To all you married AHers

[MzDeviancy]

Just wondering have you cheated on your spouse/common law partner?

 

[sr71plt]

Umm, by agreement and career guidance. Which means it wasn't cheating, right?

 

[bronzeage]

You will have to be more specific. Do you mean the current one, or any of them?

 

[MzDeviancy]

Umm, by agreement and career guidance. Which means it wasn't cheating, right?

Oh, good point. K if your partner knew in advance and gave their consent: not cheating.

For the purposes of this poll, cheating includes: handjobs, fingering, blowjobs, cunnilingus, and anal.

Cheating doesn't include: masturbating to thoughts of someone else, kissing, voyeurism, exhibitionism (although please tell some flasher stories if you are a flasher, for they will amuse me), or cybersex.

 

[MzDeviancy]

You will have to be more specific. Do you mean the current one, or any of them?

Any spouse/common law partner you've had.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

That is a rather personal question, don't you think? Are you going to blackmail those who confess?

 

[sr71plt]

That is a rather personal question, don't you think? Are you going to blackmail those who confess?

And, if so, can handcuffs be involved?

 

[stephen55]

Only in the fashion of Jimmy Carter, as opposed to Clinton, Kennedy, Johnson.....

 

[voluptuary_manque]

FDR, Harding . . .

 

[Lady_Guenivere]

No...never would...but temptation has been there.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

No...never would...but temptation has been there.

Ditto . . .

 

[Stella_Omega]

when you have an open marriage sometimes it's a little too tempting to bend the rules...

So I figure that, in one way or another, I must have done so at some point.

 

[DeeZire]

Yes,

and no.

I was going to do a chronological rundown, but I figured a thousand word post might seem a little - excessive?

I will say that with my first ex-wife, I encouraged her to cheat first. (Weird, I know.) Contrary to the common storyline over at Living Wives, I did not watch, but I did get to see her hot sister's tits a couple of times.

 

[Carnevil9]

.......For the purposes of this poll, cheating includes: handjobs, fingering, blowjobs, cunnilingus, and anal.

Cheating doesn't include: masturbating to thoughts of someone else, kissing, voyeurism, exhibitionism (although please tell some flasher stories if you are a flasher, for they will amuse me), or cybersex.

That's rather arbitrary, don't you think? Not that you don't have the right to define the ground rules of your own poll. It's just that, well, you kind of stack the deck of the results when you set such specific (and arbitrary) definitions on the options.......Carney

 

[Stella_Omega]

That's rather arbitrary, don't you think? Not that you don't have the right to define the ground rules of your own poll. It's just that, well, you kind of stack the deck of the results when you set such specific (and arbitrary) definitions on the options.......Carney

He's done something, but he doesn't want to call it cheating.

 

[midwestyankee]

Is there a point to this besides wasting electrons?

 

[MzDeviancy]

when you have an open marriage sometimes it's a little too tempting to bend the rules...

So I figure that, in one way or another, I must have done so at some point.

You're in an open marriage?

 

[Stella_Omega]

You're in an open marriage?

Yes, I am a family critter; there is a Mr Omega and two childer at large in my world. Life is never simple.

 

[cloudy]

Is there a point to this besides wasting electrons?

Exactly what I wanted to ask.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Yes, I am a family critter; there is a Mr Omega and two childer at large in my world. Life is never simple.

And a splendid lot they are, being one who knows.

 

[MzDeviancy]

Is there a point to this besides wasting electrons?

Is there a point to you besides wasting electrons?

 

[midwestyankee]

Is there a point to you besides wasting electrons?

You just answered my question. Had there been a point, no doubt you would be have able to articulate it.

 

[DeeZire]

You just answered my question. Had there been a point, no doubt you would be have able to articulate it.

I see a point. Here we are writing erotica, or porn, for the entertainment of people, some of them in committed relationships. What is it about a committed relationship that motivates these people to go elsewhere for their sexual gratification?

This leads to point #2, which is: Are committed relationships even viable? Are we being foolhardy to expect them to last? Don't 50% of marriages end in divorce? WTF is going on?

I'm just guessing here, but I think perhaps the OP's interest in this poll is to delve deeper into these questions.

Out of my many friends and associates, I can think of maybe two couples that have survived a LTR happily. The rest didn't make it, or are still committed but miserable, or bored, or they have given up and are just going through the motions out of a sense of guilt, or for the sake of the children. So, is it moral to live a life of deceit? Where do you draw the line between being honest with yourself and being forthright with your partner?

I must now excuse myself, so I can go find a quiet place and let my head explode.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Perhaps it has to do with hormone levels. I kind of suspect that I'm a high-vasopressin male and that makes me naturally inclined to be a stay-at-home hubby. Others aren't. The more we learn about ourselves, the harder it is to figure out how to behave.

 

[The_Fool]

She cheats on me....



Every time we play trivial pursuit.