Inexperienced and Eager looking for a Mentor, Master and more

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After much consideration I think my previous thread wasn't very informative about what I'm looking for, so I'm going make a second attempt and see if I can get lucky in my search. So far I've had a lot of helpful advice from some lovely men but not quite what I thought of.

I have been interested and curious about BDSM since I was very young, never actually learning but looking at videos and reading about it on many places. I have never been able to practice it andmy sexual experience has been very limited. I am a 23 year old submissive female, I have always known that I have a very deep desire to please, take care of, worship and nourish a Man and everything he is. Learn from him and be protected by him. As well as being His to do anything he pleases. More than that, I would like to learn more about the lifestyle, experience it and find out what would ultimately make me a good sub.

I am a smart girl, I enjoy good and intelligent conversations, I have no desire to talk about sex 24/7 but I want it to be a good and important part of my life. That doesn't mean I want many pseudo Doms pm'ing me and right away expecting me to wet my knickers for them. I have learned a lot of useful things from the nice Doms that pm'ed me before and I know that I shouldn't allow just any Dom to come and tell me what to do.

Some more about me: I'm a bbw, geeky, horror-loving, passionate about cooking, funny and romantic latin girl. I enjoy watching sports and going out. I like travelling and learning about different cultures, traditions, religion, beliefs and many other things. I used to be a very committed writer but I lost a lot of confidence over the years and I have been struggling to get back to it.

I would love to find a Man, preferably between the ages of 25-40, smart, funny and attentive. I want a Dom that would be interested in a young, inexperienced and eager-to-learn girl. I don't want a pseudo Dom that would be instantly intimidated if I say anything defying or smart. I am bitchy sometimes and I do like to test the other person, so be prepared for that because I'll be very very excited about the consequences, not someone that would just walk out. I want to meet a Dom that is available and preferably monogamous as I don't really like to share and would possibly be interested in eventually having a relationship.

My limitations, however, don't allow me to live a full BDSM life but I am currently working on changing that. I live at home still and I don't have a lot of privacy so a lot of Doms will be put out by that. I'm looking for someone who would eventually be willing to take it into reality.

I don't want just a Dom to come give me orders. I want to be able to know that he's a Mentor to me, a Guide, someone I can trust. I want a guy that is not afraid of being arrogant. I don't want an extremely loving guy or a complete asshole. I want you to be able to handle me and teach me my place, be mean and rough, but also want to give me a sweet kiss at the end of the day and a cuddle.

I'm into force and control, I am more than willing to experience and try almost everything. Anal(I'd love to try, although I am regretably not into rimming or sucking cock after it's been in there), fear, mild pain (no actual use of needles but we can discuss it), cock worship, some mental control and arrogant men. I LOVE play rape and everything to do with it, like being chased or hunted down and captured. And a lot of other things that you can ask me about ;)

I'm also bisexual, I love girls and I've been with a couple in the past but never had the chance to go down on them which I would LOVE. I would like to meet girls and learn about their experiences as well, but perhaps more as a Mentor. My ultimate love is cock, sorry.

Subs are also welcome to message me as I'd love to learn more about them and I'm always willing to make new friends.


so WHEW! that was long, was it too much to ask? A girl can dream, right?

I hope that makes my search easier and more interesting ;).


I reserve the right to respond to pms I am very sorry about this but I'm not going to respond to single sentences or rude, abusive, and foul language. And please don't even bother messaging me if you can't speak like a normal human being with COMPLETE words. I want smart literate people that can at least put a complete sentence together.
 
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Shamelessly bumping this up. 150+ views and no messages? I must be pretty scary!
 
So how many years do I have to wait or how old do I have to be to find a Dom?

You have to cross your fingers, click your heels, and wish REALLY hard. =p

P.S. Or hunt through the other personal ads here and harass people till they learn to love you.
 
You have to cross your fingers, click your heels, and wish REALLY hard. =p

P.S. Or hunt through the other personal ads here and harass people till they learn to love you.

Hahaha I'll go knocking on every door now!
 
Hello all new to the website but not to the lifestyle. But I to dont know everything there is to be a maste and I have seen my share.

If you are looking I like to talk and see if its something that you like.
Best wishes to everyone
 
So how many years do I have to wait or how old do I have to be to find a Dom?

Meh, I was 16-17 when I got into the scene (though that was a *long* time ago, and a lot has changed since then), so I'm not entirely sure that it's an age thing.

Experience, on the other hand, is perhaps a factor- a lot (note I did NOT say all, or most) of doms of the caliber you're looking for don't do online work, and don't always take on complete newbies.

I would strongly recommend you start attending local gatherings, get to know people in your local scene (FetLife is a good resource for meet-and-greets), and see if there's someone there that you 'click' with.. or someone who can recommend someone.

Your first dom can truly make-or-break your life as a sub- it's so important that you be selective, and while it's a great first step that you have definite ideas on what you want/where your boundaries are, I'd say the next best thing you can do for yourself is expand your applicant pool a bit.

Good luck!
 
Hi chic,
Thanks for stopping by my thread. So thought I'd bump yours. You know we fabulous subs should start a club. haha
Btw, love the signature image! Thats hot.
As a side note, to increase your experiences maybe you should consider taking on a playmate.... or two or three. Just to find out what you like and don't like. Its a fun way to experiment, the guy doesn't have to commit and you make a friend/mentor. I made a great Mentor that way. He is unavailable, but has been invaluable to me. I'm blessed I met him.

:D
 
Hi chic,
Thanks for stopping by my thread. So thought I'd bump yours. You know we fabulous subs should start a club. haha
Btw, love the signature image! Thats hot.
As a side note, to increase your experiences maybe you should consider taking on a playmate.... or two or three. Just to find out what you like and don't like. Its a fun way to experiment, the guy doesn't have to commit and you make a friend/mentor. I made a great Mentor that way. He is unavailable, but has been invaluable to me. I'm blessed I met him.

:D

Thank you very much! I'll take your advice and do that. I know perfectly well that its not easy but I'm hoping it'll be worth the wait and effort. I'd love to learn more. I've met some wonderful people and read very interesting things and now I'm eager for more. :) We should definitely start our own club haha.
 
I would be interested in talking to you since im a switch with dom tendencies. I am also a latin male that can speak spanish and english fluently. I do love horror movies and will be glad to work something out. I am also starting to write stories. Pm me if you want to talk
 

Perhaps I should explain that a little better, I know I'm reducing the chances of finding a man greatly but I've been with both types of men, some that have been downright abusive and have left me in tears (and it was online). And men that pretend to be Dominant but only use that to attract girls and are often intimidated by a strong mind. I know its hard and demanding but I want to find a balance between that. Maybe that's a bit more open.
 
that is perfectly understandable. There has to be limits as to what the online master will make you do. A true master will never pass those boundries. I had my slave for over two years and we were happy, but because of life things she had to leave to the US and we broke up. Now I am looking for someone new, If you want we can talk a bit and you will see I am serious about this.
 
that is perfectly understandable. There has to be limits as to what the online master will make you do. A true master will never pass those boundries. I had my slave for over two years and we were happy, but because of life things she had to leave to the US and we broke up. Now I am looking for someone new, If you want we can talk a bit and you will see I am serious about this.

I'm sorry to hear about your previous slave tamaran. I can relate to that.
 
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