Breath Control

[YourPlaydoll]

I wasn't sure where to put this, but figured this forum might be best place for such a thread.

Has anyone of you ever tried breath control play? I have, with my ex-boyfriend (my current one isn't into that kinda stuff, I guess he's not thrilled and excited about possible danger of this), we did this a few times and it was very exciting for both of us. Part of it was the idea of 'what if it goes wrong' and the other part was the stronger orgasm.

For those who don't know about breath control play: it's a sexual play where, during the intercourse (or other sexual behavior) the partner controls the breathing of the other one (usually the male controls the woman's breath in straight couples). There are several ways this could be done, but the easiest way (and perhaps the safest) is by reducing air flow by using hands on the partner's throat.

This behavior can be dangerous, it's important partners know each other well, have a 'safe sign' (safe word won't help you here, since the receiver can't speak, so it's gotta be a hand sign or something) and try things slow... begin with a few seconds, and maybe go longer the next time.

If properly done, breath control leads the woman to not getting enaugh air, which makes her tighter (so more pleasure for the man) and after she's realised (and breathing again) a very strong orgasm for her too.

 

[RuReal]

Funny enough a Domme was mentioning breath control yesterday that she uses on men. She normally uses a large zip lock bag and a elastic band. I do breath control in a very limited way with my other half and she does love it.

 

[FungiUg]

I've done a little of this, mostly just hand around the neck or cock forced down throat type of thing. It does make my lover cum hard and is certainly on the list to experiment with, but I'm far from being an expert on the subject.

My lover orgasms while she can't breathe, so it's a good sign for me to release. I also keep a mental count of how long I've not let her take a breath or her breath has been restricted for so even if I don't receive a sign from her, I have a safe period to release in (30 seconds). Although I don't think I've ever hit the 30 second mark... she's normally cumming within 10.

 

[CutieMouse]

Actually, hands around the throat is not the safest way of doing things; holding your breath (at someone elses orders) is probably the safest, followed by sex whilst tightlaced, followed by a mindfuck if a baggie over the head (with a breathing hole cut in the back).

 

[FungiUg]

Actually, hands around the throat is not the safest way of doing things

Yeah, I wondered about that. The way I do it, it's pretty much symbolic and there's no real restriction of the wind pipe (and certainly not of blood flow): she doesn't breathe because my hand is at her throat, but she could breathe or swallow if she needed to. She's a good girl and obeys my intention.

 

[YourPlaydoll]

Funny enough a Domme was mentioning breath control yesterday that she uses on men. She normally uses a large zip lock bag and a elastic band. I do breath control in a very limited way with my other half and she does love it.

A Domme using breath control on males? That's much less common then men using it on women I've never tried this with anyone, TBH, but sounds interesting too.

I've done a little of this, mostly just hand around the neck or cock forced down throat type of thing. It does make my lover cum hard and is certainly on the list to experiment with, but I'm far from being an expert on the subject.

My lover orgasms while she can't breathe, so it's a good sign for me to release. I also keep a mental count of how long I've not let her take a breath or her breath has been restricted for so even if I don't receive a sign from her, I have a safe period to release in (30 seconds). Although I don't think I've ever hit the 30 second mark... she's normally cumming within 10.

IDK, but personally I can't cum while I have breathing restricted, however when realised I can cum really hard. My ex-boyfriend and I had a safe sign too, but didn't really use it... he could see on my face when the pleasure was at it's fullest But it is very important to have one arranged, since this can prevent so many accidents.

Actually, hands around the throat is not the safest way of doing things; holding your breath (at someone elses orders) is probably the safest, followed by sex whilst tightlaced, followed by a mindfuck if a baggie over the head (with a breathing hole cut in the back).

I couldn't really hold my breath while I'm fucking, but maybe it works for some people. Plus, I think the good thing about the hands is that the partner can control everything by themselves, meaning that, if you trust them and if they know you well and know your reactions, they can easily stop if they see it's not comfortable for you anymore.

 

[CutieMouse]

I couldn't really hold my breath while I'm fucking, but maybe it works for some people. Plus, I think the good thing about the hands is that the partner can control everything by themselves, meaning that, if you trust them and if they know you well and know your reactions, they can easily stop if they see it's not comfortable for you anymore.

