cuckhold training?

[laughingcyote]

I am real new to all this but over the past few weeks I've been reading all stories here about guys being turned in cockholds. Three weeks ago, I didn't even know what the word meant. I love the stories and can't enough. They get me instantly hard and I cum like crazy after reading them. Does this make me Cuckhold in waiting? Strangly, I hope so. The only thing is my wife would never go for this. She is very consevative when it comes to sex. So can you be cockhold to a mistress? And if so how do I find one? I think I really want to try this, but I have no idea how to go about it. Can anyone help? It's a side of that I want to explore.

 

[sardoniclaugh]

Clearly, you need to leave your wife and find a woman who won't be faithful to you. If you really want to be a traditional cuckold.
On the other hand, you could be unfaithful to your wife and find a lover who will be unfaithful to you, but that makes you less a cuck than a cheating bastard* who likes to watch people fuck.
Maybe you just like to watch people fuck. Have you met my friend Porn?


*not that there's anything criminal about cheating on your wife. It's just in the areas of ethics and morals and civil law that you run into snags.

 

[laughingcyote]

Thanks for nothing

I can't leave my wife for numbers of reasons not to mention that i love her and she is not into this. Being a Cheating Bastard is not my first choice either being submissive by nature but if I am ever going to experince something like this do I have a choice. I'd like hear from some Female Doms or other male cuckholds

 

[MsDeanne]

I wish my hubby was turned on by cuckolding....truly.

 

[curious476]

I wish

I wish I was your husband!!

 

[old_scratch]

I can't leave my wife for numbers of reasons not to mention that i love her and she is not into this. Being a Cheating Bastard is not my first choice either being submissive by nature but if I am ever going to experince something like this do I have a choice. I'd like hear from some Female Doms or other male cuckholds

Cuckold doesn't mean that you cheat on your wife, rather cuckold involves her being unfaithful to you.

Just curious, do you want to just watch your wife have sex with another man, or do you want to be a cuckold husband? There is a difference.

 

[laughingcyote]

I know that ...I do think I want to be cockold. But I realized tonight that i can't bring that up to her because I fear that it may ruin the relationship. What I need is a dom guy to seduce my wife with my help so that I can catch her in the act and not only tell her it's OK but to excitely show her that it turns me on too. Am I sick or what?

Cuckold doesn't mean that you cheat on your wife, rather cuckold involves her being unfaithful to you.

Just curious, do you want to just watch your wife have sex with another man, or do you want to be a cuckold husband? There is a difference.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I know that ...I do think I want to be cockold. But I realized tonight that i can't bring that up to her because I fear that it may ruin the relationship. What I need is a dom guy to seduce my wife with my help so that I can catch her in the act and not only tell her it's OK but to excitely show her that it turns me on too. Am I sick or what?

No, not sick. But a bit of a douche. It's all good and well to have a fantasy, but to manipulate someone else into fulfilling it for you is nasty.

I mean, you think that telling her what you're into might cost you the relationship, but tricking her into fucking some other dude won't?

Weird.

Just tell her. She might actually like the idea. But don't just blather it out. Find some stories etc that really do it for you that show the woman in an empowered position, so that she can see she can have a good time, and not have it be all about you. If she seems interested, show them to her. If she doesn't, leave it be.

 

[subwannabe]

Just had to point these things out:

1. You love your wife

2. you feel it may ruin your relationship if you tell your wife

3. you don't seem to be worried about what will happen to your relationship if you get caught cheating

It always amazes me how much guys love their wives, can't divorce them for a number of reasons, but aren't really worried about what will happen if they get caught cheating. I guess they just seem to think that they won't get caught. It will eventually catch up to you. Look at Tiger Woods. He cheated with about 13 different women over several years and got away with it! (until he got caught)

 

[laughingcyote]

You don't understand. Now, I don't want to cheat on her I want her to cheat on me. In talking with some bull males here i now understand cheating on here is not what i want. so please quite the tiger comparsions as sure he is a stud. I am not!

I just can't tell her what i want like some of you have suggested. I have never been able tell a women what i wanted them to do to me sexually. I have never understood why but I beginning to understand , thanks to some of you, that it because I am a sub. The problem is I maybe married and in love with another sub too. I need someone to help me find out if we can unleash her dominate side and have her take advantage of me. This could be either a dom male or couple. My most recent thought that is probably all messed up too ( I am sure some of you will let me know) is that maybe I can make a pack with a cockolding wife to met my wife and expose her to the lifestyle. I am not sure what I could offer to repay the favor but open to ideas. Would joy of pluggging another male into a cockoldship be enough or is there someting I could do to her or her husband.

Are there any experinces cockolding women out there that can help with advice or that live in Arizona? You can respond here or directly if that is more descreet. I need your help!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

You don't understand. Now, I don't want to cheat on her I want her to cheat on me. In talking with some bull males here i now understand cheating on here is not what i want. so please quite the tiger comparsions as sure he is a stud. I am not!

