Okay somebody what to do what to do...ughhh!!!

[Kinkybytch]

I've been with my husband for over 6yrs already and the sex is AMAZING always satisfied however I still feel that there is something "missing" im not quite sure what..Its like he can give it to me 50 times a day and I will get off all those times and ONLY be satisfied temporarily Now lately for a good almost year and a half or so I have been having little fantasys in my head while "getting myself off" of my husband and I having a 3some with another girl and I play it out in my head and that seems to be the ONLY thing that will get me off while masturbating i dont know why. He has had numerous 3 somes 4 somes etc... him being the only guy of course in his past before me and I have done some wild shit in my past before ( including having sex with another woman) but never had any sort of 3somes.. So I am wondering why am I having all thease thoughts?? what should I do?? somebody please give some advice here!

 

[Kat73]

Same here. My fantasies are always with another girl and my hubby. My hubby was a slut before me and I was "innocent", in experience at least. The threesome thing is awesome with someone you love. I say try it! There is something very erotic about watching your SO with another woman. I have been with another couple and had a friend join us and it was amazing. What does he say about it?

 

[Kinkybytch]

Same here. My fantasies are always with another girl and my hubby. My hubby was a slut before me and I was "innocent", in experience at least. The threesome thing is awesome with someone you love. I say try it! There is something very erotic about watching your SO with another woman. I have been with another couple and had a friend join us and it was amazing. What does he say about it?

Problem was my hubby always was a slut even in our entire relationship and I always busted him. Now hes getting counseling to "save our family" so technically he has become or at least is trying to become a reformed hoe/cheater...lol
I haven't mentioned it to him because Im not sure if its the right time right now or how to go about it.

 

[Kat73]

That is a tricky one. Fortunately mine stopped before we got married. The key is being open in what you want. With us, he knew I wanted to be with another girl, but he didn't. I practicaly had to force him to be with her. Knowing that he was getting someone else off was a huge turn on to me, but it didn't happen unless we were both there. It brought out some old feelings, but we were able to work them out and are much closer and stronger because of it.

 

[Cheryl_bd]

I have a friend who is a psychologist, she tells me the fantaasies, like all dreams, are just a part of the mental process. Unlike regular dreams, fantasies project scenarios which can be stimulating in various ways - erotiic, forbidden, frighening and/or outrageous. The body requires stimulation and the mind provides.

I have had more fantasies than I have fulfilled certainly but I would have to say that as fantasies unfulfilled they hold more potential. Acting upon them has consequences, not all good, I've got about a two thirds success

 

[Kat73]

I agree with Cheryl. We called it off because of issues with the third party. But it was fun while it lasted!

 

[Kinkybytch]

See i dont want to have to force him into anything and I also dont want to create a monster by opening pandoras box with this subject. I know deep down when it comes to it he loves me and our kids but at this given moment to do it i dont think would be the greatest of idead since he sought out counseling and its brought up some deep rooted issues stemming from his childhood he didnt even relize were causing such problems. So hes trying to change his ways and i dont know if me bringing another woman into the bedroom will help what hes working on in counseling or hurt it at this point...

 

[Kat73]

You still have your fantasies...and if they are working for you now, that may be the best way to continue until he gets his issues sorted out. I feel you. It is hard to want two things at the same time.

 

[Ricanbandit]

I'd like to give a male perspective if I may. Your comment about opening Pandora's box I think is spot on.

If it was me and my wife opened that possibility, then I would go with it, but if I liked it I would definitely want more. A LOT more. Will that cause impact? I think so, especially if you allow jealousy to get in the way. How will he react to see you receiving pleasure from another woman?

the first time I had a threesome with my ex wife (at that time GF) I really kinda freaked out. seeing her being pleasured by someone else, another woman at that.

Thanking that there was no way I could compete with that, was very unnerving. But... I got over it fast and understood that this only augmented our pleasure not replaced her love for me nor her ability to receive or even want pleasure from me. Does that make sense?

Either way, best of luck and I hope you fulfill your fantasy to the fullest!