Was She Symbolically Publicly Fucking Me ?

[JoyceMarieL]

Since my divorce, after a brief and sexually unfulfilling marriage, my bi feelings have become very strong. A married high school g/f and I occasionally have been intimate (mutual masturbation). Because she has a young child and her husband is unaware of her bi desires, our times together are infrequent. The few times we have had sex were extremely pleasurable; like myself she is very feminine, but she has assumed the dominant role.

Twice when we have been out for a drink and once at a restaurant, I have felt her display of affection had deep sexual overtones. Emotionally I found them very uncomfortable; physically, I was very aroused by it and filled with desire for her. We were always very visible to other patrons.

She would ask for a stemmed cherry with her drink and later use it to caress and tease my lips. After several minutes of "foreplay", she would feed it to me. She would continue stroking my lips with her fingers and eventually gently force one into my mouth; instructing me to suck on it. After a minute of two, she would withdraw it and conclude the tease with a passionate kiss on the lips.

I am still very reticient about my bi urges and have not revealed them to family or other friends. Physically, she had me filled with lust and I longed to have her pleasure my clit, if we were not out in public. The forcing of the finger into my mouth, even though it was gentle, and then having me suck on it, clearly had phallic implications. The entire tenure of the encounter also revealed me as being under her domination. Physically, I am comfortable with that, but feel she is making a public spectacle of me.

Is she symbolically publicly fucking me or am I just reading too much into her behavior and over reacting?

 

[klippert]

male view

I would have to think she is being a little rude. Though you letting it happen has fueled her fire. Tell her to stop these public humiliations. You said; she has a husband and family.... unless the hubby knows what she is up too.... she has more to lose than you.

Then again she might just be getting off watching you suck on a cheery. Try a role reversal. Take a dominate position, if she reacts the same as you did, then no, there is no 'Symbolic public fucking'. If she makes you stop, and get touchy... well then you might be closer to your answer

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

yup

Yes, she was, to answer your question directly. You two probably need some time alone.

 

[CaroleS36]

She most definitely was and as someone who is very submissive with other women I would love it. From the sound of it you liked it too. I suspect that you are submissive and you enjoyed it but you are conflicted because you have yet to come to terms with your bisexuaity. Next time go to a town a away from your home so no one knows you and roll with it. I guarantee you have the best sex of your life. Remember the most powerful errogenous zone is your mind.

 

[JoyceMarieL]

I Must Confess That You Read Me Perfectly!

She most definitely was and as someone who is very submissive with other women I would love it. From the sound of it you liked it too. I suspect that you are submissive and you enjoyed it but you are conflicted because you have yet to come to terms with your bisexuaity. Next time go to a town a away from your home so no one knows you and roll with it. I guarantee you have the best sex of your life. Remember the most powerful errogenous zone is your mind.

Yes CarolS, I loved way that little bit of public foreplay aroused me. I desperately wanted her to ravish my clit. You also correctly sensed my fear of being seen, since I haven't revealed my bi feelings. I am submissive and like to be sexually controlled.

She strongly desires me not to masturbate between our trysts, which I find difficult; especially since we haven't been alone in almost 5 weeks. And yes,, I love that also, although it makes me irritable and frustrated.

Thanks for your astute evaluation. BTW, if you ever tire of Portia de Rossi, please PM me immediately!!!

 

[Blue_shoes1980]

She would ask for a stemmed cherry with her drink and later use it to caress and tease my lips. After several minutes of "foreplay", she would feed it to me. She would continue stroking my lips with her fingers and eventually gently force one into my mouth; instructing me to suck on it. After a minute of two, she would withdraw it and conclude the tease with a passionate kiss on the lips.

OMG, I'm so wet just reading this! She's teasing you unmercifully. I would have placed my hand on hers as I sucked her finger, letting her know that tho I might be nervous, I was definitely agreeable. By now you must be crazy with desire. I have to agree with CaroleS. You need to let her know that you want to be with her, somewhere safe and private.

Then tell us all about your encounter!

~Tori

 

[JoyceMarieL]

Hoping for a Climatic Crescendo!

OMG, I'm so wet just reading this! She's teasing you unmercifully. I would have placed my hand on hers as I sucked her finger, letting her know that tho I might be nervous, I was definitely agreeable. By now you must be crazy with desire. I have to agree with CaroleS. You need to let her know that you want to be with her, somewhere safe and private.

Then tell us all about your encounter!

~Tori

Thanks for your kind words, Tori!

Yes, I ache with lust for her. This weekend will be 5 weeks, since I have masturbated or had sex. I hope we can get alone for a time this weekend. I cannot endure much more denial. I fear she "plays" my body like a concert violinist and I love it. I just wish the climatic crescendos were more frequent.

I will relate the details of our next "concert"; hopefully it will not be too long of a wait!

 

[Etoile]

For pete's sake, quit doing it in public. That's just not appropriate.

Go to a hotel room or a bedroom or something and have a great time, though.