I just can't tell her what i want like some of you have suggested. I have never been able tell a women what i wanted them to do to me sexually. I have never understood why but I beginning to understand , thanks to some of you, that it because I am a sub. The problem is I maybe married and in love with another sub too. I need someone to help me find out if we can unleash her dominate side and have her take advantage of me. This could be either a dom male or couple. My most recent thought that is probably all messed up too ( I am sure some of you will let me know) is that maybe I can make a pack with a cockolding wife to met my wife and expose her to the lifestyle. I am not sure what I could offer to repay the favor but open to ideas. Would joy of pluggging another male into a cockoldship be enough or is there someting I could do to her or her husband.

Are there any experinces cockolding women out there that can help with advice or that live in Arizona? You can respond here or directly if that is more descreet. I need your help!

We do understand.

Tricking your wife into giving you what you want doesn't make you submissive. You might have a submission fetish though, and that's cool, so long as you own it.

 

[Dearelliot]

I dont think a person can be called "Unfaithful" if he/she has the spouses blessing to engage..In this case the wife is having sex with another man because thats exactly what her husband desires. She might not be faithful to the vows they once took, at least it seems to me this way.
I spoke with an asian massage ladfy who said when she marries she would always obey her husbands desires..I asked many what ifs..including if he wished to trade her for sex swapping would she do it...She said it wasnt really up to her to decide this..she belonged to her husband and whatever he demanded she would do...

 

[subwannabe]

Laughing Coyote:

I do understand. But you said your wife was not like that and considered finding someone else who could treat you the way you want to be treated and then went off on a tangent about somehow getting your wife to do something you already said she wouldn't do. That's just not going to happen.

 

[HerLittlePiggy]

Some things should stay fantasies. I mean if you felt comfortable bringing up the subject of watching her with another man and she was agreeable to that then fine but you are showing a total lack of respect for your wife by suggesting first that you would look for a mistress to cuckold you and second by finding a bull to seduce your wife so she will cuckold you. You claim to love your wife but that kind of dishonesty is even worse than plain cheating because it involves her and a complete lack of respect for her wishes and desires.

 

[Ohiorob]

You sound a little confused over what you really want.

Don't dump your desires on your wife suddenly. You might begin by sharing fantasies with her. Gradually reveal your submissive desires but don't push Dom behavior onto her for your pleasure.

Let her grow into dominance gradually if it suites her.......and it may not suite her.

Over time, if you develope a D/s relationship, it might bring cuckold possibilities.

I never understand why discussions about fantasies are so taboo for many loving couples.

 

[demos]

Be careful what you wish for! Make sure you think it through, be aware of all the possible options and decide if you could cope with the worst of these.

Suppose your wife got into it, she developed a relationship with a very domineering cuckold bull, he moved in, they excluded you from the bedroom completely, they lived off your finances, word got around, your friends began to pity you, you lost not only your wife's love and intimacy but also her respect...

Cuckold situations need defined borders but when they get out of control...

I have no direct experience of this situation but from all my reading about the subject, those couples who are equally committed to the cuckold dynamic and set strict guidelines of what is acceptable, are able to separate their cuckold adventures from the conventional part of their relationship.

To test her reaction, you could always write a cuckolding story and leave it on the computer for your wife to see, or leave a cuckolding photo on the screen for her to see "by accident"

 

[shewantsmore]

Be careful what you wish for! Make sure you think it through, be aware of all the possible options and decide if you could cope with the worst of these.

Suppose your wife got into it, she developed a relationship with a very domineering cuckold bull, he moved in, they excluded you from the bedroom completely, they lived off your finances, word got around, your friends began to pity you, you lost not only your wife's love and intimacy but also her respect...

Cuckold situations need defined borders but when they get out of control...

I have no direct experience of this situation but from all my reading about the subject, those couples who are equally committed to the cuckold dynamic and set strict guidelines of what is acceptable, are able to separate their cuckold adventures from the conventional part of their relationship.

To test her reaction, you could always write a cuckolding story and leave it on the computer for your wife to see, or leave a cuckolding photo on the screen for her to see "by accident"

Thats quite a good idea about leaving it on the computer but of course you should bring the subject up but not directly,its one thing reading about it but totally another for it to actually happen

 

[demos]

"Thats quite a good idea about leaving it on the computer but of course you should bring the subject up but not directly, its one thing reading about it but totally another for it to actually happen."

You can only plant the seed of the idea and wait to see if it grows.
Best not to suggest it directly - she might say something like "Is that how little you think of me" or "Do you think it is even remotely acceptable to want to pimp out your wife/make a whore of me?"

 

[W_MA_DWM]

I wish my hubby was turned on by cuckolding....truly.

Wish I was your hubby!

 

[cromsgirl]

Agree!

Just tell her. She might actually like the idea. But don't just blather it out. Find some stories etc that really do it for you that show the woman in an empowered position, so that she can see she can have a good time, and not have it be all about you. If she seems interested, show them to her. If she doesn't, leave it be.

I totally agree with this. That is how my husband and I got into BDSM. We found this site, I was reading stories, and then I realized the ones that turned me on the most were all BDSM stories, so we started discussing things and developed our dynamic. I would encourage her to read stories on here to discover what some of her hidden turn-ons might be.

