Steel is back, looking for a f-subbie

[msteel4u]

I took some time off due to a couple disappointing (couldn't find the right one) searches for my sub. Still, I find myself missing the lifestyle, so I thought I'd try again

What I'm looking for: I'm seeking a female sub who is looking for a caring, passionate Master to serve in an on-line (at least for now) relationship. Experience is not important to me. Like a blank canvas for an artist, a new sub is unmarked by past experiences and expectations. So, if you are new, feel welcome. I prefer someone under the age of 35, as experience has found that for me and my age, I've had the greatest success with subs under that age. Single or attached is fine. The most important thing?...I'm looking for someone who is serious about her submission and to serving a Master.

About me: As a Dom, I'm someone who is not into extreme pain or degrading of my sub. I feel the gift of a woman's submission is a precious gift. One to be taken seriously and treated special. So, although I'm more than willing to punish when punishment is warranted, I like to rule with a loving hand. I like to listen, to share moments with my sub, to give assignments to test her commitment and submission and of course, the times of play and fun together. As a man, I'm 6', 200 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 43 years old. I'm educated, a good communicator (who listens as well as talks) and most importantly have and appreciates a good sense of humor.

So, if you are reading this and are interested, send me a private message. We can get to know each other and see if we are a fit or not. Please understand that being a good fit is very important to the success of a relationship so don't feel bad if it doesn't click right for us. If you write, please tell me about yourself and why you are interested in becoming my sub.

If you are reading this and appreciate what I'm searching for a BUMP is always appreciated.

 

[msteel4u]

Bump!

 

[CuteBrat]

personally, i have found that people who think online "domination" is ANYTHING like REAL Domination....don't know a thing about Domination.

I took some time off due to a couple disappointing (couldn't find the right one) searches for my sub. Still, I find myself missing the lifestyle, so I thought I'd try again

What I'm looking for: I'm seeking a female sub who is looking for a caring, passionate Master to serve in an on-line (at least for now) relationship. Experience is not important to me. Like a blank canvas for an artist, a new sub is unmarked by past experiences and expectations. So, if you are new, feel welcome. I prefer someone under the age of 35, as experience has found that for me and my age, I've had the greatest success with subs under that age. Single or attached is fine. The most important thing?...I'm looking for someone who is serious about her submission and to serving a Master.

About me: As a Dom, I'm someone who is not into extreme pain or degrading of my sub. I feel the gift of a woman's submission is a precious gift. One to be taken seriously and treated special. So, although I'm more than willing to punish when punishment is warranted, I like to rule with a loving hand. I like to listen, to share moments with my sub, to give assignments to test her commitment and submission and of course, the times of play and fun together. As a man, I'm 6', 200 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 43 years old. I'm educated, a good communicator (who listens as well as talks) and most importantly have and appreciates a good sense of humor.

So, if you are reading this and are interested, send me a private message. We can get to know each other and see if we are a fit or not. Please understand that being a good fit is very important to the success of a relationship so don't feel bad if it doesn't click right for us. If you write, please tell me about yourself and why you are interested in becoming my sub.

If you are reading this and appreciate what I'm searching for a BUMP is always appreciated.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

personally, i have found that people who think online "domination" is ANYTHING like REAL Domination....don't know a thing about Domination.

I think that's unnecessarily rude. Online works best for many people and that doesn't mean it isn't REAL to them...

 

[CuteBrat]

I think that's unnecessarily rude. Online works best for many people and that doesn't mean it isn't REAL to them...

i dont mean to be rude...but this guy made it seem like online somehow is training or can lead to real BDSM. To me, thats like saying playing with your hotwheels cars is good training to become an Indy 500 driver.

Hotwheels are fun. Nothing wrong with them. But they are hotwheels, not the Indy 500.

And new submissives shouldn't be fooled into thinking some guy who acts all Dominant behind a computer screen, has a single fucking CLUE about D/s. If you want to learn about REAL D/s, go to a local dungeon. almost any city has one. Join Fetlife. talk to REAL people.

If you want to play out a fantasy, and never experience the real thing, chat up this guy.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

Well since he specified online (at least for now) it appears to me he would consider going offline in the future if things work well. Neither you nor I know his past and whether he has real life experience or not. Thus we shouldn't presume to judge whether he is the "real thing" or not.

 

[CuteBrat]

Well since he specified online (at least for now) it appears to me he would consider going offline in the future if things work well. Neither you nor I know his past and whether he has real life experience or not. Thus we shouldn't presume to judge whether he is the "real thing" or not.

i have to respectfully disagree with you here. i know a lot of real-life Dominants and Masters. And i know that not a one of them would be advertising for an on-line BDSM relationship. Not a single one of them would think typing words on a keyboard or talking through a telephone with someone you have no actual contact with, is Domination.

So, i really do feel fairly comfortable saying anyone who says they are an online Dominant, is NOT the real thing.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

I'm afraid I would have to respectfully disagree with you as well. I believe there are many levels and definitions within the realm of BDSM and that it is quite possible to have a perfectly lovely relationship that is strictly online, so long as that works for both parties involved. There are many reasons why it may work best (marital status, geography, etc.) to stay online. Naturally a real life relationship is going to be more fulfilling, but the sad reality is that this is simply not always possible for many of us and that does not make it any less "real" to the participants.

I think we shall have to agree to disagree on the matter.

However, I certainly don't see him making any attempts to mislead anyone as to what to expect in the relationship.

 

[msteel4u]

I'd chime in, but I don't feel compelled to justify myself or the way I have found enjoyment experiencing the lifestyle. All the best to those who have the time and inclination to live this life 24/7 realtime. Have tried it, but it doesn't fit now. Of course, I too was skeptical that "on-line" would give me any satisfaction fulfilling the need to stay connected. Met a few Dom's in various chats who explained how/why it worked for them and gave it a try. It is difficult to find the right connection, but that's true in r/l too. I've learned though, not to judge anyone or anything without trying it.

Thanks to HowmayIpleaseyou for your thoughtful rebuttals. I would think that living in a glass house, one wouldn't throw stones, but when they do, I like your representation!

Steel

 

[amy34]

Interesting

**BUMP**

Well after all that I think you certainly deserve a bump. I think that's interesting that someone would take the time to actually write such a reply. I also find it interesting that they felt compelled to tell you, you are not what you say you are. I also find it interesting that someone who is reading online personal ads under a BDSM Online forum is talking about being real.

I'm gonna send you a pm.

 

[badmatt]

I've got to give steel credit for being forthright about what he's seeking.

I've also got to say, that just because someone's online doesn't mean they don't know anything about an RT D/s relationship. Some people (quite often in fact) will use places like lit to meet someone new that they'd never be able to meet RT, whether due to geography or demographics.

And an online D/s relationship can have every aspect of D/s but the physical, which for many people isn't the most important aspect of their D/s relationship in the first place.