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While honesty is best, I hope you were a bit kinder to her than it sounds like from your description. My wife knows I am bi, and she knows that I need/want dick. Burt she also knows I love and want her.
She finds it hot because we have managed to work her fantasies and desires into mine. So we are into MFM threesomes where we share his cock.
She finds it hot because we have managed to work her fantasies and desires into mine. So we are into MFM threesomes where we share his cock.
Stella_Omega
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Is that really what you said????
Way to communicate, dude.
If you meant it? Better get ready for the divorce. And start looking for an apartment.
If you meant something else? Better figure out exactly what you mean so that you can APOLOGISE And explain. And be ready for some rough times ahead. Listen, even girlyboys have to grow up. You have two issues, one is your sexual pleasure, and the other is the promises you made to someone else. It's okay to negotiate on those promises, but dropping the ball like that is not an adult thing to do. Grow up. Become a womanly man.
Way to communicate, dude.
If you meant it? Better get ready for the divorce. And start looking for an apartment.
If you meant something else? Better figure out exactly what you mean so that you can APOLOGISE And explain. And be ready for some rough times ahead. Listen, even girlyboys have to grow up. You have two issues, one is your sexual pleasure, and the other is the promises you made to someone else. It's okay to negotiate on those promises, but dropping the ball like that is not an adult thing to do. Grow up. Become a womanly man.
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FloridaCouple
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girlyboyj,
If you love your wife, apologize immediately. Tell her you may be confused about your sexuality, etc. I read some of your other posts, and you admitted to being Bi. You also stated in one thread that you have "better" relationships than you do with your wife. You've got some soul searching to do. Once things simmer down, explore why you feel the way you do.
If she is willing to go along, you could introduce role play, strap-ons, fantasies, etc to get the excitement of being with a man. But that will only work if you are not gay.
Good luck.
If you love your wife, apologize immediately. Tell her you may be confused about your sexuality, etc. I read some of your other posts, and you admitted to being Bi. You also stated in one thread that you have "better" relationships than you do with your wife. You've got some soul searching to do. Once things simmer down, explore why you feel the way you do.
If she is willing to go along, you could introduce role play, strap-ons, fantasies, etc to get the excitement of being with a man. But that will only work if you are not gay.
Good luck.
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Please tell us you didn't just blurt out " you don't satisfy me"? This is going to be a tough pill for most women to swallow, even if you are tactful about it. I have come out to my wife as a crossdresser, ( which was tough enough, and I am generally tactful). One of her biggest fears was that she was losing the man she married. Once we studied the topic together ( including addressing her fears that I may be into men) we grew together as a couple. She didn't lose me, only got to know me fully for who I am. It is your OBLIGATION as a husband, to make sure that she knows you and your intentions. Being hurtful toward her is a good way to speed along divorce proceedings and ensure that you don't have to talk to her. Many a potentially good marriage is blown apart by greed; in this case, your interest in men has caused you to (greedily?) cast aside your feelings for your wife. Are you willing to lose her? Are you sure your newfound interest is not just a fantasy or infatuation? Either way, you must put all the chips on the table, lay your emotions bare, and let her see that you're not blaming HER for anything, only trying to understand yourself. If you are tactful and genuinely caring, she may help you understand yourself- eventually. ( women are generally not wired to be rushed) Letting the cat out of the bag was easy, now you need to figure out how to tame it. Glad I'm not in your shoes.
I personally think you should have come here for some advice BEFORE you blurted something like that out that has not only scared this unsuspecting wife but has hurt her beyond what was necessary....
You've got some explaining and apologizing to do girlyboyj....
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God - you're fucked. Be prepared for long, lenghty divorce, which will leave you penniless, and without even the hope of a prayer for the future. Just to forwarn you about what to expect. You could have done this in a much more mature, tactful manner that would have saved you tons of headaches and financial expense.
Sorry to be so negative, just facing the probable outcome.
Sorry to be so negative, just facing the probable outcome.
Stella_Omega
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i wonder if he'll ever be back.. I bet he's pretty busy right now. 
girlyboyj
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Hey thanks gang I appreciate your advice and support, just so you know I was pretty tactful and am being as supportive as I can, obviously she isn't stoked but I think we've been pretty fucked for a while and this whole extreme honesty thing might be painful now but in the long run it will either save us or break us. Either way I cant keep pretending and I do love her and she knows that. Maybe she will divorce me and leave me fucked but I think that is a much better option than sneaking around behind her back, which is something I could never do Anyway I truly do appreciate all your support
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okay then.
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Jesus Christ they jumped all over the the guy in the How To thread for not being honest and up front now I see we jumped all over Girlyboy for being honest and up front with his wife. Good luck Girlyboy. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. I do feel bad for any poor soul that has been crushed. I hope you and your wife can work something out.
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Everyone here told him to be honest.
But the way he had worded it in his first post, made it HER fault "YOU can't satisfy me." That isn't honest or upfront. It's his problem, not hers. He dumped it on her with no warning-- not being honest or upfront previously.