 

[Tmmldr]

Since my divorce, after a brief and sexually unfulfilling marriage, my bi feelings have become very strong. A married high school g/f and I occasionally have been intimate (mutual masturbation). Because she has a young child and her husband is unaware of her bi desires, our times together are infrequent. The few times we have had sex were extremely pleasurable; like myself she is very feminine, but she has assumed the dominant role.

Twice when we have been out for a drink and once at a restaurant, I have felt her display of affection had deep sexual overtones. Emotionally I found them very uncomfortable; physically, I was very aroused by it and filled with desire for her. We were always very visible to other patrons.

She would ask for a stemmed cherry with her drink and later use it to caress and tease my lips. After several minutes of "foreplay", she would feed it to me. She would continue stroking my lips with her fingers and eventually gently force one into my mouth; instructing me to suck on it. After a minute of two, she would withdraw it and conclude the tease with a passionate kiss on the lips.

I am still very reticient about my bi urges and have not revealed them to family or other friends. Physically, she had me filled with lust and I longed to have her pleasure my clit, if we were not out in public. The forcing of the finger into my mouth, even though it was gentle, and then having me suck on it, clearly had phallic implications. The entire tenure of the encounter also revealed me as being under her domination. Physically, I am comfortable with that, but feel she is making a public spectacle of me.

Is she symbolically publicly fucking me or am I just reading too much into her behavior and over reacting?

Next is a place where mutual masturbation can be replaced by mutual over reacting, where symbolic fucking can be replaced by real fucking. Lucky!

 

[debbie92]

I think she has spent her whole life hiding from her BI feelings and when she is out with you she just fully lets ok of her feelings making her go over the top. she probably wakes up the next morning back in her normal life hating what she did the night before. if she could just be herself she'd be fine.

how much tme when together do you get? is it rushed and do you both feel on edge in case you are seen? i wonder if you could both find away to be together for a whole night with no worries she'd relax and be different

 

[JoyceMarieL]

Your "Reading" of Us Is on Target

I think she has spent her whole life hiding from her BI feelings and when she is out with you she just fully lets ok of her feelings making her go over the top. she probably wakes up the next morning back in her normal life hating what she did the night before. if she could just be herself she'd be fine.

how much tme when together do you get? is it rushed and do you both feel on edge in case you are seen? i wonder if you could both find away to be together for a whole night with no worries she'd relax and be different

Miss Deb,

Your reading of our situation is quite correct. When we are in public it is usually nearby because of time constraints and I am very conscious of people around me. Yes, she has concerns about being seen also, but her longing for at least "token" sexual contact causes her to openly show strong affection.

No, we have never had a night alone; even, our times together are brief and often not relaxed. We struggle with her need to get home by a certain time, trying to get her little boy to take a nap when he is with her at my apt., rushing instead of preparing our bodies and savoring a slow build-up., etc.

She has asked me not to masturbate between trysts, but I have denied myself for over a month now and am desperate for sexual release. We spoke yesterday and she has asked her Mom to mind her baby next Saturday while she goes shopping, so we can be alone. It still isn.t the same and spending the night together in bed, but it will be several hours and perhaps we can truly enjoy the "MOMENT"!!

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

think

One would think motivation would lead the two of you to devise a plan to consummate your relationship. To me, a clod of a male, asking you to refrain from masturbation is a red flag. Seems to me most probable that the greatest satisfaction in relationships happen when both parties get great satisfaction.
I do hope you are enjoying the buildup and tension.

 

[JoyceMarieL]

I Want Release So Much!

One would think motivation would lead the two of you to devise a plan to consummate your relationship. To me, a clod of a male, asking you to refrain from masturbation is a red flag. Seems to me most probable that the greatest satisfaction in relationships happen when both parties get great satisfaction.
I do hope you are enjoying the buildup and tension.

She is a female in a sexually unsatisfying marriage. We have been friends since high school, but only recently revealed our "bi' feelings to each other. We have briefly had sex (mutual masturbation) on a few occasions, but have difficulty being alone for any length of time. She desires me to refrain from masturbatiing between trysts because she feels I am much more responsive and submissive, when I do.

Yes, the sexual tension is becoming overwhelming; I spoke with her yesterday and she will try hard for us to be alone this weekend. I told her I plan on masturbating, if we can't meet. I feel I have complied, as best I could and can't deny myself any longer.

 

[ShyLana]

What a tease....

I should be working, but jumped on here. I am so "in the closet" I wouldn't know what to do with her. Hmmm, maybe I would.

 

[JoyceMarieL]

Alone at Last!

Next is a place where mutual masturbation can be replaced by mutual over reacting, where symbolic fucking can be replaced by real fucking. Lucky!

I am happy to report that my g/f and I were able to be alone for a few hours last weekend. We had a casual dinner and then sex. I did feed her a “stemmed cherry and then pushed my finger into her mouth. It was not as provocative being done in privacy, but I was still very aroused thrusting that finger in her mouth.