If you want to engage in breathplay, knock yourself out. [pun intended] But please at least attempt to educate yourself about the physiology of what's going on, the risks, and how to minimize them.

It isn't about "being comfortable". It's about things like accidentally crushing a lover's windpipe, or putting too much pressure on an artery in the neck. Or maybe you normally don't pass out, but one day your blood pressure is a bit off, or there's an underlying undiagnosed medical condition, and you stroke out during sex because your lover has his hands around your throat and the conditions are *just right* for things to go wrong. THen you're hospitalized (or dead) and he's facing some very uncomfortable questions from people.

Previous threads on the subject -

Breath Play Library Threads

Having said that, do I engage in mild forms of breathplay? Yes - I once had a lover who "trained" me to hold my breath while climaxing, and it stuck well enough that now it's hard for me to not hold my breath. I really really do need to buy Pavlov that dammed beer someday...

Might I someday negotiate this with a lover to crawl further down that rabbit hole? Possibly... but when people like Netz, Ebonyfire, Homburg, and a lot of other dominant type people I respect (not to mention authors, doctors, paramedics, etc) express reservation - I respect the reasons for the reservations.

 

[FungiUg]

I haven't had enough experience with breath play to have recommendations or reservations about it myself. And yet, I do know that pressure on the arteries on the side of the neck is a very not good thing. A crushed windpipe, on the other hand, is quite survivable... so long as you're prepared to give a tracheotomy.

So even in my inexperience, I'd recommend following CM's advice and treading with caution.

 

[fuckmeat]

People generally worry about the windpipe during breathplay involving choking but the veins and arteries in the neck are far more vulnerable. I know that if I am choked with a hand at my throat I will begin to lose consciousness quickly because the blood supply to my brain is impeded. That's a very risky method of breathplay IMO. Covering the mouth and nose without squeezing the neck allows me to remain cognizant for far longer, because my brain isn't starved of O2. I also have the presence of mind to tap out when needed, something I don't have when choked. I don't know about ziplock bags but I am of the opinion that throwing any equipment into the equation just adds in new risk factors. Releasing a person's mouth/nose is far less complicated and apt to go wrong than fiddling with a ziplock, for example.

Another facet of breathplay is throatfucking, which I think is fairly low risk if you have a SO who knows your responses well and assesses your tolerance gradually, every time you play.

For me, I can cum during or after asphyxia. The key factor for me is permission or being commanded to cum. I imagine cumming during asphyxia would require a lot of trust, to be able to give in to a release like that. Cumming afterwards is probably more cathartic in an 'OMG I'm actually still alive!' kinda way.

 

[RuReal]

I have seen the debate about this type of play all over the place with different people taking different sides on the issue. Medics, martial arts practitioners, and various people in the BDSM community seem to come down on one side or the other of this practice. It even came to the point where people asked for proper medical reference and citation. I am sure the debate will continue for years to come as long as the practice continues.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Definitely not a fan of breath play, although we've done it on occasion. I do dislike it intensely, it reminds me of asthma attacks as a child.

I do like choking though. But as CM said, be careful when doing that. I've ended up looking awful afterwards if we haven't taken enough care.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Having said that, do I engage in mild forms of breathplay? Yes - I once had a lover who "trained" me to hold my breath while climaxing, and it stuck well enough that now it's hard for me to not hold my breath. I really really do need to buy Pavlov that dammed beer someday...

I've done that myself on occasion, without meaning too. It seems like everything just constricts, including my throat.

And a couple of times, I've required a solid thump on the back to get me going again.

 

[Etoile]

Tons of people on here do this, it's been discussed to death over the years. Try searching or using that library link, there's lots of good reading.

 

[SpiritRider]

By no means am I anything but basicly medically trained but I've used breathe play for awhile in a different manner.
Purchased a set of swimmer's nose plugs and use my hand over the mouth. Using the area between the thumb and index finger to hold in the plugs I can then regulate the amount of air my partner receives.

Just my 2c

 

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