Dealing with a hard time

[MasterPhoenix]

Yeah, I have reemerged from the shadows... kind of... I have seen several new names and plenty of familiar friends...

rose and I are still no more... Kaykat & I are long since done as well....

I am just really confused right now... watched someone else evaporate mostly... have a couple of chicks that supposedly dig me, but they are 'nilla...

I don't know... I am overstressed right now... really need some clarity... and I am not seeing it....

 

[FurryFury]

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I hope things seem clearer to you soon.

*hug*

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Thanks furry...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sorry you are going through all this. I know how tempting it is to try and get into a new relationship, and how at times you can talk your way into thinking this will fix everything, but reality is you need to have time to heal, have some sort of emotional closure on the other relationships, and find who you are, what you want, and do it on your terms, not on the notion of what is on offer and/or available. You went from Rose straight to Kaykat, and it hasn't worked out. Chances are some of the reason it didn't succeed was you were still in part dealing with the loss of your relationship with Rose, and transferring a lot of the remains of that relationship into the new relationship.

If you are feeling down now and jump into another relationship, especially if it is because it is there, it also will probably end up down the drain with you feeling even more shell shocked, confused, and depressed. Take some times, have fun again without it necessarily having to be with a partner or to do with a relationship, rebuild your happiness, and then you will be in a better place to find someone else to be happy with.

Catalina

 

[JMohegan]

Yeah, I have reemerged from the shadows... kind of... I have seen several new names and plenty of familiar friends...

rose and I are still no more... Kaykat & I are long since done as well....

I am just really confused right now... watched someone else evaporate mostly... have a couple of chicks that supposedly dig me, but they are 'nilla...

I don't know... I am overstressed right now... really need some clarity... and I am not seeing it....

Sorry for your troubles, MP.

I recommend punching things as stress relief. A bag, furniture, whatever. A wall you don't care about is particularly satisfying. Obviously, you should try to miss the studs.

I also recommend running as far and as fast as you possibly can, for as long as you can. With exhaustion comes clarity. Well, temporary clarity, at least.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Sorry for your troubles, MP.

I recommend punching things as stress relief. A bag, furniture, whatever. A wall you don't care about is particularly satisfying. Obviously, you should try to miss the studs.

I also recommend running as far and as fast as you possibly can, for as long as you can. With exhaustion comes clarity. Well, temporary clarity, at least.

Actually, since I originally posted this I took a trip inside and made an inventory of myself, and several difficult executive decisions, and am feeling like I am ready to bounce back from the other side...

I had temporarily lost sight of myself....

Thank you for the advice, my friend...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Sorry you are going through all this. I know how tempting it is to try and get into a new relationship, and how at times you can talk your way into thinking this will fix everything, but reality is you need to have time to heal, have some sort of emotional closure on the other relationships, and find who you are, what you want, and do it on your terms, not on the notion of what is on offer and/or available. You went from Rose straight to Kaykat, and it hasn't worked out. Chances are some of the reason it didn't succeed was you were still in part dealing with the loss of your relationship with Rose, and transferring a lot of the remains of that relationship into the new relationship.

If you are feeling down now and jump into another relationship, especially if it is because it is there, it also will probably end up down the drain with you feeling even more shell shocked, confused, and depressed. Take some times, have fun again without it necessarily having to be with a partner or to do with a relationship, rebuild your happiness, and then you will be in a better place to find someone else to be happy with.

Catalina

Cat,

Thank you...

I had lost sight of myself... but no more...

 

[Vixandra]

Glad you found yourself again.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Dude!

Duuuuude!

No, really... Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuude.

Take some time for yourself. No "chicks that supposedly dig" you or anyone else.

Heal.

A LOT.

Then think about starting something new.

 

[Evilzeus]

MP,
I'm glad you've found yourself. Even though I've not known you very long, I've appreciated the advice you've given me and I look forward to more conversations in the future.
I've heard it said that when you have a relationship fall apart but it was close to what you were looking for, don't get discouraged because it fell apart but rather be encouraged because of how close you came to your goal. Knowing you came that close, proves it CAN be done!

In time, I hope you find what you're looking for, but until then, I look forward to sharing ideas with you!