the possibly inane newbie thread

[FloggingMolly]

Ok, here's a nice little out-of-the-way thread for those of us either just starting out on the BDSM road, or just new to the forum here who want to dip out toes and ease in gently.

There are alot of smart people here. Some of them are scarily smart, and I'll put my hand up now and say I don't understand or 'get' it all, but I still enjoy reading it. There is a wealth of experience, alot of which people will volunteer as examples, which is fantastic. There are some brilliant posters, who I'm looking forward to getting into discussions with.

But for the minute, I'll take it easy, watch from the sidelines, and post when I feel I might have something useful to add.

So, you're all welcome to join me. Don't worry if you're new, think you'll sound stupid, or are asking/saying something useless. This is a no judgment, no expectation zone!

A little about me: You can call me Molly. It may or may not be my actual name, but it's good enough I'm 26, live in the UK. I'm a forum addict, though haven't been on this one for a long time. I'm currently exploring my submissve leanings, and it's going very well.

Tell me a little about you?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Ok, here's a nice little out-of-the-way thread for those of us either just starting out on the BDSM road, or just new to the forum here who want to dip out toes and ease in gently.

There are alot of smart people here. Some of them are scarily smart, and I'll put my hand up now and say I don't understand or 'get' it all, but I still enjoy reading it. There is a wealth of experience, alot of which people will volunteer as examples, which is fantastic. There are some brilliant posters, who I'm looking forward to getting into discussions with.

But for the minute, I'll take it easy, watch from the sidelines, and post when I feel I might have something useful to add.

So, you're all welcome to join me. Don't worry if you're new, think you'll sound stupid, or are asking/saying something useless. This is a no judgment, no expectation zone!

A little about me: You can call me Molly. It may or may not be my actual name, but it's good enough I'm 26, live in the UK. I'm a forum addict, though haven't been on this one for a long time. I'm currently exploring my submissve leanings, and it's going very well.

Tell me a little about you?

This thread = win.

Hope the others find it.

I'm probably in the middle ground... not quite new, not quite as awesome as some of the others *laughs*

How did you discover your submissive side, now that you're exploring it?

 

[FloggingMolly]

its gonna sound very odd, but we have been doing a Live Action Role-Play game for many years, set in the 17th century. I've had a long term character for that who is naturally very submissive and deferential. The more I've played her, the more I've realised that more than acting, she was a representation of a huge part of my personality that I hadn't been expressing. It was getting to the point where I felt happier and more at peace when behaving like she would. After many, many hours of discussion, we came to the conclusion that it'd be an idea to see how it felt for me to allow that side of me to come to the fore front.

How about you? What prompted your own explorations?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

its gonna sound very odd, but we have been doing a Live Action Role-Play game for many years, set in the 17th century. I've had a long term character for that who is naturally very submissive and deferential. The more I've played her, the more I've realised that more than acting, she was a representation of a huge part of my personality that I hadn't been expressing. It was getting to the point where I felt happier and more at peace when behaving like she would. After many, many hours of discussion, we came to the conclusion that it'd be an idea to see how it felt for me to allow that side of me to come to the fore front.

How about you? What prompted your own explorations?

Tragically, porn.

I didn't have these big, defining, OMG-when-they-tie-up-girls-on-tv-it-makes-me-hot moments.

In fact, I wasn't interested in boys or sex at all. I had to *invent* a crush in year 8, just so I felt like I fit in when my friends started talking about the boys they liked. When they started having boyfriends etc, I'd get jealous, because I wanted something like that, someone who cared about me, but when it was offered by someone who would have been the most attentive, caring, cater to my every whim kind of boyfriend, I realised that I didn't want it after all.

I didn't know what it was, but I knew something was different about me.

I'd been browsing some random porn, and there was a banner ad for some bondage site. I clicked on it, and then stared for hours, looking for more. Something just appealed, and felt right. And I went from there.

 

[Primalex]

Some of them are scarily smart
[..]
A little about me: You can call me Molly. It may or may not be my actual name, but it's good enough

I bet it's Madison.

 

[FloggingMolly]

I bet it's Madison.

As my real name?!

 

[rosco rathbone]

"Flogging Molly" sounds like it ought to be a Pogues song.

 

[FloggingMolly]

"Flogging Molly" sounds like it ought to be a Pogues song.

It's the name of a band

 

[trojan_man_co]

It's the name of a band

NOT just a band... a very GOOD band. One of my fav, and as pointed out previously GOOD THREAD. im assuming by scarily smart that you were referring to people in the other sections of lit right

Well if it helps any i feel new AND old. i used to be on here quite a bit but over the last couple of years ive managed to drift in and out of here as life got to hectic or i picked up a sub here or there that demanded my attention lol. So even some people who have been here for years technically can still feel new at times especially as only a handful of old timers are still around and one way or another the majority of people who post on here fade away and others replace them.

 

[Prettywilling]

I too am declaring both my newness and my sitting on the sidelines, that should I add be newness to both the forum and 'the lifestyle' not sure what I'm going to about my interest but looking forward to some interesting and informative Reading.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

I am already in love with this thread

 

[Eva1173]

I'm new to the forum, but also new to this....I dunno..part of me, I guess

Seriously though, I've been aware of the fact that I had some searching to do in this general direction for a while now,

this place is my first careful step on finding my way, but the careful part is something i apparently already stopped taking too seriously.

There's a certain amount of risk that one needs to take in life, I think.


