Porn vs. Sexual Prefernces

[Missouribiguy]

Hey all,

Has anybody tell you that you are more gay or straight when you watch more of either type of pornography? I admit that I am bisexual, and I like watch straight and gay porn (not counting bi porn). I do admit that I tend to watch man to man action more than a straight clip (never cared too much for girl on girl clips, unless it was a FFM threesome) of late. So, does that I mean I am more gay than bi?

No, I don't think I am. While the site of two studs going at it does turn me on (and the thought of playing with another guy is also arousing), I actually think I lean more for women than men. Let's put it this way, If there were two naked people, man and woman, and I had to choose only one, I go with the woman more or less. Doesn't mean I wouldn't think long and hard about it.

Anyway, what do you all think?

 

[sterculius]

My favorite porn genre is blowjobs. Specifically, women performing deepthroat, throatfucking, cum swallowing blowjobs. I'm not turned on at all by watching a man suck cock. A woman with a cock in her mouth is beautiful whereas a guy doing the same thing looks kind of "doofus". I have the deepest admiration and respect for women who are able to take a very big cock all the way down their throat without gagging. Belladonna. Bobbi Bliss, Heather and Cynical Angel are all extremely proficient in this skill in addition to some very talented amateurs. Although I'm a guy, my own favorite sexual activity, not surprisingly, is sucking cock and swallowing cum and I'm proud to say that I'm almost as good at it as they are. The strange part is that I have no other sexual interest in men beyond that of being an avid and enthusiastic cocksucker. With this single exception, (admittedly a biggie), I consider myself completely straight. Go figure...

 

[RyeandGingerAyle]

Too much fussing about labels

I read not too long ago (probably the same item that sparked your comment) that the one 100% guaranteed way to tell if a man is gay is if he enjoys gay porn. Kinda sounded like a "school yard" fact to me. We are what we are, and we've all got unlimited potential to do whatever our imagination and circumstances contrive. Why fence ourselves in with labels?

 

[PhaonsBrother]

I don't think it's about being more or less gay. But it is interesting that guys who actually take part in sex acts with other men will still classify themselves as straight, but that's their thing. Pornography and fantasy aren't good gauges for gay/straight/bi. I think you're only as gay or straight as your real life attractions. If you've ever been attracted, wanted to kiss, fondle, go down on some other guy, you're probably at least a little gay.

But say you never wanted to do anything with a real life guy, just really enjoy a myriad of fantasies, including gay pornography? Same thing for women, straight women have as healthy a variety of fantasies, will watch lesbian porn on occasion. It's the day to day attractions--you can't really know every kind of person someone is attracted to, just who you're attracted to.

I've watched gay porn with a woman and by myself, it's definitely less interesting for me than gay stories, and I've never come across a guy I wanted to do anything with in everyday life. Maybe I just haven't met the right guy, ha. It's like a level of fantasy to me: most well written gay stories can be hot, very few gay porn scenes are hot, and no real life guy is hot. It would be interesting being attracted to a guy, but I can't imagine it would ever be the same as my daily desire to fondle every healthy looking female I come across.

 

[Etoile]

I watch gay male porn. It doesn't make me a man, and it doesn't mean I want to have sex with a man. It's complicated I guess.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's a matter of empathy. Humans are very empathic, as are all primates-- it's a crucial part of our survival. Think about it; if someone sneezes, you want to sneeze. We tend to get hungry when we see someone else eating. yawns are catching, tears, terror, and the flash point of mob action is another good example.

Well, what is more empathic than sex? When we see sexual activity, we get turned on.

This is particularly tough for American men, who have been brainwashed against homosexuality by the society we live in, because they believe that to be turned on by homosexual activity means they are queer.

Phaonsbrother has a good point;

...most well written gay stories can be hot, very few gay porn scenes are hot, and no real life guy is hot...

I am betting that what makes the porn well written is the level of emotional content, and when someone is talking about how damn GOOD it feels-- doesn't much matter what equipment is feeling that good, we can all of us feel as good as that.

 

[candyshellcomet]

I confess I like to watch two men kiss as much as most men like to see two women kiss. I think it's that "Oooh, so much testosterone in one place. Efficient" rivaling empathy and emotion for me lol However, m/m sex, as portrayed in the only ways I have been able to see (on the Internet) seems way more hardcore and rough than I could find romantic or sexy. It seems more gruff and utilitarian than I could imagine, so it's not a turn-on to me... at least from what little I have seen and in that bleakly limited context lol

 

[MMMad]

I'm a lesbian. I adore gay male porn. In real life, cocks do nothing for me (ok, to be honest I'm even repulsed at the thought...), but gay porn totally has me hot and bothered, everything from frenching, to oral/anal, etc. I do also get turned on by straight porn (mostly gangbangs). Lesbian porn is of no interest to me because it's nothing like it should be.

My personal explanation is that I don't dig lesbian porn because it's fake = nothing like sex in reality between two women, while I couldn't possibly know how true to life gay porn is, therefor I like it. Straight porn leans more to the latter type also.

