Training a Sub (both male and female)

[lana316]

Hey, I'm a female Sub and I've been through several Doms who would train or retrain me in their own unique way.

For the Doms out there, how do you like to train your Sub? What do you like to have them do?

For the Subs out there, what have your Doms made you do? What was your favorite type or part of your training?

Figured this would be a great way to show others particular styles of Sub training and maybe give each other some ideas.

 

[CutieMouse]

I once had a lover who demanded my spelling be perfect and insisted on proper use of semicolons... does that count?















(I should probably mention I don't particularly believe in "training".)

 

[midwestyankee]

I once had a lover who demanded my spelling be perfect and insisted on proper use of semicolons... does that count?





(I should probably mention I don't particularly believe in "training".)

You should probably also add that your spelling and use of punctuation already require little or no training.

 

[CutieMouse]

You should probably also add that your spelling and use of punctuation already require little or no training.

It was quite a few years ago, when I'm afraid my [lack of] spelling and punctuation skills actually were in desperate need of correction.

 

[midwestyankee]

It was quite a few years ago, when I'm afraid my [lack of] spelling and punctuation skills actually were in desperate need of correction.

And you were also correctably young.

 

[Trixabell]

For the Subs out there, what have your Doms made you do? What was your favorite type or part of your training?

I love training! Its such a delicious part of the D/s relationship that feeds my love of authority and control and most certainly goes both ways. A Dom's training is less obvious and involves adjusting their style to suit the needs of the sub, especially early on in the relationship, whereas the training of a sub is at the heart of most interactions and conversations. If done correctly all of the Dom's needs will eventually be meet by their sub through proper training.

Types include: slow buildup to be able to tolerate all sorts of play (pain, cane, anal, etc.), domestic responsibilities, how to care for your Dom, dress - it touches all aspects of the relationship far beyond play.

 

[teknight]

And you were also correctably young.

You can correct age?!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

You can correct age?!

Yep. It's called a fake ID.


Does wanting to improve something because it makes someone you love happy and letting that improvement happen over time count as 'training'?

 

[karma9]

Most sub women I’ve been with are intelligent and have successful life and we relate respectfully; but when it comes to a sexual relationship with them the more I treat them with disrespect and the likes the more closer they want to be. I don’t find that strange because with their (inborn) servile instinct, they feel inferior and worthless and they get off by submitting to the will of others; and that’s where is my focus when I create for them settings and situations to live their needs and fantasies.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Most sub women I’ve been with are intelligent and have successful life and we relate respectfully; but when it comes to a sexual relationship with them the more I treat them with disrespect and the likes the more closer they want to be. I don’t find that strange because with their (inborn) servile instinct, they feel inferior and worthless and they get off by submitting to the will of others; and that’s where is my focus when I create for them settings and situations to live their needs and fantasies.

HAHAHA You're a service Dom.

 

[karma9]

HAHAHA You're a service Dom.

You don't seem to have enough imagination or intelligence to understand what I'm saying

 

[Stella_Omega]

You don't seem to have enough imagination or intelligence to understand what I'm saying

Actually, I do know what you're saying and I quite approve of your motives.

Language like their (inborn) servile instinct, they feel inferior and worthless... however, bring to mind the phrase "false assumption of competence."

"inferior and worthless" is not in the definition of any sub here-- not even osg-- in fact, especially not. But if you want to think so, and if she gets off, go right ahead. Misconceptions sometimes don't matter as much as the final outcome.

 

[karma9]

Actually, I do know what you're saying and I quite approve of your motives.

Language like their (inborn) servile instinct, they feel inferior and worthless... however, bring to mind the phrase "false assumption of competence."

"inferior and worthless" is not in the definition of any sub here-- not even osg-- in fact, especially not. But if you want to think so, and if she gets off, go right ahead. Misconceptions sometimes don't matter as much as the final outcome.

You seem to be at the bottom of the BDSM-ladder cuz you have a problem in comprehension and understanding; you associate others’ experiences with your own and you talk and think from a big ego as if you know everyone and everything

 

[teknight]

You seem to be at the bottom of the BDSM-ladder cuz you have a problem in comprehension and understanding; you associate others’ experiences with your own and you talk and think from a big ego as if you know everyone and everything

Unlike you, oh, mighty Dom? (I'm using Dom as the dutch word, btw)
Just 'cause you like to humiliate your (supposed) subs, you seem to forget- they like it and want it. We don't want your condescension, jackass.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You seem to be at the bottom of the BDSM-ladder cuz you have a problem in comprehension and understanding; you associate others’ experiences with your own and you talk and think from a big ego as if you know everyone and everything

There's a BDSM ladder, huh. Who knew?

 

[teknight]

There's a BDSM ladder, huh. Who knew?

Yup. They're trying to give an alternative to St. Andrew's cross...you know, for the atheists.
Also, yup- the people on the bottom have the huge egos- hence why they're on the bottom.
Makes purrfect sense to me...but then again, yo hablo Ingles.