Anyway, I'm glad I'm here and hope to stick around for a good long while.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Trojan~ No, I did mean the BDSM section. Some of them seriously blow me away, to the point of having to google the definitions of certain words, and I've never thought I was particularly stupid. I can understand the idea of being here long term wthout being a frequent or active poster. I've certainly lurked here a great deal over the years!
So, what first prompted your exploration/realisation?

Prettywilling~ Hi and welcome hon. There's so much info here, it's hard to know where to start, isn't it? There is a good set of 'library' posts.
Have you done any stories for Lit? I keep meaning to, have 'transcript' possibly in progress, but haven't discussed submitting it with Him yet.

Vail~ I'm glad you lke, hon. I'll get me an AV in no time Incidentally, your sig pic made me think of it, but I have a paw print as part of my tattoo It's a charm on an anklet.

Incidentally, if my posts are missing an 'i' or a 'g', it's because my keys stick... if ts an 'r', it's because the key is gone :O and I had to remap the keyboard to swap it for my caps lock. I think I may have worn this poor laptop to death

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Trojan~ No, I did mean the BDSM section. Some of them seriously blow me away, to the point of having to google the definitions of certain words, and I've never thought I was particularly stupid. I can understand the idea of being here long term wthout being a frequent or active poster. I've certainly lurked here a great deal over the years!
So, what first prompted your exploration/realisation?

Prettywilling~ Hi and welcome hon. There's so much info here, it's hard to know where to start, isn't it? There is a good set of 'library' posts.
Have you done any stories for Lit? I keep meaning to, have 'transcript' possibly in progress, but haven't discussed submitting it with Him yet.

Vail~ I'm glad you lke, hon. I'll get me an AV in no time Incidentally, your sig pic made me think of it, but I have a paw print as part of my tattoo It's a charm on an anklet.

Incidentally, if my posts are missing an 'i' or a 'g', it's because my keys stick... if ts an 'r', it's because the key is gone :O and I had to remap the keyboard to swap it for my caps lock. I think I may have worn this poor laptop to death

LOL!!! squeezing every inch out of it, huh?

For what its worth, I'm not new to BD, but not much into SM. I also have a somewhat different take on it all, but, ultimately, it still comes down to power and how delicious it is

 

[FloggingMolly]

Eva: Hi hon! Sorry I didn't reply to you as well, I think your post came in whilst wass typing I'm inclined to agree, without taking risks, you run the chance of never moving forward. What led you to the Lit forums?

 

[Eva1173]

Eva: Hi hon! Sorry I didn't reply to you as well, I think your post came in whilst wass typing I'm inclined to agree, without taking risks, you run the chance of never moving forward. What led you to the Lit forums?

I've known lit for years, and it was the first place i thought of when i figured I needed to discover what it is I want.

D/s is a part that is something I know i've been missing out on, but without giving up everything I have, i figured a bit of more carefully exploring wouldn't hurt.

The D/s part is a battle between brains as far as I'm concerned, so if one wants to pursue that online, it's best to find a place where people know how to use full sentences (...or as in my case, at least try! lol)

This far I've found that, apart from D/s, I'm also a masochist Really, that surprised me, and i haven't even found out how far I can take that...

The bondage part...not my thing i think, unless it's for pleasing the one that I want to please



ok, that's it for now...nice thread btw...

 

[FloggingMolly]

I've started a journal, as a way to document my journey. I'm hoping that as time goes on, it'll be a useful source of reflection.

Today, I'm thinking about finding again the age-old checklists. I've not done one in years, perhaps a useful tool now?

How is everyone today?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I've started a journal, as a way to document my journey. I'm hoping that as time goes on, it'll be a useful source of reflection.

Today, I'm thinking about finding again the age-old checklists. I've not done one in years, perhaps a useful tool now?

How is everyone today?

Funny, you say this... I logged into my b.com account for the first time in years over the weekend, and I went and had a look at the checklists and thought 'fuck me, it would take hours to change all this!'

Muahahah

I think they are good though, to sort out where your head is at on certain issues.

 

[Jonathin101]

My question to you is "are you familiar with spankings and is that a turn on? As a Mentor and Disiplinarian I have found with the ladies that I have dealt with in r/l, all were brought up in households that used corporal punishment for misbehavior and "now miss it in their lives." Just my two cents worth. Thanks.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Funny, you say this... I logged into my b.com account for the first time in years over the weekend, and I went and had a look at the checklists and thought 'fuck me, it would take hours to change all this!'

Muahahah

I think they are good though, to sort out where your head is at on certain issues.

Any recommendations for good ones?

My question to you is "are you familiar with spankings and is that a turn on? As a Mentor and Disiplinarian I have found with the ladies that I have dealt with in r/l, all were brought up in households that used corporal punishment for misbehavior and "now miss it in their lives." Just my two cents worth. Thanks.

I was very rarely spanked, don't recall ever been spanked by my father, only by my mum. I think perhaps with me, it's more for the masculine attention (I didnt get much from my dad). In the past, being spanked by a woman has done nothing for me.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Any recommendations for good ones?

Unfortunately, that's the only one I have any experience with.

It's ok, but if you use the google-fu, you'll probably find a better one

eta; Like this one, it seems pretty alright

 

[FloggingMolly]

brilliant, thanks hon

 

[Guest]

I'm already loving this thread. Whew, I'm such a noob.

 

[FloggingMolly]

I love the word noob

 

[rida]

I love the word noob

It rhymes with boob



And welcome to you all!



(Some days I still feel pretty new myself )