So in my case there's no judging of sexuality based on my porn preferences, me thinks.

 

[pointless]

i don't think it has anything to do with anything. i use to watch a lot of gay porn and now i barely watch it at all. that doesn't i'm suddenly no longer interested in sex with men. it just means i got bored with gay porn because most of it sucks. i feel the same way about straight porn. too much position shifting and camera awareness and not enough fucking for the pure pleasure of it. that's why i stick to lesbian porn, but that's only because i know where to get good stuff where the participants at least seem to be enjoying themselves. if those ever go away i'm fucked.

special note though: i did use to enjoy some of treasure island media's stuff, but those guys can get really fucking gross at times. i'm just not into felching and watching guys doing poppers. still, that's some of the best fucking i've seen in gay porn. nice and raw and natural.

 

[Shywong]

I'm not attracted to men at all and I watch [amateur] gay porn. Its because I have a strong fetish for anal and love watching people take it up the ass. I prefer shemale porn but since most of that is so terribly generic I result to regular gay porn on sites like xtube. It's more abundant and they know how to do it right. However it really turns me off when they show the bottom's face and he's an old guy, has a beard, a bald head or any combination of the three. Total disillusionment..

 

[xaos_23]

Funny, I would consider myself a 100% straight male, never so much as kissed a guy, or felt the urge to, but of late I love watching gay porn, m/m and f/f. It's just, to me, far more fantasy, far more interesting, far more... I'm struggling here...

Love watching m/m anal when you know one guy just suddenly grabs the seconds hips, pulls him as close as possible and you can literally feel him unload... So sexy.

Would I ever do the same? Not in a million years. Do I love watching it? Absolutely, but while I tease myself, at the end of the fantasy, while gay porn kicked it off, I'm always thinking about some girl in work or an ex girlfriend when I actually orgasm

Strange I guess!

 

[texharley]

I consider myself bisexual and I love watching men and women suck cock

 

[birobert]

Interesting perspectives being posted here. I am wondering if the ladies who like to watch male gay porn like seeing in real life or is it just in porn?

As for me I like some male to male gay porn, some straight porn and BDSM porn no matter what the sexual combination. No matter what it has to be of good quality to be enjoyable.

 

[Etoile]

Where would I possibly see something like that in real life?

 

[dave's thing]

hey Etoile
Are you wonder about good quality in real life? Or something else?

 

[Etoile]

That doesn't even enter my mind. There is no place where I could possibly watch two men having sex. Sure, I have plenty of gay friends, but I don't WANT to watch my buddies fuck each other. That's creepy, they're my friends. I guess you're probably thinking I should place a Craigslist ad, but that is a helluva lot of trouble for something I can watch at home on my computer. I can't imagine bothering with so much trouble, it just wouldn't be fun.

 

[dave's thing]

LOL.. no I hadn't gone that deep at all... honest.
Sorry I was referring to good quality sex. On the subject that you talked ... I agree 100%. Not the least bit interested.

 

[pointless]

That doesn't even enter my mind. There is no place where I could possibly watch two men having sex. Sure, I have plenty of gay friends, but I don't WANT to watch my buddies fuck each other. That's creepy, they're my friends. I guess you're probably thinking I should place a Craigslist ad, but that is a helluva lot of trouble for something I can watch at home on my computer. I can't imagine bothering with so much trouble, it just wouldn't be fun.

i can sympathize. i used to live with a lesbian couple (well, one girl and two of her girlfriends over a year or so) and people would actually ask me if i ever watched and i never got that. why the fuck would i want to watch? i had to live with them for fuck's sake. that was a boundary i really couldn't see myself crossing. i never watched any of the straight couples i lived with.

besides, i have porn if i want to lesbians get it on. it's much less awkward.

we did watch porn together though, but i'll watch porn with anyone just because porn is fucking ridiculous if you think about for more than two seconds.

they also showed me their sex toys once when we were all getting drunk. i still have no idea why, but yeah... there you go.

 

[candyshellcomet]

That doesn't even enter my mind. There is no place where I could possibly watch two men having sex. Sure, I have plenty of gay friends, but I don't WANT to watch my buddies fuck each other. That's creepy, they're my friends. I guess you're probably thinking I should place a Craigslist ad, but that is a helluva lot of trouble for something I can watch at home on my computer. I can't imagine bothering with so much trouble, it just wouldn't be fun.

Where?

Provincetown, Mass

 

[Missouribiguy]

Some very good points here (and this thread has lasted more than my picture threads).

I personally prefer bisexual porn over gay or straight since you get the best of both worlds. Strangely, I don't really care for transgendered porn. I've seen some, but they either mostly badly made or too extreme for my taste. Still, a couple have tickle my fancy.

Of course, I think any porn, amateur or professional, should have at least two performers who have a great deal of chemistry between each other. I've seen clips where it's just lifeless sex. Hmmm, maybe I should write a essay about it.

As for attraction, I'm into both men and women, like I said. Though my example above focus more on just one sex, what if the offer would was for both? My view, Hell yeah, I would go for both. I would especially love it if she watch, me do stuff with the guy. If she joins, even better. Shit, I would even love if she took a strap on to my ass while I suck his dick.

