Married, wanting wife to try more assplay on me...help

[muffdiverman]

Hello,

I am 30 years old and have been married to my wife for 8 years. We have been together longer than that, and have a fairly healthy sex life, although a little too vanilla for me anymore. Here lies the problem.

She has never liked to give oral, and I am OK with that, though she does do it on "special" occasions, or if the mood gets really hot. I go down on her most sessions, and enjoy giving oral probably more than recieving.

We have tried anal probably 10 times in the past 8 years, everytime because I initiated it. I get that she really isn't that into it, but lately she has come around more. When I go down on her lately, she enjoys being rimmed, which is one thing she used to not allow. She has also asked for me to rub her asshole while we are having sex lately. I am the one that pushes the anal play not only because it gets me hot, but because ultimately I would like her to to play with my ass.

As I look at porn lately, I find myself more drawn to strapon sex, MMF threesomes, and even the occasional gay porn. I would LOVE it if the wife would rim me, use her dildos on me, or ultimately a strapon. We have talked about it, very little, with me telling her that I think I would like her to dildo me sometime. She replied "I think you would like it." But then nothing. Years ago before we were married, she once finger fucked my asshole while jerking me off, and it was the most amazing orgasm I have ever had. Since that time, however, that has never happend again.

I am not a gay man by any sense of the word, but after looking at the porn that I have been into in the last few years, I can definately say that I am bi-curious and would be open to it.

So my question is, how can I get my wife to try a little more assplay with me without coming off as a complete perv to her as she is quite a bit more conservative than me?

I know that I would love it if our relationship would take that turn, but even then I wonder if I would truely ever be satisified without having "the real thing."

MDM

 

[Gavionn]

Come on married ladies... this is a valid question that only you can answer!!

Stop reveling in being the "rule maker" and start doing what feels good.

Every woman I know over the age of 20 has had at least 1 F/F experience. And most fantasize about being taken by 2 or more men.

Stop making us feel like deviants for wanting the same things you take for granted.

Married women: you want to keep your husband faithful? Find out what he wants sexually and GIVE IT TO HIM!!

You have your "Girls Only" weekends, and your massages. Your friends will lie for you and let you do whatever you please right in front of them.

Our friends will call us out just for the chance to bang our wives.

This ain't my first rodeo, ladies. I speak from experience.

I am, and will be forever mystified by the fact that you refuse to communicate your sexual desires, but seem to have little problem exploring them elsewhere.

And I will never understand how the girl who swallows cock on the first date and eats pussy on the 2nd suddenly becomes a prude after the Honeymoon.

And then has the BALLS to berate her (unwillingly celibate) man for being a "pervert".

MDM brings up a valid point here... what are we supposed to do?

 

[fishbud]

Hello,

I am 30 years old and have been married to my wife for 8 years. We have been together longer than that, and have a fairly healthy sex life, although a little too vanilla for me anymore. Here lies the problem.

She has never liked to give oral, and I am OK with that, though she does do it on "special" occasions, or if the mood gets really hot. I go down on her most sessions, and enjoy giving oral probably more than recieving.

We have tried anal probably 10 times in the past 8 years, everytime because I initiated it. I get that she really isn't that into it, but lately she has come around more. When I go down on her lately, she enjoys being rimmed, which is one thing she used to not allow. She has also asked for me to rub her asshole while we are having sex lately. I am the one that pushes the anal play not only because it gets me hot, but because ultimately I would like her to to play with my ass.

As I look at porn lately, I find myself more drawn to strapon sex, MMF threesomes, and even the occasional gay porn. I would LOVE it if the wife would rim me, use her dildos on me, or ultimately a strapon. We have talked about it, very little, with me telling her that I think I would like her to dildo me sometime. She replied "I think you would like it." But then nothing. Years ago before we were married, she once finger fucked my asshole while jerking me off, and it was the most amazing orgasm I have ever had. Since that time, however, that has never happend again.

I am not a gay man by any sense of the word, but after looking at the porn that I have been into in the last few years, I can definately say that I am bi-curious and would be open to it.

So my question is, how can I get my wife to try a little more assplay with me without coming off as a complete perv to her as she is quite a bit more conservative than me?

I know that I would love it if our relationship would take that turn, but even then I wonder if I would truely ever be satisified without having "the real thing."

MDM

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[amBIguous]

As a happily married bisexual man, my advise to you is to simply ask for it outright. If she's been with you this long, it is not like she will run screaming at one little request. Especially if you've brought it up in the past and she said she thought you'd like it. As your wife, she is the one person that you should be able to go to with complete honesty. I was in your exact position several years ago and I simply asked by wife outright...she thought about it for a minute and then said okay. Today, she will take my ass at the drop of a hat. So just GO FOR IT!

 

[39Donna]

Wishing for more

Unwilling celibacy I can relate. I have always loved anal play. I have been fortunate enough to be able to do anal on my wife about 3 times all up. I have asked her to fdo me with the double ened dildo and she has and the strapon and fendoe. She really gets off when she does me. she gets a very intense orgasm.

I think she feels threatened my my wanting it. At the moment I really want it.

 

[texharley]

Just tell her what you desire. She has already said you would like that. My wife is similar to yours. I have to hide my bi desires from her but she does know I like her to finger my ass but unfortunatley she only does it when I aske her to but when she finger fucks my ass while sucking me I have real strong orgasims. You could buy a dildo that fits you and then just ask her to use it on you. I have been considering doint this myself but my wife has already told me she does not want to use a dildo on me. If my wife would be willing and if we could find a man who we could trust not to have a disease I would do a MMF anytime and help her suck him.

 

[PrettyBiBBW]

When my husband first told me a few years ago that he liked anal play, I was a little bit surprised and I didn't know really what to think. To be honest, I guess I thought it was emasculating. I made a half hearted attempt at using a dildo on him once and then we just let it go. It was a few years before I grew up enough to take it for what it was, not a threat or emasculating, just something that would make him feel REALLY good. Now that we've begun pushing our boundaries together, we're closer and I WANT him to have those experiences like pegging or being with another man.

I guess what I'm saying is that it may just take some time for her to get used to the idea, but don't just abandon the idea altogether. She may surprise you sometime.

 

[nightshade70]

As a happily married bisexual man, my advise to you is to simply ask for it outright. If she's been with you this long, it is not like she will run screaming at one little request. Especially if you've brought it up in the past and she said she thought you'd like it. As your wife, she is the one person that you should be able to go to with complete honesty. I was in your exact position several years ago and I simply asked by wife outright...she thought about it for a minute and then said okay. Today, she will take my ass at the drop of a hat. So just GO FOR IT!

I agree. Just ask for it outright. Or better yet go out and get that strapon and ask her to try it out. That worked for my wife and I.

 

[muffdiverman]

PrettyBiBBW - thanks for the advice, i was really wanting to hear from some females as I have no idea what goes on in your heads sometimes. I think that she might find it emasculating as well, and hope that she can get over that as well.