The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[graceanne]

I hate the software. Yes, I know it's all custom developed and kudos to them, but... sheesh, why? There's free software available to do message boards (looks at Literotica), why create a whole new different one? Grrr.

That too. It's sometimes really difficult to follow, because you can't quote who you're responding too, and there is no flow.

 

[the captians wench]

whoo hoo free pass!

 

[FungiUg]

Is anyone else here a fan of Eddie Izzard? If not (and assuming you like English style humour) take a peek at some of his stand up on youtube.

 

[Keroin]

It turns out that Kiwis are just as full of shit as people of other nationalities though...

'Stupid' knows no borders.

Ah, come on. I love Kiwis! They're nice as. (Even if they put beet root on their burgers).

(Spent 2 years on Aitutaki recently, rubbed shoulders with a lot of your folk).

Is anyone else here a fan of Eddie Izzard? If not (and assuming you like English style humour) take a peek at some of his stand up on youtube.

Love Eddie. Guts me.

 

[chy_girl]

Stupid man doesn't like piercings or tattoos, so I doubt he'll go for cell popping or branding. Looks awesome on you, though!

Thank you!

Maybe if he saw some of the info on it and realized that it's usually not permanent (unless you want it to be) then he'd go for it. Cell popping doesn't go nearly as deep as branding.

I just can't seem to fit in over there. I've tried, cause I like so many of the people over there, but it just never works.

QFT.
Took a look at some of the lit boards over there, but they're pretty dead. It would be awesome to have one that parallels the current crowd here and avoids some of the lesser attractive bs from there.

Is anyone else here a fan of Eddie Izzard? If not (and assuming you like English style humour) take a peek at some of his stand up on youtube.

Hi. chy. Don't think we've met yet, so nice to meet you.

And Eddie Izzard is awesome to the nth!


Good to see you back SW.

 

[FungiUg]

Hi. chy. Don't think we've met yet, so nice to meet you.

Hi chy!

 

[FungiUg]

Love Eddie. Guts me.

This one is still my favourite:
Brit vs. U.S. Movies

Although this one is good too:
Learning French

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I hate the software. Yes, I know it's all custom developed and kudos to them, but... sheesh, why? There's free software available to do message boards (looks at Literotica), why create a whole new different one? Grrr.

I agree.

It's like a bad cross between facebook and a message board.

The other thing too is that unless they have loads of programmers, coders, or web designers on staff the site will never be able to update fast enough to keep it from going stale.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

*pout* actually, I'd really rather you don't have kids before me. Yes, I know its childish, but I was the firstborn ffs! not my fault its taking so long

I have 3 younger brothers. They all own their own houses. 2 have kids, 1 is married.

My grandmother makes baby blankets for the great grandchildren. She's started making one for mine 'in case something happens to her before I have kids'

Yay, pressure.

I know how you feel Molly.

 

[intothewoods]

OK, whoa. No disrespect, but the part in bold? Really? Come on.

There are a lot of very good reasons to have children but familial and societal expectations – especially to be “the first” to have them – are not among them. Let that shit go. Honestly. Let it go. You can only hurt yourself by allowing that into your life.

I am childless by choice but I had to listen to all the “When are you having kids?” crap too. *Internal ‘ignore’ button*

You are a grown woman. Live your life.

Having read Molly's other posts on this, I don't think that's the reason she wants kids. It's just another reason why infertility is a struggle for her.

It would be hard for me if my sister had a baby before me. I would of course get over it and be a grown-up and a loving sister, but it doesn't mean it wouldn't be hard.

 

[BiBunny]

Thank you!

Maybe if he saw some of the info on it and realized that it's usually not permanent (unless you want it to be) then he'd go for it. Cell popping doesn't go nearly as deep as branding.

I may show him your pics on FetLife and whine a little to see what happens. He doesn't even do needle play on me, though, so I'm not holding my breath.

 

[Keroin]

Having read Molly's other posts on this, I don't think that's the reason she wants kids. It's just another reason why infertility is a struggle for her.

It would be hard for me if my sister had a baby before me. I would of course get over it and be a grown-up and a loving sister, but it doesn't mean it wouldn't be hard.

Wow, I understand what you're saying on an objective level but I guess I'm so far removed from any of those feelings that I can't relate. I was SO happy my sister had kids because I got nephews to play with, and Mom & Dad got grandkids. Don't know, never thought much beyond that.

I mean, I can understand being frustrated because you want kids and aren't physically able to have them but who cares what your family or outsiders want in that regard?

 

[the captians wench]

Wow, I understand what you're saying on an objective level but I guess I'm so far removed from any of those feelings that I can't relate. I was SO happy my sister had kids because I got nephews to play with, and Mom & Dad got grandkids. Don't know, never thought much beyond that.

I mean, I can understand being frustrated because you want kids and aren't physically able to have them but who cares what your family or outsiders want in that regard?

I can't speak for Molly, but I do know for me it's the fact that I want the things that they bug me about. If it's something I'm indiferent towards it doesn't bother me. But I want to be married again, and I wanted kids when I was, so to have it thrown in my face, as if these things weren't already at the front of my mind, just dug that knife in a little deeper.

It's like
"when are you going to have kids?"
"Don't you think I'm fucking trying everything possible to do just that?"
kind of thing.

 

[Netzach]

I did the following when the topic was money:

That really hurts.

You can be kind, and explain why. If they "keep forgetting" then they are lacking in some way.

I am not going to discuss this with you any further.

If this fails, removing self.

Honestly, if you explain where you are at with the having babies thing and they persist, are these people you really feel supported by?

