The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[gypsy*seer]

I don't think he WILL sort himself out by end Feb. So I'm 97% sure it's over between us.

SO, that's the long story.

Betcha wish you hadn't asked!

Hrumpfff....

Girls night out!! (oh, and maybe a pillow fight! )

 

[rida]

Focusing on what you cannot have as opposed to focusing on what you do, is sure receipe for unhappiness.




And yet ... I cannot help dwelling on it ...

 

[wicked woman]

Two days; two phone calls.

 

[ultramarineblue]

I'm sad. That is all.

 

[ImOnIt]

I'm sad. That is all.

Kittens doing handstands. On top of biscuits.

Making a face like this :3

 

[minx1]

Focusing on what you cannot have as opposed to focusing on what you do, is sure receipe for unhappiness.




And yet ... I cannot help dwelling on it ...

*hugs*

you and me both hon

 

[unregistered]

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Sad....

 

[ecstaticsub]

Sad....

<<Hugs>>

 

[sinnocence]

Kittens doing handstands. On top of biscuits.

Making a face like this :3

I you.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm so sick of working with idiots and for assholes.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

How do I react when we finally get to something I don't care for?

Shutting down my emotional side so I don't over react, don't get upset, don't refuse... well that shuts down everything. There's no enjoyment. Simply autopilot.

Autopilot isn't good enough, I know.

What's my next move?

It's important to him. He's important to me. But we're wandering into 'uncomfortable, and not happy' territory. The only thing holding back fully fledged fears and wonderings of self worth is the knowledge that he truly does care for me.

I don't want to be a buzzkill. But I also don't want this.

So. Yeah.

 

[minx1]

How do I react when we finally get to something I don't care for?

[Shutting down my emotional side so I don't over react, don't get upset, don't refuse... well that shuts down everything. There's no enjoyment. Simply autopilot.

Autopilot isn't good enough, I know.

What's my next move?

It's important to him. He's important to me. But we're wandering into 'uncomfortable, and not happy' territory. The only thing holding back fully fledged fears and wonderings of self worth is the knowledge that he truly does care for me.

I don't want to be a buzzkill. But I also don't want this.

So. Yeah.

*hugs* Lizzie.

I do this too...eventually lol.

I am a pretty emotional creature but when I am really concerned about something, I tend to ''withdraw''. Its a self protection mechanism I think.
But you are right...it's not a good place to be.
Infact partners dont often recognise it....but for me and the future of the relationship it is probably the worst place to be....I mean I might be quiet lol but quiet isnt always good!

Like you when I shut down I shut down everything, even my libido I think!

I hope whatever it is you manage to talk and work it through

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

*hugs* Lizzie.

I do this too...eventually lol.

I am a pretty emotional creature but when I am really concerned about something, I tend to ''withdraw''. Its a self protection mechanism I think.
But you are right...it's not a good place to be.
Infact partners dont often recognise it....but for me and the future of the relationship it is probably the worst place to be....I mean I might be quiet lol but quiet isnt always good!

Like you when I shut down I shut down everything, even my libido I think!

I hope whatever it is you manage to talk and work it through

It's definitely a retreat. And self protection. But it's bad! It builds up inside, and then I lose my shit over something minor.

I'm trying not to be a whiny brat. Really. I just need to work out the wants from the needs, and the rational from the irrational. Stop obsessing. Get on with the job. It's really not that bad. It's just I don't want that.

I've been too used to getting my own way for too long. See what being spoiled does? It's spoiled me, in the literal sense.

Aye Aye Aye.

Tomorrow will be better. It's Friday. How can anything suck on a Friday?

 

[unregistered]

 

[ultramarineblue]

Kittens doing handstands. On top of biscuits.

Making a face like this :3

Thank you. I like that you used wheat after saying biscuits.

 

[graceanne]

Thank you. I like that you used wheat after saying biscuits.

Just don't let etoile catch you!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Thank you. I like that you used wheat after saying biscuits.

Whole wheat? It's healthier.

 

[unregistered]

 

[MisterSir]

Not only am I still unwell and have a horrible cough, but I went to taekwondo anyway (because I had to). Result: my left knee and right ankle now hurt as well. Methinks it's high time for some goddamn comfort food. On the brighter side, I do now have a fuck-off huge Iron Man 2 poster on my wall, so chances are the first thing I see when waking up will be RDJ in the armour. On the slightly darker side of that, I imagine it may make masturbation rather trickier if I can't get the concept that Iron Man is watching me do it out of my head. I love RDJ, but not that much.

Edited to add: My left elbow also hurts. I am more beaten-up than I realised.

 

[chy_girl]

http://i963.photobucket.com/albums/ae115/inna_chy/trillium-2.jpg

Just trying something.

ETA:

Why do pics work here and not in the personal's thread?

 

[BiBunny]

Is boredom in relationships inevitable, or is it just inevitable for me?

 

[EzraPound]

Mistress;
"...the way your anus looked as it puckered when I hit you was fascinating,suddenly I just HAD to fuck you!"

 

[ImOnIt]

Is boredom in relationships inevitable, or is it just inevitable for me?

High stress, low pace, same-old-same-old are aspects of boredom. Sometimes people just get on your nerves. A relationship is based on inter-action, is that not happening how you would like it to?

Im sure its easiest to keep high stakes, massive excitement going in relationships when they never see you without makeup, never see you working, only in HOT mode... and in being boring/vulnerable/less exciting, you can be familiar--->appreciated less.

TLDR: many people change their interest over time. Its not just you

 

[BiBunny]

High stress, low pace, same-old-same-old are aspects of boredom. Sometimes people just get on your nerves. A relationship is based on inter-action, is that not happening how you would like it to?

Im sure its easiest to keep high stakes, massive excitement going in relationships when they never see you without makeup, never see you working, only in HOT mode... and in being boring/vulnerable/less exciting, you can be familiar--->appreciated less.

TLDR: many people change their interest over time. Its not just you

It always freaking happens with me. I have a problem with stasis, I think. I always have to be moving, and he stopped moving with me a long time ago. I'm worn out with trying to drag his ass now.