We spent considerable time engaging in foreplay, teasing our bodies and undressing each other. She did not actually fuck me, but held me sitting between her legs. She lubed my breasts and kneaded them; pinching and stretching the nipples. Finally, she took my hand and placed it on my clit and said, “Rub yourself”. She held me and continued pleasuring my breasts until I masturbated myself to an orgasm.

I was somewhat disappointed that my orgasm was through masturbation, rather than her fucking me. It was so wonderful to experience sexual gratification after suppressing my urges for several weeks. She questions, whether I am even bi-sexual or just seeking temporary sex with a woman in lieu of masturbation, until I find a caring loving man, who can satisfy me sexually.

Later, I caressed her nude body and then went “down on her“. It was only the second time I have eaten a woman and I continue to struggle with being clumsy and “put off” by the taste. Her pussy is totally shaved, for which I was very thankful. She very much wants it orally and I realize I must become comfortable giving it, if we are to continue being intimate.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

kinda nice

Kinda nice to know that satisfaction doesn't always come easily for others but it must be very frustrating too. It might well be that having a good deal more time would allow the tow of you to build the tension for a more satisfying release.
Putting your finger into her mouth must have been very arousing--good for you!
It ins't a good sign that she bothers to question your sexual status because it doesn't matter a whit in the long run. Can't quite figure out how your being bisexual or not affects her satisfaction. What one might strive to achieve is mutually giving and receiving where each is concerned with satisfying the other. It doesn't sound as though she's ready to give what you need.
Do you think a shower before intimacy would help you?

 

[JoyceMarieL]

You Made Some Very Valid Points

Kinda nice to know that satisfaction doesn't always come easily for others but it must be very frustrating too. It might well be that having a good deal more time would allow the tow of you to build the tension for a more satisfying release.
Putting your finger into her mouth must have been very arousing--good for you!
It ins't a good sign that she bothers to question your sexual status because it doesn't matter a whit in the long run. Can't quite figure out how your being bisexual or not affects her satisfaction. What one might strive to achieve is mutually giving and receiving where each is concerned with satisfying the other. It doesn't sound as though she's ready to give what you need.
Do you think a shower before intimacy would help you?

I feel it would be a great help to have more time for foreplay and preparing our bodies. Mentally I love foreplay and physically it makes an orgasm much more enjoyable, when I experience it.

I agree, even if I am unsure of my sexuality, it should not detract from her enjoyment of my having sex with her. Because of her marriage, neither of us see this leading to a committed relationship. It is filling a need that we both presently have for gratifying sex from a caring partner. I am very submissive to her and that is something she strongly desires, which should negate concerns about my long term sexuality.

I was unsure about the meaning of your reference to a shower before intimacy helping. If you were referring to personal hygiene, my difficulty is not related to that, but rather the actual taste of the discharge from her pussy, when I go down on her. If you meant a shower would relax me and relieve some of the sexual tension related to "performing well", that could have a positive effect.

Thanks for your thoughts.

 

[nulldev73]

...
> If you were referring to personal hygiene,
> my difficulty is not related to that, but
> rather the actual taste of the discharge
> from her pussy, when I go down on her.
....
Hmm, I'm wondering if a yeast infection or
other medical condition is a possibility. Most
vaginas' secretions are fairly tasty.

 

[ttm_mtt]

I am happy to report that my g/f and I were able to be alone for a few hours last weekend. We had a casual dinner and then sex. I did feed her a “stemmed cherry and then pushed my finger into her mouth. It was not as provocative being done in privacy, but I was still very aroused thrusting that finger in her mouth.

We spent considerable time engaging in foreplay, teasing our bodies and undressing each other. She did not actually fuck me, but held me sitting between her legs. She lubed my breasts and kneaded them; pinching and stretching the nipples. Finally, she took my hand and placed it on my clit and said, “Rub yourself”. She held me and continued pleasuring my breasts until I masturbated myself to an orgasm.

I was somewhat disappointed that my orgasm was through masturbation, rather than her fucking me. It was so wonderful to experience sexual gratification after suppressing my urges for several weeks. She questions, whether I am even bi-sexual or just seeking temporary sex with a woman in lieu of masturbation, until I find a caring loving man, who can satisfy me sexually.

Later, I caressed her nude body and then went “down on her“. It was only the second time I have eaten a woman and I continue to struggle with being clumsy and “put off” by the taste. Her pussy is totally shaved, for which I was very thankful. She very much wants it orally and I realize I must become comfortable giving it, if we are to continue being intimate.

Joyce,
I know she is a friend, and you claim in a sexually unsatisfying marriage, but I worry about her wanting you to stop masturbation when not with her. That is very controlling behavior. If you were in a more committed relationship with her, that would be fine. You can set your bounderys in that case. But trust me, she is certainly getting sex from hubby over a 5 week period. She could be exaggerating on the release she gets from it, or is herself masturbating. If she was truly going 5 weeks without any release, she would be just as horny as you are.

I think you have to ask why she wants you to only get release when she is with you. Again, that builds her ego, not yours.

Personally, I think you should move on from this relationship. There are other women and men out there who will treat you better.