-pooh what you're doing, I want you to be aware of what may happen.

LOL. I take your point, but if we all stuck to writing what we know, our writing output would dry up pretty quickly. No one would ever write stories about vampires for a start...

Research is the key, I'll agree. But actually, Nikki's post sums up the stages of the slide into drunken debauchery rather nicely for me. Not that I'd really know, of course.

 

[yuna1981]

Nikki - Nice post! Very useful.

One idea given the difference between buzzed and s---faced, would be if the character was buzzed but pretending or deluding herself that she is drunker than she actually is. This way it gives herself an excuse to act the way that she secretly wants to act...

 

[Mister_Shy]

Enclosed One,

The useful thing about being drunk (in a story anyway) is that it can hit in many different ways. The great thing from a literary perspective is that you are in control of your character's personalities - therefore you can define how she or he will behave after having loosened up.

I have known some folks who get very quiet and tend to stare at what they want when drunk, be it a past or present sexual partner. Think about being in a crowd or sitting at a cafe table and seeing someone who catches your interest, either they're weird looking or pretty or etc. You'll stare at them as long as you can until you think they're about to look up or hastily take your eyes away when they catch you looking. You have the same interests/urges when drunk but tend to be more fully given over to that interest/urge. But it's not as if you don't know better. You can freely extrapolate from that into other behaviors and actions.

Some get belligerent, some get funnier, but almost everybody is more talkative. Personally I get either very agreeable or very opinionated, and sometimes downright unbearable. These examples, I hope, will set up a good head space for your characters.

 

[SonicErotica]

I would suggest that the main way to get a drunk sex scene to actually be a sexy read is to focus on the lowered inhibitions that alchohol facilitates. Just have her really forward and sure of what she wants, and perhaps she shows/offers something that he just can't resist. Maybe she jumps on the bed and starts touching herself and demands that he stays to watch? Yes there will be some sloppiness from her poor balance/slurred words, but with skilled writing you could make those come across as endearingly offsetting her raw sexual desire - which will be the winning factor.