curious sub female ....

[addicted420802]

looking to chat with dom males, 30-45 preferred.. had posted a few days ago.. let me reword my last post...

i am looking to TALK and have my questions answered... possibly meeting up at a point where trust is established.i am not looking for someone to order me to send them pics immediately, or demand that i serve them. there is a difference between dom and rude. i do have pics, as well as a yahoo name, but who i chose to give them out to is up to me.

that being said, i am submissive in nature, and i need advice on how to pursuade my current bf to become my dom, hopefully leading to master. he is interested in it, and does have dom tendancies, however, he is paranoid that if he goes too far, i will leave. i have discussed the use of a safe word, and he does agree that it is in our best interest...yet he still thinks ill leave...

how do i get him past this? i truly love him, but this is something i have desired since even before i had begun to be sexually active.. something i need.

 

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[StrayKat]

i am not looking for someone to order me to send them pics immediately, or demand that i serve them. there is a difference between dom and rude. i do have pics, as well as a yahoo name, but who i chose to give them out to is up to me.

There is certain number of people here with inability to read threads further from the title. Fortunately, they usually have the attention span of a goldfish so you can just disregard their PMs and forget about them.
Dont let them spoil your mood

 

[Primalex]

There is certain number of people here with inability to read threads further from the title. Fortunately, they usually have the attention span of a goldfish so you can just disregard their PMs and forget about them.
Dont let them spoil your mood

I have to defend my fellow wankers now - her first thread really did beg for it.

Maybe this thread will do better, but I'm not so sure either. I keep asking myself:"So, am I charity? Why would I help a moron pretending to be a Dom to satisfy her kink if there is nothing in it for me?" But hey, I'm different anyway.

 

[addicted420802]

I have to defend my fellow wankers now - her first thread really did beg for it.

Maybe this thread will do better, but I'm not so sure either. I keep asking myself:"So, am I charity? Why would I help a moron pretending to be a Dom to satisfy her kink if there is nothing in it for me?" But hey, I'm different anyway.

Hey-only was asking for advice from those willing to give it. With all due respect, wasn't asking for the opinions of those who aren't willing.

 

[ThePleaser]

your a naughty girl.

 

[FluteMaster]

Hey-only was asking for advice from those willing to give it. With all due respect, wasn't asking for the opinions of those who aren't willing.

On this Forum, everyone has an opinion, and will express it, whether you want it or not.

But as someone said earlier, don't let it spoil your mood.

 

[StrayKat]

fellow wankers

At least you admit it

 

[FluteMaster]

At least you admit it

Lol, touche

(or to quote the Bard "a hit, a hit, a palpable hit")

 

[orgamimime]

Just a couple of thoughts...

It seems as though there is some type of barrier that is inhibiting his complete trust in you. He wants to be dom, he knows you want to be sub... Until it gets to the point where you have to use a safe word and he sees that you are not going to leave him, he will have that doubt. Once he knows he can do anything to you (within your realm of acceptance of course) he will most likely be more trusting/ believing that you won't leave for him going too far.

Has he had any dom/ sub relationships in the past? One that maybe the sub did leave for a reason similar to his belief that you will leave?

You have mentioned before that you are looking to explore more of your sub tendencies. Do you have an idea already of what "too far" would be, or are you open until you get to that point? If you have an idea of a boundary already, you could maybe work him up to that point a little at a time? Depending on how deep you want to dive, you could ask some probing questions that let him know what you want from him and still let him be the dom. "If I let you do......, would it please you?" "If I please you, would you do.... for me?" "I had better be good or you'll.............. me." That sort of stuff depends on what type of dom/ sub you're into...

I wish you the best of luck. There's nothing better then finding what you want in the person you love...

looking to chat with dom males, 30-45 preferred.. had posted a few days ago.. let me reword my last post...

i am looking to TALK and have my questions answered... possibly meeting up at a point where trust is established.i am not looking for someone to order me to send them pics immediately, or demand that i serve them. there is a difference between dom and rude. i do have pics, as well as a yahoo name, but who i chose to give them out to is up to me.

that being said, i am submissive in nature, and i need advice on how to pursuade my current bf to become my dom, hopefully leading to master. he is interested in it, and does have dom tendancies, however, he is paranoid that if he goes too far, i will leave. i have discussed the use of a safe word, and he does agree that it is in our best interest...yet he still thinks ill leave...

how do i get him past this? i truly love him, but this is something i have desired since even before i had begun to be sexually active.. something i need.

 

[debbiev]

an analysis right here on the board huh?.....i have a feeling she wasn't looking for that in plain view of others.....plus seems you neglected her words, "...am looking to TALK and have my questions answered......"

i doubt she meant "talking here"....my wild guess is "talking" in private.

maybe you wanted to show the whole world what a full of advice kind of guy you are. did you take your egoist pill today?

 

[FluteMaster]

an analysis right here on the board huh?.....i have a feeling she wasn't looking for that in plain view of others.....plus seems you neglected her words, "...am looking to TALK and have my questions answered......"

i doubt she meant "talking here"....my wild guess is "talking" in private.

maybe you wanted to show the whole world what a full of advice kind of guy you are. did you take your egoist pill today?

