First Munch
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CutieMouse
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Dress normal (street clothes), be polite.
Stella_Omega
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Remember to tip your waitperson. 
Sir_Winston54
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Be yourself.
Introduce yourself to people.
Introduce yourself to people.
mitchell67
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Take copious notes and report back within a day.
Annamichele
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Forgive my ignorance, i am new to this lifestyle. Could somebody explaine to me what a 'munch' is? Thank you in advance!
Lizzie_Borden
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Generally, an informal, unkinked gathering of kinky people.
The_D_Void
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I am looking to find a munch but to be honest I have no idea how to.
I am new to the whole BDSM scene and so I am a little lost.
How would I go about finding one?
I am new to the whole BDSM scene and so I am a little lost.
How would I go about finding one?
Sir_Winston54
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Where's Geoff with his handy-dandy munch links when you need him?
FurryFury
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Do an internet search for your area. Key search terms might include, power exchange, kinky, and BDSM.
DVS
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The word munch added will help.Do an internet search for your area. Key search terms might include, power exchange, kinky, and BDSM.
I searched for "munch groups in Oxford, UK" and this is one of the results. Try it yourself and check out the different links.
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greenjacobin
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Thank you!
I'm not exactly new to what I do, whatever it's called, I've just never paid attention to what others do and what they call it...until recently. Finding this place has been a real education! And there's sooo many acronyms!
Annamichele
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You are welcome GreenJacobin! and thank you so much Lizzie. Now where do these events take place. In public, at ppl's homes, or both?
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Lizzie_Borden
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Can be both. Most seem to be in public places though, but it would depend on the group. Sometimes they'll be at a restaurant etc, and the munch will be all. Sometimes they'll be at someone's home, and then might be followed by a play party, which you may or may not be invited to stay for.
mistressmaxine
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I am looking to find a munch but to be honest I have no idea how to.
I am new to the whole BDSM scene and so I am a little lost.
How would I go about finding one?
The D Void
Can't find a way to PM you but try Informed Consent for your area, it'll tell you all you need to know, or Fetlife.
I am new to the whole BDSM scene and so I am a little lost.
How would I go about finding one?
The D Void
Can't find a way to PM you but try Informed Consent for your area, it'll tell you all you need to know, or Fetlife.
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SimonBrooke
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In the UK, you should join Informed Consent which is a fairly UK specific social site for BDSM people. Specifically in Oxford, there's an 'Under 35s munch' and an 'Oxford Munch'; I can't see any dates published for January yet but when they are they'll be here.
DVS
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So, you didn't like my link?
Felix_Jones
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I suspect that the munch crowd, and the Renaissance fair crowd overlap.
Stella_Omega
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Munches are not costume events. Kind of exactly the opposite, in fact.
Sir_Winston54
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To the OP:
Soooo... you were planning to attend your first munch on the 4th, and now it's the 6th, and we haven't had a report yet... ???
Soooo... you were planning to attend your first munch on the 4th, and now it's the 6th, and we haven't had a report yet... ???
It was incredible, I’m so glad I went.
I was very nervous walking into the part of the restaurant that was reserved for the group, seeing a bunch of people I didn’t know. I took a seat at one end of a large table that had a couple sitting on the other side and before I knew it everyone was talking and I met several very interesting people.
I don’t know what I was expecting to see, but looking around the room it could have been a meeting of almost any type of group as the crowd was very diverse, yet still quite average and normal looking and seeming. No one who would have casually glanced in likely would have suspected what type of group was meeting, or even that it was a group. Some were at tables with friends and stayed there, others mingled.
Yet, as average and normal as everyone appeared, there was still this sense or ambiance of what each was about and why we were there. Many of the conversations weren’t about any kink or fetish in particular, though many were. That was I think the best part. To be able to just be so casually comfortable discussing things you normally can’t or don’t in public with strangers. It felt like “Pass the salt please and by the way where do you recommend to buy corsets” or “When you go to swinger’s clubs do you have to bring a partner or can you go alone” then turning to the waiter and ordering your dessert as if it was no big deal.
For me, a new experience, one that felt so liberating. I do hope to attend another and hope to develop friendships with some of the people I met there.
I was very nervous walking into the part of the restaurant that was reserved for the group, seeing a bunch of people I didn’t know. I took a seat at one end of a large table that had a couple sitting on the other side and before I knew it everyone was talking and I met several very interesting people.
I don’t know what I was expecting to see, but looking around the room it could have been a meeting of almost any type of group as the crowd was very diverse, yet still quite average and normal looking and seeming. No one who would have casually glanced in likely would have suspected what type of group was meeting, or even that it was a group. Some were at tables with friends and stayed there, others mingled.
Yet, as average and normal as everyone appeared, there was still this sense or ambiance of what each was about and why we were there. Many of the conversations weren’t about any kink or fetish in particular, though many were. That was I think the best part. To be able to just be so casually comfortable discussing things you normally can’t or don’t in public with strangers. It felt like “Pass the salt please and by the way where do you recommend to buy corsets” or “When you go to swinger’s clubs do you have to bring a partner or can you go alone” then turning to the waiter and ordering your dessert as if it was no big deal.
For me, a new experience, one that felt so liberating. I do hope to attend another and hope to develop friendships with some of the people I met there.
Sir_Winston54
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Thanks for the report! I'm glad it was a good experience for you, and I too hope that you'll be yet more comfortable going again and meeting and making friends/relationships with at least some of those there. Keep us up to date!
DVS
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I think the first munch is kind of like the first time you get to participate in kinky sex...that wow factor, is usually there, as with most any firsts. But it is nice to have that feeling that you're among friends and can speak freely.
I thought it as interesting that you mentioned looking around the room and noticing it could be a meeting of most any kind of group. And just what were you expecting?
Of course, that's exactly what a munch is suppose to be. Not kinky and not intimidating. Just normal people getting together for some food and conversation.
