Hairdressers - do you prefer a woman or a man?

[neonlyte]

Yeh... writing again. It's a relief valve.


Ok, the premise is most men in UK regard male hairdressers in women's hair saloons as gay. I think it's a cultivated image to disguise the sexual undercurrent of 'tending hair'; after all, hair is a signalling device (for both sexes). An overt way of attracting attention: long hair, short hair, blonde, redhead... etc. It follows (as far as I am concerned, in a purely literary fashion) that a sexual relationship is struck in the Saloon, an intimate relationship where the styling has sexual overtones and the styler plays along with this partly for sexual pleasure, and partly because it is their vocation. The male stylist, pleasure seeker, feigns being gay to avoid complicating the relationship and to protect his business/reputation.

Comments please, AND personal preference. Be quick, I might be hair today and gone tomorrow

PS: Just for the record, Mrs Will does my hair, she won't let me grow it into ponytail length

ETA: Following Jomar's comment... the thread is not addressed to hairdressers but to individuals whom have their hair dressed
Jomar... you are such a wonka

 

[jomar]

I had a neighbor back in the day and I swear he became a hairdresser because he was inspired by the movie Shampoo and thought he'd bed a lot of women. Maybe he did, I don't know.

It doesn't really matter to me. I just want a good and consistent haircut. Though if the stylist is a hottie it is a bit more fun.

 

[lance gt]

To be truthful, I see a barber, not a hairdresser. I go to a place where men are treated like men and get a straight-razor shave and a haircut. The three old Italian guys have been there for almost 50 years and have been cutting my hair since I was 8. The only women are on the posters on the walls, No women's magazines to read. The barbers know there craft and take their time to cut hair properly and make sure it's perfect before taking the barber apron off and telling you they're done. I feel like someone special, when I'm greeted by name coming in and have a conversation during my cut. If I want to get turned on by fingers in my hair, I'll let the women do that when they run their fingers through it and say, "Nice haircut, don't you look handsome".

 

[sadangel]

I've only ever had a woman do it. Never ran into a male hairdresser yet. *shrugs* I think though, I'd prefer a woman. Just like I prefer women doctors.

 

[jomar]

Yeah,

ETA: Following Jomar's comment... the thread is not addressed to hairdressers but to individuals whom have their hair dressed
Jomar... you are such a wonka

I reed and responded in a hurry. I was taking a shower when I realized I probably read your meaning wrong so edited my post.

 

[Green_Gem]

Hello Neon! So nice to see you posting. I go to a man and he's been my hairdresser for a couple of years now. And both he and the other co-owner are without any doubt hetrosexual Italian males. I personally feel better with a male hairdresser. The place I go is unisex and I've seen lots of guys going to him as well.

 

[_Lynn_]

I'm not sure I have a preference, male or female. It's how they do my hair that counts. Blessed with 'cowlicks', I struggled for years finding a style that worked well. The woman I was going to for a while was a bit old-fashioned. She never understood what I wanted. My daughter suggested her hairdresser, a friend from school. He studied the direction my hair fell in specific areas before making a suggestion. I dread the day I have to find someone new. He has been fantastic. Makes no difference to me what his sexuality is.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I cant imagine why anyone would want female clients. Beautician thy name is masochist.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've known a lot of straight male hairdressers-- More than gay, now that I think about it.

There's a gentleness and attention that's very sexy. One guy I know is a big, rough punk, all pierced and tattooed, with a reputation for maintaining mohawks and such-- but when he's behind you with his hands on your head, it's all about you.

so, yeah.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

I've had both men and women hairdressers. Surprisingly the two men seemed to be gifted in it while the women were just okay. My current one is a guy (straight) and he is awesome. I wish I could get my hair to style the way he does.

 

[Vermilion]

Just one quick point - I think you might mean 'Salon' not 'Saloon'

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[neonlyte]

Just one quick point - I think you might mean 'Salon' not 'Saloon'

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<snigger>
I once went to a shop in a remote corner of Poland that served coffee and food till lunchtime, became a hairdressers during the afternoon, and a bar cum pick-up joint after dark. That was the kind of salon I was thinking about

 

[rgraham666]

I use the local hairdresser's shop. It's run by a woman and all her employees are women.

I prefer woman because I generally don't like or trust men.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I use the local hairdresser's shop. It's run by a woman and all her employees are women.

I prefer woman because I generally don't like or trust men.

Men feel the same about you. You weird us out.

 

[lance gt]

I cant imagine why anyone would want female clients. Beautician thy name is masochist.

