Would you rather be pregnant or in menopause right now?

[FurryFury]

This is primarily a ladies question of course but gentlemen can say what they'd prefer thier s.o.'s be atm.

Personally, I'd much rather be in menopause which I think is the MOST likely thing. I'm one or the other, or perhaps just terribly stressed. I don't think I'm that stressed.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Menopause ends. Motherhood doesn't...

 

[FurryFury]

So true.

Menopause ends. Motherhood doesn't...

 

[where]

menopause. the idea of having a baby at ly age is horrifying.

 

[FurryFury]

menopause. the idea of having a baby at ly age is horrifying.

Agreed.

 

[sb2009]

oh dear god in heaven. that's all I can think or say.

I am not in menopause *but* I do experience an odd cycle every 6 months or so, and the fear that grips my soul when I do is, well, horrifying is all I can say.

I love babies. I love my babies. They walk and talk now and really, I just don't see going back to that stage.

So, I would rather be it be menopause than pregnancy.

 

[chy_girl]

Menopause ends. Motherhood doesn't...

Spoken like someone with their very own beasties running about...


As for the original question, I'd prefer a hysterectomy. This coming Friday.

 

[FurryFury]

oh dear god in heaven. that's all I can think or say.

I am not in menopause *but* I do experience an odd cycle every 6 months or so, and the fear that grips my soul when I do is, well, horrifying is all I can say.

I love babies. I love my babies. They walk and talk now and really, I just don't see going back to that stage.

So, I would rather be it be menopause than pregnancy.

That may also be the case with me. My husband and I are hoping I'm NOT pregnant. My kids 17 and 19 are somewhat intrigued with the idea. They've always wanted a lil bro or sis. LOL.

 

[FurryFury]

Spoken like someone with their very own beasties running about...


As for the original question, I'd prefer a hysterectomy. This coming Friday.

I would never have a hysterectomy unless is was medically called for. However, I'd LOVE to never have another period and know I wasn't in danger of being preggers!

 

[chy_girl]

I would never have a hysterectomy unless is was medically called for. However, I'd LOVE to never have another period and know I wasn't in danger of being preggers!

It is medically called for, IMO. Just a matter of convincing the doctors of that.

And I'll send lots of energy your way that the rabbit stays healthy.

 

[graceanne]

I would never have a hysterectomy unless is was medically called for. However, I'd LOVE to never have another period and know I wasn't in danger of being preggers!

This.

I would LOVE another baby. I just don't want to give birth to it. lol

 

[CutieMouse]

Menopause.

Meanopausemenopausemenopausememopause.

Did I mention I'd be perfectly happy to enter menopause like yesterday?

 

[graceanne]

Menopause.

Meanopausemenopausemenopausememopause.

Did I mention I'd be perfectly happy to enter menopause like yesterday?

What? You don't want a sixth child? What is WRONG with you?

 

[chy_girl]

This.

I would LOVE another baby. I just don't want to give birth to it. lol

There's always adoption. Something like close to 200,000 kids nation wide are waiting for their forever homes.

 

[graceanne]

There's always adoption. Something like close to 200,000 kids nation wide are waiting for their forever homes.

I wish. I cannot afford to adopt. I can afford another child, but not to adopt. This annoys me.

 

[chy_girl]

I wish. I cannot afford to adopt. I can afford another child, but not to adopt. This annoys me.

There's financial assistance if you adopt through the state.

 

[graceanne]

There's financial assistance if you adopt through the state.

Not that much, I looked into it when my friend was putting her baby up for adoption.

 

[FloggingMolly]

I'd 1million percent prefer to be pregnant. I'm 26, have PCOS and have been trying for 10 years.

However, I'd LOVE to never have another period and know I wasn't in danger of being preggers!

Unfortunately for me, this is 'normal'

 

[smallgirl]

This is primarily a ladies question of course but gentlemen can say what they'd prefer thier s.o.'s be atm.

Personally, I'd much rather be in menopause which I think is the MOST likely thing. I'm one or the other, or perhaps just terribly stressed. I don't think I'm that stressed.

menopause..any day. i DO NOT want more kids. im done with that. mine are almost grown, one already is, the other almost....i am not willing to start over..im too tired!!!

 

[infinity706]

Well, I don't really want any kids. (not because I don't like kids, because I do babysit sometimes) Menopause is definately preferable, considering I've gotten to enjoy serveral cougars.

 

[intothewoods]

Not that much, I looked into it when my friend was putting her baby up for adoption.

Well there is a federal tax credit to offset expenses.

My understanding from the limited research I've done is that it's not as expensive if you don't have a racial preference, are willing to adopt a child with health issues and/or are willing to adopt a non-newborn. And then I think there are state programs where you can foster and then adopt.

Chy - I would love to hear more.

I am really open to adoption in the next couple of years. The process is daunting to me though. Can I just confess it feels a little like baby shopping, but I feel like this is a terrible thing for me to think at the same time. Ugh.

To answer the OP - pregnant.

 

[minx1]

Definitely pregnant. There is nothing I would love more right now.
I feel the clock ticking and am worried I'll reach menopause before I am able to have a child.

I would definitely consider adoption or fostering if I am unable to have my own children or if my current circumstances dont change.
unfortunately i have already looked into both and its problematic as i am to all extents and purposes single, a non resident and nearing the age restriction.

Fury I hope whatever the outcome it is a good one for you

 

[Soumis]

Pregnant. I don't want babies right now, but at some point. So I'd rather the option was still open...

 

[Reba67]

Pregnant. Menopause seems a lifetime away.

 

[graceanne]

Well there is a federal tax credit to offset expenses.

Yeah, you have to have the money up front, though, and then you get the rebate.

My understanding from the limited research I've done is that it's not as expensive if you don't have a racial preference, are willing to adopt a child with health issues and/or are willing to adopt a non-newborn. And then I think there are state programs where you can foster and then adopt.

Chy - I would love to hear more.

I am really open to adoption in the next couple of years. The process is daunting to me though. Can I just confess it feels a little like baby shopping, but I feel like this is a terrible thing for me to think at the same time. Ugh.

To answer the OP - pregnant.

My friend was developmentally delayed, she wanted me to adopt because she knew the state would take her baby and she'd rather know who the adoptive parents are. Her son was half Mexican and very likely to have her problems. (In other words he was a minority and very likely to be developmentally delayed.) I didn't care, but the lawyers I talked to said it would cost around 10,000 MINIMUM to adopt, especially since I'd have to pay for an lawyer just for her to make sure I wasn't taking advantage of her. I don't have that kind of money up front, so instead Zak went into foster care, and after two foster homes was finally adopted. Yes, that's right. They'd rather put that baby in foster care than with a family who already wants to adopt and is willing to jump through any hoop (but the money one, which I just couldn't) to have him. I figure once me and K are done with college and have paid of bills and the like we'll revisit this issue.