Do you compete with your partner?

[sb2009]

like in a fun way? I'm sooo non-competitive EXCEPT where it comes to him, I always want to show him up in something. Wether it's cooking better ( I win) or online games or even who the kid's like better that day (that's pretty much 50-50, I think the kids are playing us).

Even doing yardwork, I try to bag more leaves than he does. And we are always rubbing it in, calling each other "punk assed bitch" and stuff. Sometimes people think we are serious ROFL

So right now he's beaten me at a game and I'm trying to find ways to sabatage him. I think this is a sign of a healthy relationship! Right?

 

[00Syd]

I can be pretty competitive, but its never very serious. The one (incredibly stupid) thing that I never fail to get competitive about is finnishing my meal faster than he does. Especially if we're eating burgers. I know it's weird. Don't ask.

 

[sb2009]

are you afraid he'll eat yours too? KIDDING! I had a friend who would eat her McD's fries really fast, she said it was because growing up she always had to share her order of fries with her dad and had to eat fast or she wouldn't get many LOL

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

LOL @ 'punk assed bitch'

I haven't tried it on since I did try to wrestle with him (and was honestly expecting a decent shot at holding my ground as well!) and got utterly destroyed.

Oh, my wounded ego.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

are you afraid he'll eat yours too? KIDDING! I had a friend who would eat her McD's fries really fast, she said it was because growing up she always had to share her order of fries with her dad and had to eat fast or she wouldn't get many LOL

Growing up with brothers with hollow legs, I learned to eat fast, and one handed.

Fork in one hand to eat, knife in the other to defend my meat and potatoes.

Heh. I know how your friend feels!

 

[Keroin]

I compete with everyone. (It's my weakness)


We seriously push each other to do better, we both like it that way. We've had a few blow outs because of it but it works for us. Is inter-partner competition healthy? Depends on the partners.

Hee, when I was learning to play tennis, if we were playing doubles and L was on the other team, he used to crush balls at me, super hard and fast, when I was at the net. It sounds mean, I know, and it pissed me off, but hey, now I'm a wicked net player and people always comment on how fearless I am. That's how we roll.


ETA: OH geez, and I just remembered when we were both taking our Rescue Diver course and we had to do simulated rescues of a person in active panic. One partner had to be the panicker and one the rescuer. Let's just say we took "panic" to new heights - kicking, slapping, pulling off the other person's mask, trying to push them under water, etc. The instructor stared at us like we'd lost our minds. Tee hee.

 

[00Syd]

LOL @ 'punk assed bitch'

I haven't tried it on since I did try to wrestle with him (and was honestly expecting a decent shot at holding my ground as well!) and got utterly destroyed.

Oh, my wounded ego.

I LOVE WRESTLING. And no matter how defeated I might be, I always win! And I proclaim my victory loudly and repeatedly. It's great fun

 

[intothewoods]

Only in the art of argument. It's a huge test of my submission. There are topics that just get me going -- I feel like I'm right and he's glossing over details to stomp all over my point of view. And I feel that little competitive bone twitching and I just want to attack. We have a had a couple of serious blow outs, that are like hysterically funny two days later.

 

[Netzach]

Generally no.

M is one of the only humans on earth who fail to really get me trying to outdo him.

We argue, but it's not competition, usually it's just that we're trying to get to the same point and disagree how to get there.

We just are interested in such disparate things that it works out OK. I know very little about the things that interest him so it's always interesting.

 

[sb2009]

Only in the art of argument. It's a huge test of my submission. There are topics that just get me going -- I feel like I'm right and he's glossing over details to stomp all over my point of view. And I feel that little competitive bone twitching and I just want to attack. We have a had a couple of serious blow outs, that are like hysterically funny two days later.

oooohhh he does this thing where he will start arguing with me, and I will get heated really fast, and just be totally NUTS and then I will realize that he's laughing his ass off at me and was doing it just to piss me off. I think it's a form of sadism.

 

[subish2009]

I LOVE WRESTLING. And no matter how defeated I might be, I always win! And I proclaim my victory loudly and repeatedly. It's great fun

Oh, hells yes. And I will go looking for trouble over and over because I just don't learn. My husband compares me to those little yappie dogs who think they're the big dog in the dog park. My online D's favorite analogy is the big kid on the playground who's holding back the little kid with one hand on the little kid's forehead while the little kid flails madly trying to hit the big kid. You can guess which kid I am in that scenario.

oooohhh he does this thing where he will start arguing with me, and I will get heated really fast, and just be totally NUTS and then I will realize that he's laughing his ass off at me and was doing it just to piss me off. I think it's a form of sadism.