James, are you saying women shouldn't get their hair done, or is it that you're bald and feel jealousy at seeing a haircutting place? Maybe you cut your own hair with blunt scissors and think you look pretty enough when you look in the mirror? But if I was a hairdresser, I'd want LOTS of female clients to play with, their hair I mean.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I prefer to go to a woman to have my hair styled. I've been to men, some gay, some straight, and I just couldn't get comfortable enough with them to go back for another visit. They just made me feel weird. Some of the women stylists have made me feel weird too, but for different reasons. Anyway, not to get all psychoanalytical about the whole thing, but the truth is, I don't even like hairdressers.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I prefer to go to a woman to have my hair styled. I've been to men, some gay, some straight, and I just couldn't get comfortable enough with them to go back for another visit. They just made me feel weird. Some of the women stylists have made me feel weird too, but for different reasons. Anyway, not to get all psychoanalytical about the whole thing, but the truth is, I don't even like hairdressers.

I agree with LA. I don't like hairdressers messing with my hair. I had a guy hairdresser do any "hard stuff" when we lived in SD, but both then and now I just have Amy snip the bottoms off of any dreadlock that is getting too long.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

James, are you saying women shouldn't get their hair done, or is it that you're bald and feel jealousy at seeing a haircutting place? Maybe you cut your own hair with blunt scissors and think you look pretty enough when you look in the mirror? But if I was a hairdresser, I'd want LOTS of female clients to play with, their hair I mean.

I'm bald. Mostly my sentiments are identical to the Usual Suspect's when he see's someone get a paycheck for honest work. I mean, to them prosperity is entirely a lottery, and its not fair that the Usual Suspect must be penalized by life.

How'd you like to spend your life in a clothes closet with an inflatable doll, like ROB?

 

[JamesSD]

I've had gay men, straight men, and straight women cut my hair. I generally prefer straight women.

Gay men typically do a great job... giving me a haircut that looks a little too "fabulous" for me. They're also less likely to understand that I want something that looks ok if I don't put product in my hair.

If I'm just paying $15-20 for a cut, I'm fine with a straight man. They generally do something to the point that looks fine. But I've never said "My hair looks great!" after getting it cut by a straight guy.

As a straight guy, I want to look good to straight women (less of a concern now that I'm living with my gf, but I still want to look good to her). I figure straight women are more likely to have an eye for what looks good to straight women. I have, however, found there is more variance among the quality of straight women hairdressers. Some do medium-length men's hair very well, others are lost and confused.

 

[StrayKat]

I do my own hair. For some reason I feel extremely uncomfortable if stranger touches my hair.

Where I come from though, its considered to be womens work. Man hairdresser would sure be looked at as gay.

If I could get over my funny phobia I would love to have a sexy male doing my hair

 

[voluptuary_manque]

All I do these days is get a 3 1/2 buzz every couple of months. It only costs $10 and I get more compliments than I ever did with any other style. My daughter remarked "Now you really look like an old grizzled sergeant!" She had a big grin on her face. It made me feel really good. So whoever is swinging the clippers will do.

 

[3113]

I'm with Mistresslynn. It's the results I'm after, not the conversation or even the overall experience (though it is nice when they know how to massage your head while washing your hair). I've got difficult hair (thick/curly/frizzy type), and finding a hair dresser that really knows how to cut it to make it look good overshadows gender or sexuality. I never had a gay hairdresser. Of the two hairdressers in my history of hairdressers that I loved (meaning they did great with my hair) one was straight male, the other straight female.

The guy was the fastest hair dresser I've had, a true artist who specialized in punk haircuts and had several tats up and down his arms. He was a surfer and guitarist as well. He'd put on loud music and snip-snip-snip while he rocked out to it. Unfortunately, he got into doing and selling paintings, and his salon became a gallery.

My current stylist goes at a slower, more leisurely pace, but she's very, very good. My hair not only looks great after she cuts it, but generally maintains a nice looking style for a good six weeks. If she were gay, or a gay male, or a straight male, I'd still go to her for that reason and that reason alone.

 

[glynndah]

I rarely have a male style my hair, once every twenty years rare (ten years, thirty years and fifty years, more or less). I really don't care who cuts it, as long as I like the results, but the cheap places seem to hire more women as stylists.

 

[sadangel]

just not worth it.

 

[Teloz]

I've had both men and women hairdressers. Surprisingly the two men seemed to be gifted in it while the women were just okay. My current one is a guy (straight) and he is awesome. I wish I could get my hair to style the way he does.

Hair? What hair? You don't need to be much of a stylist to skin the bald bit over with the clippers and trim the beard to a No4. Much nicer if it's done by a pleasant young lady though.