(And yes, I do have a boner right now).

If it was just a guy, probably be open with him as well. Hell, I would love to have a male fuck buddy I would visit to cure some of my sexual frustrations.. I want to be the top and/or the bottom (depending on his preference).

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Lesbian here...straight porn does nothing for me. Lesbian porn I laugh my head off at because it's campy and plain stupid (probably written and directed by straight guys). Long finger nails, smoldering looks at the camera..and...blowing a sex toy. Watching someone give a blow job to a strap on is a major turn off for me.

I have to admit..gay porn is pretty hot. I also write yaoi (male slash for anime characters) and have fun with that.

But I wouldn't want a cock near me at all.

 

[Shywong]

Lesbian here...straight porn does nothing for me. Lesbian porn I laugh my head off at because it's campy and plain stupid (probably written and directed by straight guys).

Yeah seriously, watching most lesbian porn is frustrating. Mainstream lesbian porn is the worse because of how they exploit the shit out of porno tongue. I wish I could tell them 'You're doing it so fucking wrong!'

I don't need to be female or lesbian to know that.

 

[birobert]

Where would I possibly see something like that in real life?

I am trying to understand the distinction between reality and videos. Do the porn videos offer an entertainment and enjoyment value just as any video genre would? We may like action movies but we don't want to see violence in reality. Is that an accurate analogy? Am I taking this too far?

 

[pointless]

Lesbian here...straight porn does nothing for me. Lesbian porn I laugh my head off at because it's campy and plain stupid (probably written and directed by straight guys). Long finger nails, smoldering looks at the camera..and...blowing a sex toy. Watching someone give a blow job to a strap on is a major turn off for me.

I have to admit..gay porn is pretty hot. I also write yaoi (male slash for anime characters) and have fun with that.

But I wouldn't want a cock near me at all.

you gotta look for the quality stuff. it's hard, though. a lot of the better producers are going to crap and a lot of the up and comer's are very niche, but there's a lot more out there besides vivid and wicked and whatever.

i don't know you, so i won't bother make suggestions, but there's a lot more out there in lesbian porn these days than the stereotypical crap you mention.

 

[none2_none2]

I think that people watch different kinds of porn for different reasons. It isn't always about fantasizing that the viewer is actually in the scene. My thing is watching the kind of guys that turn me on giving pleasures to others. I'm talking about handsome, muscular, masculine, hairy guy serving others. For instance, I can enjoy a heterosexual movie where a gang of girls is using a strap-on on my kind of guy or maybe they are forcing him to eat them out. If that same cast, had the tables turn and the guy was dipping his dick into the women's orifices, it would be of zero interest for me. The ugliest str8 porn is when a girl with lipstick, mascara, & long fingernails is sucking on a cock. That has as much interest as a guy sticking his cock in a blow-up doll's mouth.

I don't see that much lebian porn, so I have little to say. It think the heterosexual filmed lesbian scenes would be better if they had the girls clip their nails. Also, they should leave out the end scenes where they finally admit that they need a man's penis to be totally satisfied. That attitude that they were only doing the lesbian stuff to titilate a guy looking off on the side or because their men were unavailable at the moment. They are just preparing each other for a real man to have real sex with them. Otherwise, it looks ok. It has that princes on princess quality which makes it look simply like a precious moment between women and you are lucky to get a glance of it. My only exposure to lesbian porn by lesbians was a link put on the board a couple or so weeks ago. To me it seemed a bit too rough. If I were a lesbian I would be fearful to give up my virginity to that kind of rough stuff and piercings/tatoos don't do anything for me either. However, I'm not a woman nor a lesbian, so maybe there is something enjoyable in that to others. Of course, one cannot judge a whole genre based on one producer's vision.

As to gay male porn, as long as my type of guy is bottoming I can enjoy it. Though oral sex does little for me in the real world, it can look hot on the screen. There are non-standard gay porn genres that others think is interesting. I don't find many of them interesting at all, but rather boring. For instance, I know that some are about muscle men in the nude posing only, spanking, shaving, or j/o only, or oral only. Those are as boring as standard heterosexual porn. I don't get into just looking at a male body standing there thinking that you are getting off on just looking at them. If he is frigid and cannot get fucked, then make a sexual dysfunction documentary film -- not porn just under the guise of being different from the mainstream gay porn. Also a lot of gay porn is full of twinky looking guys. I always think it a hoot how some gay guys are venomously against pedophilia and how it has nothing to do with homosexuality, yet they deny the fact that there are plenty of gay men who watch porn where the stars look like they were recruited from high school to make money during summer vacation... I do like bearish looking men, but a bear to me isn't someone obease and out-of-shape. To me that is the chubby genre that does little for me.

Another genre I really don't care for is tranny porn. The she males tend to be somewhat impotent. Perhaps the blue pill doesn't work if you are on estrogen. I think that is why a lot of that genre may have the non-tranny actor suck on the she male, but not get fucked by them.