Need some advice

[bubb1970]

I am almost 40 and continue to struggle with a strange problem. I can very rarely cum from vaginal or anal penetration. It usually takes me getting a blow job or very aggressive hand job before I cum.

It has been a minor problem in the past. However, now I have the woman of my dreams and I think it worries her that I cannot cum while inside her. Initially I thought it had to deal with me being nervous and not wanting to cum too quickly. Now it seems no matter what I cannot orgasm inside someone.

Anyone have any ideas that could help me out?

 

[louisa25ha]

Take a TOTAL break from masturbation for 14 days, then set up a nice meal, all the romantic things that you can think of Give her loads of oral before MR P comes through the tunnel, and I betyou'll blow your load in a minute or two.....Just my opinion, cos guys I've been out with in the past have jerked off ALL the time...

Anyway ..good luck

Lou

 

[Chrissi]

I am almost 40 and continue to struggle with a strange problem. I can very rarely cum from vaginal or anal penetration. It usually takes me getting a blow job or very aggressive hand job before I cum.

It has been a minor problem in the past. However, now I have the woman of my dreams and I think it worries her that I cannot cum while inside her. Initially I thought it had to deal with me being nervous and not wanting to cum too quickly. Now it seems no matter what I cannot orgasm inside someone.

Anyone have any ideas that could help me out?

Since you are posting in the GLBT forum, but do men turn you on?

 

[Somehowyou]

Hey I'm not gay but I like this forum the best of all. It is more fun and the people on here are more open about their sexuality and less judgmental...Now for the question posed by the O.P. I too had this problem when wearing a condom. I would have trouble cuming with vaginal and anal penetration when wearing a condom. I would have to pull it off and have my partner jack me off until I orgasmed. The problem went away. I think I was having a few stress related problems at the time. I was also using a weight loss drug that I know can subdue your sex drive. I tried Viagra and that seemed to help out. I did decide to work out on a more regular basis and eat a more healthy diet. I lost a few lbs and got into better shape. The stress issue has also subsided for the time being. I am still using the weight loss drug but I can now cum by vaginal sex.

It was funny because I would be having intercourse with a ladies of my dreams and I couldn't cum? It could also be because you are not used to your partner.

Try a little excercise, cut down on your calories add some omega threes and protein and less fat and carbs and try a low dose viagra. Maybe a half of a dose. Be careful with the viagra and read the instructions on the label. See your Dr. Tell him or her that you are having stress and not able to perform. Suggest Viagra. they will give you a few samples of a few different drugs at the correct dose.

 

[bubb1970]

I am bi, the g/f knows and is okay with it. However, even with men there was some struggle to cum. Unless he really knew how to suck a dick and then....

I will look at adjusting my diet some and see where that takes me.

 

[Chrissi]

I am bi, the g/f knows and is okay with it. However, even with men there was some struggle to cum. Unless he really knew how to suck a dick and then....

I will look at adjusting my diet some and see where that takes me.

Actually have you discussed this with your doctor (preferably a urologist)?