For me, the idea that something could be none of a family member's damn business was a major revelation.

 

[intothewoods]

Wow, I understand what you're saying on an objective level but I guess I'm so far removed from any of those feelings that I can't relate. I was SO happy my sister had kids because I got nephews to play with, and Mom & Dad got grandkids. Don't know, never thought much beyond that.

I mean, I can understand being frustrated because you want kids and aren't physically able to have them but who cares what your family or outsiders want in that regard?

Well if practically every single person you encounter asks whether you're pregnant on a daily basis, and you want that more than anything in the world, then pressure from your family is kind of the icing on the cake. I don't really care what other people think either, but when it happens all the time, it can be difficult to tune out.

I'm summarizing the feelings that I've heard from my very close friends over the years. I really didn't get it until I experienced loss of my own. And that's not even the same as primarily infertility.

At any rate, I strive to be consicous and self-aware, but occasionally one's emotions bubble up to the surface and overflow. And familial relationships are typically the most challenging in that regard.

 

[the captians wench]

I did the following when the topic was money:

That really hurts.

I am not going to discuss this with you any further.

If this fails, removing self.

Honestly, if you explain where you are at with the having babies thing and they persist, are these people you really feel supported by?

This is why my family now thinks I'm an antisocial person. I simply stopped going to family gatherings. I pop my head in for major holidays, but for the most part I avoid everyone but my mom. My mom kicks ass. She's the only one I can really count on to "get me" and where I'm at. She's taken pics of bruses on my ass for Jounar, she's met the couple I was dating, she's helped me pick out collars at PetSmart, and she's even supported me when I decided not to associate with my family more than absolutely nessisary.

Every one else I tell to fuck off now. But it's taken a long time to get to that point.

 

[BiBunny]

I don't even want kids, but it bugs me when my family harps on "When are you getting married and having kids?" and other BS like that. At my cousin's wedding, it was "You're going to be next." When I said no, it was like, "Oh, well, you'll find someone who'll sweep you off your feet, and you'll fall in love with him and get married."

Look, assholes, I've already found him. But until they make polygamy legal, I reckon I'm just fucked. But you can't say that, you know.

 

[Netzach]

This is why my family now thinks I'm an antisocial person. I simply stopped going to family gatherings. I pop my head in for major holidays, but for the most part I avoid everyone but my mom. My mom kicks ass. She's the only one I can really count on to "get me" and where I'm at. She's taken pics of bruses on my ass for Jounar, she's met the couple I was dating, she's helped me pick out collars at PetSmart, and she's even supported me when I decided not to associate with my family more than absolutely nessisary.

Every one else I tell to fuck off now. But it's taken a long time to get to that point.

Yah, it's WORK getting to that point. The payoff is that the people you do have around you are gold. Maybe some of the others might have a light bulb at some point. Maybe you might feel comfortable giving them a long kind explanation at some point and the light goes off. Maybe not - and you don't owe that.

 

[Netzach]

I don't even want kids, but it bugs me when my family harps on "When are you getting married and having kids?" and other BS like that. At my cousin's wedding, it was "You're going to be next." When I said no, it was like, "Oh, well, you'll find someone who'll sweep you off your feet, and you'll fall in love with him and get married."

Look, assholes, I've already found him. But until they make polygamy legal, I reckon I'm just fucked. But you can't say that, you know.

I did begin to also learn the fine art of the bullshit "yes."

"Yeah, maybe."

"Mhm."

"Huh, what'd you say? Look how happy she looks, yay."

 

[intothewoods]

I did the following when the topic was money:

That really hurts.

You can be kind, and explain why. If they "keep forgetting" then they are lacking in some way.

I am not going to discuss this with you any further.

If this fails, removing self.

Honestly, if you explain where you are at with the having babies thing and they persist, are these people you really feel supported by?

For me, the idea that something could be none of a family member's damn business was a major revelation.

I totally agree on the boundaries.

People are generally clueless about infertility. They mean well but just don't know how physically and emotionally draining it can be. I'm a pretty together chick, and I've found it difficult to keep it together. There's a lot of unknown, there's a lot of waiting. Similar to many debilitating physical conditions which doctors don't fully understand. Only add that every mother fucker is pestering you.

 

[Netzach]

Sorry, this isn't isolated blurt, but boundaries judo has been my life's work more or less - I throw this out in the hopes that maybe there's something useful in it.

 

[BiBunny]

I did begin to also learn the fine art of the bullshit "yes."

"Yeah, maybe."

"Mhm."

"Huh, what'd you say? Look how happy she looks, yay."

Heh. Yep, guilty. I do it all the time with the more easily distractable relatives. I eventually just have to say, "When hell freezes over" to my mother because she's like a pit bull on a pant leg with stuff like that.

 

[intothewoods]

Hell yes! Well you know I love my boundaries.

 

[Netzach]

I totally agree on the boundaries.

People are generally clueless about infertility. They mean well but just don't know how physically and emotionally draining it can be. I'm a pretty together chick, and I've found it difficult to keep it together. There's a lot of unknown, there's a lot of waiting. Similar to many debilitating physical conditions which doctors don't fully understand. Only add that every mother fucker is pestering you.

In this, people who want children and are having a tough time and people who desperately do not want them can relate.

The assumption is that everyone can pump out offspring to the tune of however many everyone else thinks is ideal.

And it never stops. "Only one?" "She's got 6??? WTH?"

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Is anyone else here a fan of Eddie Izzard? If not (and assuming you like English style humour) take a peek at some of his stand up on youtube.

I LOVE Eddie Izzard! And it's interesting to see who else here is a fan...