YES! This is me, too. And it is DEFINITELY a form of sadism. They both do this to me all the time.

 

[sb2009]

I have actually caught saying "hey, watch this..." before egging me on. What a jerk.

 

[neci]

oooohhh he does this thing where he will start arguing with me, and I will get heated really fast, and just be totally NUTS and then I will realize that he's laughing his ass off at me and was doing it just to piss me off. I think it's a form of sadism.

Oh, hells yes. And I will go looking for trouble over and over because I just don't learn. My husband compares me to those little yappie dogs who think they're the big dog in the dog park. My online D's favorite analogy is the big kid on the playground who's holding back the little kid with one hand on the little kid's forehead while the little kid flails madly trying to hit the big kid. You can guess which kid I am in that scenario.



YES! This is me, too. And it is DEFINITELY a form of sadism. They both do this to me all the time.

i can relate. sadistic fuckers. that being said, i kick ass while playing board games. then i revel in my ass kicking.

 

[MiaPassion]

What is the point to compete with him?

 

[subish2009]

What is the point to compete with him?

Fun. I love losing to a D-type. Reinforces the power structure.

 

[neci]

Fun. I love losing to a D-type. Reinforces the power structure.

i like winning and then having my ass raped.

 

[Primalex]

No.

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[subish2009]

i like winning and then having my ass raped.

Yes, I can see the appeal. Akin to my love of laying down all kinds of smack talk until he shuts me up in a variety of ways. It's the physical wrestling I enjoy losing. Video games and board games...yeah, I prefer winning and then being put back in my place.

 

[neci]

What is the point to compete with him?

i can be a pretty competitive person, and i am not going to dumb down that side of me in order to play some role. i am who i am. i don't change my personality for someone else. when i submit, it is an honest submission of my whole being. He knows that. He enjoys me challenging Him. i love to play games with Him. i find fun and joy in it. i also like to get His testosterone raging by playing the right cards.

 

[finesse910]

LOL @ 'punk assed bitch'

I haven't tried it on since I did try to wrestle with him (and was honestly expecting a decent shot at holding my ground as well!) and got utterly destroyed.

Oh, my wounded ego.

Oh but wrestling is so much fun... especially if things start to get a little carried away.

I don't know why, but I love just teasing and competing- and it makes me really happy when he calls me "punk" ... I don't know why. Haha Just cute? lol

But it REALLY gets to me when he laughs at me- instant battle.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm a very competitive person. My first marriage was not very loving but was highly competitive. This time around, I've made sure to create a more cooperative atmosphere.

Do I want to win the game of chess? YES! Do I freak out if I don't win? Nope.

Do I want to win a round of wrestling. YESS!! If I don't win though I'm fine with that.

We are partners, not so much competitors against one another for the win. We are more like very competitive but cooperative team mates that want to fuck each other. LOL.

 

[subish2009]

Oh but wrestling is so much fun... especially if things start to get a little carried away.

I don't know why, but I love just teasing and competing- and it makes me really happy when he calls me "punk" ... I don't know why. Haha Just cute? lol

But it REALLY gets to me when he laughs at me- instant battle.

Ditto... I have a tickling fetish, too, though, which is half the appeal of the wrestling.

 

[neci]

We are partners, not so much competitors against one another for the win. We are more like very competitive but cooperative team mates that want to fuck each other. LOL.

i don't think i could have written it better.

 

[FurryFury]

Tickling!?!

That's just cruel and unusual punishment. Unless of course, I'm administering it during wrestling. Then it's just evening up an unfair advantage.

 

[subish2009]

Tickling!?!

That's just cruel and unusual punishment. Unless of course, I'm administering it during wrestling. Then it's just evening up an unfair advantage.

Yeah, I know...there are a few threads on this board in which I have seen the VAST majority of s-types on this board threaten to go VIOLENT on anyone who tickles them! That's part of what made me realize how much I'd fetishized being tickled...I appear to be the only one here who would actually beg for it.

On the other hand, I would TOTALLY administer it during wrestling, given the chance! It should absolutely be considered a fair way to balance out a man's strength advantage. Unfortunately, my husband's not very ticklish at all, so that never works for me.