 

[karma9]

Unlike you, oh, mighty Dom? (I'm using Dom as the dutch word, btw)
Just 'cause you like to humiliate your (supposed) subs, you seem to forget- they like it and want it. We don't want your condescension, jackass.

When you call yourself in your profile: ‘Smart ass (who lives) in my mind, mostly’; this says it all, illusory and phony person, with your own stupid condescension; so I don’t need to waste my time on your bullshit, Mr Jackass, that’s if you have the brain to comprehend

 

[NomadLady]

When you call yourself in your profile: ‘Smart ass (who lives) in my mind, mostly’; this says it all, illusory and phony person, with your own stupid condescension; so I don’t need to waste my time on your bullshit, Mr Jackass, that’s if you have the brain to comprehend

Posting a personal ad in your own biography is a little desperate for a Dom, don't ya think? Not to mention being disrepectful here won't win you any friends or subs...

 

[lana316]

Posting a personal ad in your own biography is a little desperate for a Dom, don't ya think? Not to mention being disrepectful here won't win you any friends or subs...

As the creater of this thread I absolutely love reading what people post and this argument/debate has be absolutely entertaining. I agree with NomadLady that karma9 is being rude, but I also find their views quite entertaining even if I personally don't agree with them.

karma9: Being a sub has nothing to do with being "inferior" it has to do with being controlled. Craving a lack of control in a sexual and/or personal enviroment has nothing to do with inferiority.

 

[karma9]

Posting a personal ad in your own biography is a little desperate for a Dom, don't ya think? Not to mention being disrepectful here won't win you any friends or subs...

I don't remember asking your smart wisdom, Miss Beauty, itself; not to mention your need to lose some 100 lbs, being a health care worker as you said in your own biography

 

[lana316]

I don't remember asking your smart wisdom, Miss Beauty, itself; not to mention your need to lose some 100 lbs, being a health care worker as you said in your own biography

How DARE you attack someone's physical appearance? What right do you have? Each of us has flaws. Should we pick on you for your apparent lack of social skills? No. Instead we were trying to politely correct your mistakes in the best way we could. If you find it so easy to pick at other's personal flaws while refusing to see your own, I don't believe that you belong on this site. Obviously my own personal opinion, but a very strong one.

 

[ImOnIt]

When you call yourself in your profile: ‘Smart ass (who lives) in my mind, mostly’; this says it all, illusory and phony person, with your own stupid condescension; so I don’t need to waste my time on your bullshit, Mr Jackass, that’s if you have the brain to comprehend

When you say this in your profile

Healthy and handsome Dominant Male, Spiritual, Tantric and Original, studied computers, English and civil engineering (USA). Adventures in French Quarter, Canada, Alaska and Europe, had my share of girlfriends too. Now that I have settled down in Amsterdam, I would like to seriously engage with a shy, submissive mature female who’s pure desire is submission to emotional humiliation, punishment, pain and kinky fucking in the same fucking order, for a permanent D/s/M/s relationship. If you are reading now and recognize yourself in my mirror; overcome your shyness and PM me now, and you will be really rewarded. You dress your sensual body in a sultry way and you are nice to look at but you feel inferior and worthless; you have an inborn, servile instinct to please others. However I’m new to this fascinating Forum, BDSM-world is not new to me, in the contrary. I might be strict and demanding; but I’m capable of empathizing, have a golden hart and my guideline is that of trust and love. Limits are negotiable, though will be outstretched. I correspond discreetly and expect the same; otherwise you will be locked in my ignore list.

The best fairytale harts are white, not golden. I'm fascinated that you've had your share of girlfriends. Do tell me more, weasel.

 

[karma9]

As the creater of this thread I absolutely love reading what people post and this argument/debate has be absolutely entertaining. I agree with NomadLady that karma9 is being rude, but I also find their views quite entertaining even if I personally don't agree with them.

karma9: Being a sub has nothing to do with being "inferior" it has to do with being controlled. Craving a lack of control in a sexual and/or personal enviroment has nothing to do with inferiority.

The terms I used are genuine and real spoken by sub women whom I know or exchange pm’s or chat with here or elsewhere. You need first to be able to understand the origin of human sexuality and its diversity and what form us to be who we are before making general assumptions, not that I care anyway. About being rude I see that you are a person with bias issues. You are still young and one day you will know by experience the origin of your craving to be controlled by another person.

 

[teknight]

The terms I used are genuine and real spoken by sub women whom I know or exchange pm’s or chat with here or elsewhere. You need first to be able to understand the origin of human sexuality and its diversity and what form us to be who we are before making general assumptions, not that I care anyway. About being rude I see that you are a person with bias issues. You are still young and one day you will know by experience the origin of your craving to be controlled by another person.

You, however, are not biased, and know everything about human sexuality. Of course. It makes perfect sense now.

"You need first to be able to understand the origin of human sexuality and its diversity"
Oh? And you do? What are they?

 

[CutieMouse]

While I can almost wrap my head around the concept of "inferior", the desire to invite a "worthless" person into one's life always confuses me. Why waste time on something that has no worth? No value?