Betticus... on seduction or my trip to Colorado.

Betticus

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Ok, so it was one hell of a trip. I got a call last week. The Wedensday of last week saw the passing of a friend of mine from Colorado. I hadn't actually been in much contact with her for the past five years but we've hugged and chatted when I'd run into her on my infrequent visits.

Well, the Monday before she had heard that I'd been ill and she got in touch with me to give some moral support and to let me know that I need to get better. It was awfully nice of her. I'll get to the seduction part in a bit.

Well, on Wednesday she was at work and she was having trouble breathing and had chest pain. She was on the phone with her husband while having a heart attack. Help arrived but they could not revive her and so she died at the age of 29, survived by her young daughter and her husband, friends and family. Her name is Angelina and she was very special. She did volunteer work ever since I've known her with developmentally disabled and troubled children, she was getting her degree and had planned on becoming a special needs teacher. She was always ready to help someone in need or to come down hard on someone who was a jerk. She also loved to sing and had a beautiful voice and she loved to dance. The funeral was a huge event.

So my trip to Colorado was not for any sort of seduction but to say goodbye to a person whom the world will miss.

When I go to Colorado I stay with my ex since now we are best friends. When I dot there my car was making a terrible noise which turned out to be the water pump. The bearing was grinding itself to death so I had to replace it. A friend let me use his garage, I had all of the tools with me because if you own a Fiero... you learn fast to take a whole set of tools with you. It was a two day project and was done in between buying new dress clothes because my old ones are huge on me now... attending the funerary events and being sad. My ex was having bad migraines when I got there but she let me use her car to get parts. She was feeling better the next day and she ran me about so I could work on the car and she also got to visit with some old friends. I got the car done the night before I had to leave since I had to be at work at 11pm Thursday.

I've been accused of being self centered and of dwelling on the negative stuff but hang in there.

With everything done and no more obligations, having said goodbye to everyone we went back to my ex's place. I was thinking of the situation and decided that I would have to tell her that I can't be her friend anymore while in this same situation. I'm not one to just roll over and give in though so I also decided that I was being too damn nice. So, I slipped into the dominant role.. mild dominance so don't panic and I seduced her. It's been a long time and I've changed, learned a lot.. especially from you lovely people here and the bdsm group in El Paso. I just took control of the situation, made it clear what I was going to do and then took her. I wasn't a dick about it, we built a lot of trust back up.. even more than we'd had before. I even let her switch me for a while and she liked it but she said that she liked it better when I was in control but like I said, it built trust.

So, in a way I have the submissive girl that I love back but in a long distance kind of way. I haven't pushed for more since that makes her feel trapped but she knows I want her with me. I think I'll ask you for advice and thoughts about how to handle that.

This past week I've been through pain, heartache, disappointment, sorrow, love, joy and peace.
 
I'm very sorry about your friend.

And I think that the way you're going is the way with her. I've been saying this for awhile, but you need to move slow and not scare the crap out of her.
 
I'm very sorry about your friend.

And I think that the way you're going is the way with her. I've been saying this for awhile, but you need to move slow and not scare the crap out of her.

Yeah, and after really seeing just how many guys are all up on her all the time getting around those defenses is tricky. It's not a game though at all so don't let the way some things are worded throw you off... she's the one. :eek:
 
I don't know you or your love life well enough to comment with any sort of insight other than to say that, if you're with this girl and you're telling us she's The One? I'm happy for you, yo! Best of luck.

And i'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Hugs.:rose:
 
Yeah, and after really seeing just how many guys are all up on her all the time getting around those defenses is tricky. It's not a game though at all so don't let the way some things are worded throw you off... she's the one. :eek:

I know. You've wanted her over everyone for a long time, but you get really intense with her, and it freaks her out.
 
I know. You've wanted her over everyone for a long time, but you get really intense with her, and it freaks her out.

It's more frustration than anything but two consecutive almost dying events has really given me a completely different perception of everything. She's seen it and subconsciously she's pushing my buttons to see if it's real or if I'll fall back into old thought processes and old reactions. This has been going on for a bit and I think she's finally satisfied that it's not just lip service. To be more clear, this isn't the first opportunity for seduction but the others I felt were thrown out there as a kind of test, to see if I wanted her or just sex.
 
My friend is gone and nothing can change that. She doesn't hurt anymore, it's those of us who are left who hurt.. because we miss her.
 
Don't fuckin die, Betts.

Aside from that, fill your boots. You are living proof, and your friend is sadly not,t hat our time here is all too short. So if you can find happiness with your ex, go for it.

The big thing here is that your tone is solid. You sound more... you. Good on ya.
 
sorry :(

Sorry it was for such unfortunate circumstances and the weather didn’t cooperate for you either... but i hope you enjoyed Colorado again at least for a little bit... what part were you in?
 
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