Are you bi and your wife, husband or partner does not know?

[WV_me]

I am wondering how many are here that are as I. I am married and I am bi. My wife has no idea that I am bi. How many are in the same situation? How do you handle it?

 

[imnotgettinany]

Same boat here, she doesnt know either, but somehow I dont feel guilty about being with a man, and I think I would if it was another woman.she has no idea so nothing to handle as it were.

 

[myinnerme]

I am in the same situation, she was no idea. I handle it mostly by coming here to chat with other guys about it, sometimes yahoo, and a couple times a discrete encounter

 

[fishbud]

think yhere are a lot more of us than you think if i had to choose i wouldnt wreck a 30 marrige for a little kink but the wanting is hard to control

 

[imnotgettinany]

Exactly, married 26 years, and dont want that down the drain, so discretion is definately important

 

[tk951]

Me 2

happily married, but need to do this. discretion is Critical!

 

[Gavionn]

I'm not sure that being Bi and fantasizing about cock are the same thing. I see true bisexuality as someone who is equally able and desirous of relationships with either sex. That isn't me.

I just think big hard cocks are hot as hell and I fantasize about having my turn with one.

We haven't talked about it in detail, but she knows that I'm up for pretty much anything.

Lit is a great outlet for me, because I know I could never go behind her back for a thrill.

If it ever happens, she'll know about it, or (preferably) be there.

 

[TalondeKarrde]

I'm not sure that being Bi and fantasizing about cock are the same thing. I see true bisexuality as someone who is equally able and desirous of relationships with either sex. That isn't me.

I just think big hard cocks are hot as hell and I fantasize about having my turn with one.

We haven't talked about it in detail, but she knows that I'm up for pretty much anything.

Lit is a great outlet for me, because I know I could never go behind her back for a thrill.

If it ever happens, she'll know about it, or (preferably) be there.

sounds like a great relationship

that might even handle a fourth to even things out

 

[Gavionn]

sounds like a great relationship

that might even handle a fourth to even things out

TK... always keeping the feelers out, aren't ya? LOL.

BTW: saw the new pics on your Stripper thread... good stuff.

 

[mmmscurious]

As far as I know my wife has no idea. I wasn't actively bi until a few years ago but, when I reflected on it, I wished that I'd started years ago.

One thing that I'm amazed about is how many guys are in this boat. Makes you wish that society had been different once upon a time.

 

[sterculius]

http://www.cleansheets.com/coverstories/galarza_01.04.06.shtml I find that this explains me perfectly. I'm married and I love my wife very much, but I have an overwhelming need to suck cock. I'm not attracted to men emotionally, just sexually, and then only as a cocksucker. She doesn't know and would be very hurt if she found out, but this is something that I crave and that she's unable to satisfy. For some reason, I don't feel that I'm being unfaithful as I would if it was with another woman. It's just something else that I do with "the guys" like playing football, only sexual.

 

[WV_me]

This is exactly how I feel about it. It is something I do with the guys. I just wish I could find a guy to do it with on a regular basis.

 

[CJontherocks]

I'm very all-the-way bisexual, and married to a woman who doesn't know. I haven't been with anyone else since I've been with my wife, because that's what marriage means to me.

She doesn't know because I was afraid to tell her in the beginning. I don't think she would've married me, and maybe she'd have been right. I believe I did her... and myself... an injustice by not telling her in the beginning.

I'd like to think I wouldn't be with a guy unless she was okay with it, there with us, and cheering me on, but I don't think that's gonna happen soon. The nature of humans is that they often stray from their man-made principles in order to satisfy their baser urges. So I'm just hoping she comes around before some hot guy hangs his yummy cock in front of my face.

 

[ignorantslut69]

I'm very all-the-way bisexual, and married to a woman who doesn't know. I haven't been with anyone else since I've been with my wife, because that's what marriage means to me.

She doesn't know because I was afraid to tell her in the beginning. I don't think she would've married me, and maybe she'd have been right. I believe I did her... and myself... an injustice by not telling her in the beginning. /QUOTE]

I was very bi, before I got married and I never told her. I wish I would have now. We are pretty happily married, but I have sex with other men several times a month. She does not know. In fact, I became a bottom after we were married. Over the years, I have cheated on her with women, I have a high sex drive, but in the last 7 I have only had sex with men.

 

[sarod]

damn!

This describes me! My wife asked if I was at least bi before we were married and I said no! I have this gay friend, who I am not attracted to because he was never that hygenic, plus we both think of eachother like family, and for the simple fact that he is gay she was thinking something due to the fact that he is my best friend and we used to hang out together before I met her, plus, other people thought I was just because I was friends with him too, and a few people asked her if she knew I was gay because I was friends with a gay guy. I flat out lied by saying no, but wish I would have said yes, but back then I was confused about what I wanted( to this day, not one person knows that I am Bi, not even my gay friend). I can't tell her now, the lie has gotten so big, even though she knows that I must be, but I think she put it in the back of her mind and buried it, because she knows I like my ass played with but has never brought it up in years, so I think she is in denial, or just thinks I am confused and pretends that I am a normal straight guy. I wish I could tell her, but I made a crack to her about, " what would she do if I was gay", to which she said she would leave and take my kid away, and so to this day I straight up deny it to the world, just keeping it to myself. But as sarod, here on lit, I proclaim that cock is gorgeous, and looks even better on a beautiful shemale, but I would appreciate it on a handsome guy as well, and in my past, though I leaned to worshipping shemales, I have seen some guys now that make my jaw drop and make me salivate, just wondering what size of tool is tucked inside those tight ass hugging levi jeans, but don't get me wrong, I love pussy and tits and a nicely shaped ass on girls equally to cock, its just that I have never had a cock to play with, so I fantasize more about it because I get lots of pussy and don't need to fantasize about that!