 

[laughingcyote]

lizzie and Cromsgirl,
Good advice I will try it. Therare some great stories here on domitation and cuckolding. If I sound confuse thoughout the strand it is because I am trying to figure out these feelings and what to do with them. Perhaps just having my wife at some point talk other womem that was into this might help to, either in person or through here.

 

[roomfor1more]

At least for me, cuckold has two different meanings. One meaning is more in line with a variation of having a threesome whereby your partner goes off to have sex with someone else in a one-off situation. After it occurs they share their experience with you and it becomes almost as though you had a voyeur role in the experience. Second definition is a part of the BDSM spectrum whereby you become submissive to her and arguably it done to humiliate you. Unlike the first definition this becomes a lifestyle choice for the two of you as a couple and it is a form of an open relationship whereby she is allowed to have multiple partners while you stay faithful. In addition the second definition requires more work in maintaining communication, more work to maintain the relationship, and I feel has more risk.

Moving on, your question states your wife is conservative in nature and you feel she would not go for this. Reality is the term conservative, like many other terms, are labels and it does not necessarily mean she is not open to the idea. It means that you need to talk to her and pitch the conversation to a level that you feel would be the least threatening to her. Such a move requires that you consider your knowledge of her, understand what triggers emotional reactions from her, and how to approach her so that she is not offended. I am not saying she will agree to do it nor am I saying she will consider the idea. All I am saying is that you will not know until you speak with her.

Third point my own personal feeling is if she agrees to this, you agree that she can do it, and it happens within the agreed limits then no cheating occurs. However if you decide to seek someone else out without her agreement then I feel you are being unfaithful to your wife. Having had some experience with this, my belief is that it is better to either get your wife to agree to it or love her for who she is rather than finding someone else.

Finally, from my experience, cuckolding can be both erotic and they can damage a relationship. Best thing for you is to consider what you are willing to risk and consider if you feel your relationship can withstand such an activity. If you feel that it cannot then it is best, in my opinion, not to pursue this type of activity.

 

[eastern sun]

At least for me, cuckold has two different meanings. One meaning is more in line with a variation of having a threesome whereby your partner goes off to have sex with someone else in a one-off situation. After it occurs they share their experience with you and it becomes almost as though you had a voyeur role in the experience. Second definition is a part of the BDSM spectrum whereby you become submissive to her and arguably it done to humiliate you. Unlike the first definition this becomes a lifestyle choice for the two of you as a couple and it is a form of an open relationship whereby she is allowed to have multiple partners while you stay faithful. In addition the second definition requires more work in maintaining communication, more work to maintain the relationship, and I feel has more risk.

Moving on, your question states your wife is conservative in nature and you feel she would not go for this. Reality is the term conservative, like many other terms, are labels and it does not necessarily mean she is not open to the idea. It means that you need to talk to her and pitch the conversation to a level that you feel would be the least threatening to her. Such a move requires that you consider your knowledge of her, understand what triggers emotional reactions from her, and how to approach her so that she is not offended. I am not saying she will agree to do it nor am I saying she will consider the idea. All I am saying is that you will not know until you speak with her.

Third point my own personal feeling is if she agrees to this, you agree that she can do it, and it happens within the agreed limits then no cheating occurs. However if you decide to seek someone else out without her agreement then I feel you are being unfaithful to your wife. Having had some experience with this, my belief is that it is better to either get your wife to agree to it or love her for who she is rather than finding someone else.

Finally, from my experience, cuckolding can be both erotic and they can damage a relationship. Best thing for you is to consider what you are willing to risk and consider if you feel your relationship can withstand such an activity. If you feel that it cannot then it is best, in my opinion, not to pursue this type of activity.

This is good advice, in my opinion. I'd like to add, too, that my husband began expressing his desire for me to have affairs years before I actually did, and it wasn't until a formal M/s dynamic had been established between us, with clear ownership rights and clear expectations of behavior, that it all felt safe enough to act on. He also owns his dominance (cuckold does not equal submissive in our relationship - and looking at your posts, it may not in yours either - he is equally uncomfortable expressing his sexual desires. having desires that fall outside of the norm often leads to that discomfort). He focusses instead on the masochistic aspects of the cuckold fantasies. Even with everything out in the open, and formally structured, it's challenging.

 

[hemlocks]

More stories

If you like cuckold stories there are lots of books of cuckold erotica available for the Amazon Kindle. This one is my favorite:

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckold-Eroti...VU5XWC2&s=digital-text&qid=1295328903&sr=1-38

The first story in the book is about a couple who write erotic stories for each other. That is how they get interested in the cuckold lifestyle. If you wrote erotic stories for your wife and got her to write some for you, maybe you could steer the conversation in the right direction.

 

[roomfor1more]

There is on site that I have come across that is solely dedicated to cuckolds. If you are looking for a web site with forum and stories then http://www.cuckoldblogstories.com is a good site. However I am not sure if you have to pay to join if you want to post a question, reply to a question, or submit a story. Nonetheless you can read the stories and the threads in forum for free.