Wow, it's true what they say about New Yorkers...hard boiled isn't the half of it.

(And before any Yanks flame me...my mum was born and bred in New York, and I'm anything but prejudiced, Lol.)

 

[debbiev]

Wow, it's true what they say about New Yorkers...hard boiled isn't the half of it.

(And before any Yanks flame me...my mum was born and bred in New York, and I'm anything but prejudiced, Lol.)

didn't you write earlier....."On this Forum, everyone has an opinion, and will express it, whether you want it or not." yep you did....just a few posts above.

so when i have an opinion you flame me. interesting that people can have an opinion but if they don't agree with you...it's flame time.

i had to laugh when you said you are, "anything but prejudiced". this after referring to one post and then slamming all New Yorkers. why is it the ones that claim they are "anything but prejudiced" are the most prejudiced. maybe they feel if they deny it enough it they can actually convince themselves of it.

i think you need to look at yourself and re-evaluate your thought process before you attack an entire State again. shame on you.

 

[StrayKat]

"Having an opinion" is not the same as telling someone they "took the egoist pill today" or they should be "ashamed of themselves".

Opinion does not equal personal attack.

I am pretty sure none of the guys here was the one that pissed in your cornflakes this morning debbiev.

 

[orgamimime]

an analysis right here on the board huh?.....i have a feeling she wasn't looking for that in plain view of others.....plus seems you neglected her words, "...am looking to TALK and have my questions answered......"

i doubt she meant "talking here"....my wild guess is "talking" in private.

maybe you wanted to show the whole world what a full of advice kind of guy you are. did you take your egoist pill today?

Oh shit, you're right! Someone switched my vitamins and egoist pills today - that explains it! I apologize to addicted 42802 for offering an opinion in the thread versus PM. She asked for advice on the subject and I gave some suggestions. I'm pretty sure she can speak for herself, but I am certainly glad she has you watching out for her. Hopefully you also sent her some advice on the subject (via PM naturally.) I would hate to think the only reason that you posted on her thread was to put me in my place!

Peace

 

[FluteMaster]

didn't you write earlier....."On this Forum, everyone has an opinion, and will express it, whether you want it or not." yep you did....just a few posts above.

so when i have an opinion you flame me. interesting that people can have an opinion but if they don't agree with you...it's flame time.

i had to laugh when you said you are, "anything but prejudiced". this after referring to one post and then slamming all New Yorkers. why is it the ones that claim they are "anything but prejudiced" are the most prejudiced. maybe they feel if they deny it enough it they can actually convince themselves of it.

i think you need to look at yourself and re-evaluate your thought process before you attack an entire State again. shame on you.

Lol, and touchy too (Big smiley here!!!)

Listen cupcake, if I wanted to flame you...you would have known it. I was making a "wow" comment. yes, you have an opinion, and welcome to it...and you expressed that opinion forthrightly. Commenting on how you express that opinion isn't prejudiced. And I have been to New York, and met many New Yorkers of all varieties, and I spend most of my time in the UK defending Yanks who are well balanced only because they a chip on each shoulder!

And where I come from "Hard boiled" isn't necesarily a pejorative, (see the works of Dashiel Hammett and Raymond Chandler).

So lil miss tiger, sheath those kitty claws and stop attacking people for noticing you, or you will get flamed.



FM

 

[debbiev]

i'm glad you did your civic duty and defended New Yorkers to the people in the UK. i'll put the memo out to fellow New Yorkers that you are saving us from the wrath of others. thank you so much.

 

[FluteMaster]

i'm glad you did your civic duty and defended New Yorkers to the people in the UK. i'll put the memo out to fellow New Yorkers that you are saving us from the wrath of others. thank you so much.

Ooooh...sarcasm too...or was that irony.

 

[debbiev]

Ooooh...sarcasm too...or was that irony.

if you think it's irony you need to look up the definition of that. ;-)

 

[FluteMaster]

if you think it's irony you need to look up the definition of that. ;-)

It's what I was doing...duh!

Game over...I'm leaving this thread to the OP who I am sure will appreciate it being "un-hijacked".

So long and thanks for all the fish.

 

[addicted420802]

flutemaster is someone who i respect very much, please give him the same respect i would when you are responding to one of my threads.

that being said, "why cant we be friends?"

 

[FluteMaster]

flutemaster is someone who i respect very much, please give him the same respect i would when you are responding to one of my threads.

that being said, "why cant we be friends?"

I am blushing here...and the vote of confidence is much appreciated; thankyou

And good question; why indeed can't we be friends?

 

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[orgamimime]

Wow, way to get into an argument!

Thank you for posting this publicly as it will certainly benefit other "curious sub females" in addition to the OP. It's good advice. I, for one, especially like the sentences highlighted in your post.

To the OP: good luck in your search. There's a wealth of information on this site...read, read, read.

Thanks for the support Jelly (assuming that's what the J is for?) I guess it's the Buckeye in me...

Here's to everyone being friends!