I'm very all-the-way bisexual, and married to a woman who doesn't know. I haven't been with anyone else since I've been with my wife, because that's what marriage means to me.

She doesn't know because I was afraid to tell her in the beginning. I don't think she would've married me, and maybe she'd have been right. I believe I did her... and myself... an injustice by not telling her in the beginning.

I'd like to think I wouldn't be with a guy unless she was okay with it, there with us, and cheering me on, but I don't think that's gonna happen soon. The nature of humans is that they often stray from their man-made principles in order to satisfy their baser urges. So I'm just hoping she comes around before some hot guy hangs his yummy cock in front of my face.

 

[sarod]

Also, if she ever searches the computer and there is stuff that I forgot to delete, I am probably going to be single and not married, which wouldn't bother me as much as it would not seeing my kid every day if she fought me over custody, and she would fight me on it,

This describes me! My wife asked if I was at least bi before we were married and I said no! I have this gay friend, who I am not attracted to because he was never that hygenic, plus we both think of eachother like family, and for the simple fact that he is gay she was thinking something due to the fact that he is my best friend and we used to hang out together before I met her, plus, other people thought I was just because I was friends with him too, and a few people asked her if she knew I was gay because I was friends with a gay guy. I flat out lied by saying no, but wish I would have said yes, but back then I was confused about what I wanted( to this day, not one person knows that I am Bi, not even my gay friend). I can't tell her now, the lie has gotten so big, even though she knows that I must be, but I think she put it in the back of her mind and buried it, because she knows I like my ass played with but has never brought it up in years, so I think she is in denial, or just thinks I am confused and pretends that I am a normal straight guy. I wish I could tell her, but I made a crack to her about, " what would she do if I was gay", to which she said she would leave and take my kid away, and so to this day I straight up deny it to the world, just keeping it to myself. But as sarod, here on lit, I proclaim that cock is gorgeous, and looks even better on a beautiful shemale, but I would appreciate it on a handsome guy as well, and in my past, though I leaned to worshipping shemales, I have seen some guys now that make my jaw drop and make me salivate, just wondering what size of tool is tucked inside those tight ass hugging levi jeans, but don't get me wrong, I love pussy and tits and a nicely shaped ass on girls equally to cock, its just that I have never had a cock to play with, so I fantasize more about it because I get lots of pussy and don't need to fantasize about that!

 

[Samuelx]

I am wondering how many are here that are as I. I am married and I am bi. My wife has no idea that I am bi. How many are in the same situation? How do you handle it?

I'm bi, and my wife knows. she's bi too.

 

[WV_me]

You are one lucky man

I'm bi, and my wife knows. she's bi too.

You are one lucky man! I wish it was that way with me and my wife. I did have a girl friend once that was bi and it was fantastic.

 

[yoursdiscreetly]

me as well

I am wondering how many are here that are as I. I am married and I am bi. My wife has no idea that I am bi. How many are in the same situation? How do you handle it?

its hard to find someone you can trust and
someone who understands. I just keep looking and
reading lit. Good Luck to You All

 

[texharley]

I am wondering how many are here that are as I. I am married and I am bi. My wife has no idea that I am bi. How many are in the same situation? How do you handle it?

I am bi but not active bi. I do lust to suck cock and be ass fucked and to fuck other men in the ass and cum in their mouths, but I love my wife and would never cheat on her. Lit is an outlet for me also. I can come here and talk about my fantasies and not actually do anything with anyone. Besides with the aids virus floating around it is not safe today and where I live a safe man is hard to come by. Everyone is in the closet and if not they cannot be trusted.

 

[nik1]

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[MoronTheDivine]

I just got divorced because of it.

 

[amBIguous]

Telling my wife that I'm bi was one of the first things that I did when we got together. I felt that if she couldn't accept me for that, then the relationship probably wouldn't work. Granted, she isn't keen on the idea, but she accepts me for who I am. And monogamy is very important in keeping most marraiges intact. Just because I'm bi, doesn't mean that I HAVE to be with another man now that I'm married. Monogamy is monogamy wether your straight, bi or gay.

 

[fishmiester]

I am wondering how many are here that are as I. I am married and I am bi. My wife has no idea that I am bi. How many are in the same situation? How do you handle it?

I am in the same situation. i relly like cocks. I like seeing them , touching them ,playing with them. i would like to be with an other man more often. My wife does not know. Only two other people know. One I've had sex with, the other I'm working on.

 

[texharley]

Telling my wife that I'm bi was one of the first things that I did when we got together. I felt that if she couldn't accept me for that, then the relationship probably wouldn't work. Granted, she isn't keen on the idea, but she accepts me for who I am. And monogamy is very important in keeping most marraiges intact. Just because I'm bi, doesn't mean that I HAVE to be with another man now that I'm married. Monogamy is monogamy wether your straight, bi or gay.

I agree that is why I do not suck cock now. I did tell my wife I had bi experiences in my younger days and that I was probably bi even though it happened 30 some odd years before. I went years struggling with my bi side and wondering if I was gay and it was jyust a few years ago that I have come to accepty myself the way I am. I would never do anything to intentially hurt my wonderful wife but I have to admit to myslef I am bi and need some way to let these feeling out so I come here.