Okay, time to find out if I am normal!

[miss_behave]

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[Eilan]

This is definitely not uncommon. The stats I've seen vary pretty widely, but it's safe to say that you're absolutely not alone.

You might want to check out this thread and do some exploring on your own. The more you worry about this, the less likely it is to happen, so it's best to focus on the journey instead of the destination.

Good luck.

 

[miss_behave]

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[MisterSir]

Right, I am 21 and have been with 3 partners. I know that's a small number for my age but one was very long term.

Given your relatively small sample size, it could be you but it's more likely to be them; if you cum from oral and masturbation, it'd seem that the problem isn't something to do with your body. Also, three partners isn't really a small number considering the length of the long-term one, there's nothing to be concerned about on that front either.

 

[miss_behave]

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[satindesire]

The clitoris and the penis are the same in the unsexed fetus. So think about this, men aren't usually able to reach orgasm from stimulation anywhere other than their penis, so why would a woman be expected to orgasm from stimulation anywhere other than our clitoris?

Most women simply do not have a vagina that is sexually sensitive enough for orgasm. You are VERY normal.

 

[kaycee217]

It's my understand that "most" women cannot climax from intercourse alone.

 

[orgamimime]

A former girlfriend of mine had difficulty (okay she couldn't) orgasm from penetration, but had no trouble with clitoral orgasms. She developed quite the complex because she worried she would never cum that way and all of her friends kept telling her what she was missing! It took a while, but we finally overcame that challenge. I would stay behind her and rub her clit until she was just about ready to cum. Just as she came, I would slide into her. Over time, I entered her a little more and more before her orgasm until she came without the clitoral stimulation. Penetrations still didn't get her off every time, but doing both did work every time!

Keep trying miss_behave. It IS possible!

Right, I am 21 and have been with 3 partners. I know that's a small number for my age but one was very long term.

The first was a one-time thing, the second was a 2 year thing and the last was a dirty weekend with a friend lol.

I come very easily from oral and masturbating but I have never had an orgasm from sex.

Is it me or them or neither?? Do some women only come from clitoral stimulation??

I want to know what I'm missing out on and if I'll ever have it?

Thanks guys, mwah! x

 

[iaag1234]

my wife wants the penis plain and simple, Very rarely do I get the chance to play with her clit. She is one that needs the internal pressure. OF note when I do use hand to get her off I get into the pussy and rub on her G spot, I love feeling it get a bit harder and then the fireworks go off. Great fun

 

[NippleMuncher]

Oh I do worry. And then I worry that I'm worrying

Your worry makes me worry that you're worrying too much!

All joking aside, you are not alone. A good percentage of women don't orgasm from penetration, however, that doesn't necessarily mean that they can't, it may only mean that they have not figured out how to do so. I am by no means a master, however, it's been reported by more than a few folks that the G spot does exist and that with the proper stimulation, it can trigger quite intense orgasms. Follow the link that Eilan posted, it's about how to achieve a G spot orgasm. Whether you're playing solo or with a friend, you should be able to find it and experiment. As with all things, it takes practice to find what feels best to you and what works for you. Don't be afraid to use toys to aid in your quest. The best thing is, once you know how to do this for yourself, you can guide any future lovers to the keys to your vault.

Good luck, practice, and if you still need help, just call me ...

 

[silverwhisper]

i think the last stat i saw was that 80% (90%?) of women cannot achieve orgasm solely through vaginal stimulation. so no, you aren't alone--in fact, you're in the majority!

ed

 

[Quoll]

i think the last stat i saw was that 80% (90%?) of women cannot achieve orgasm solely through vaginal stimulation. so no, you aren't alone--in fact, you're in the majority!

ed

That's my understanding too.
This is a link to a thread on the General Board, if you filter out all the usual crap, you will find some good info and staitstics in the poll which hopefully will allow you to not worry so much about the fact that you are perfectly normal.

Female Orgasms by Age: Clitoral Stimulation or Vaginal Intercourse?

 

[Firebrain]

I don't think many women have orgasms just from intercourse; you need a lot of build up first.

The easiest way, I find, is to have him go down on me until I'm practically there and then I get on top of him - you can grind your clit against him really well in that position and it's easy for him to hit your G-spot too. Either that, or put your legs right up on his shoudlers in missionary and he can stroke your clit while he fucks you.

Oh, and relax, take your time. Easier said than done but if you're just worrying about when you'll come, it never seems to happen. A good, long body massage before you get started works wonders in this instance

 

[missymoomoo]

Like many others on this thread has said, a lot of women can not or find it hard to achieve orgasm through sex only. There are a lot a positions that can increase clit stimulation and g-spot stimulation whilst you are having intercourse.

Do you know where your g-spot is? I would suggest spending some quality time with yourself and a good vibe oh and don't forget the lube. Find your g-spot then get your partner involved- someone that you trust not just some random fellow.

I find one of the best postions to help me climax during intercouse is when I on top and the boy raises his hips up, really gets me going.

I was reading on the net last night and there were a few websites that said women who find it hard to cum during intercourse have a mental block or are trying to hard to achieve orgasm. We can scare the little fucker off!

Try to mix it up try different positions, have fun! Relax and try not to think about that being the most important thing. Though it is great! I can't lie!

And one more thing............. Don't get fussed about numbers high or low! Numbers do not equate to experience!

Good Luck!

 

[Arotico]

I can imagine how frustrating this is for you miss b, so let me be the first to offer to help you with face to face personal instruction...

Indeed, a lover with more experience and patience may allow you to forget your worries and guide you to the best possible outcome. Chances are, your past partners didn't have your pleasure in mind as much as they did their own. Or they were also in the early stages of understanding their erotic selves and lacked the insight to know what you needed.

Time is on your side, and so am I.

 

[sterculius]

My wife comes more readily during penetrative sex when she's on top facing me so that she can grind her clit against me. She too can easily climax when I'm eating her (I LOVE dining at the Y) Have your partners made the effort to hold off from coming until you did? I've always believed that "she comes first".

 

[MisterSir]

I can imagine how frustrating this is for you miss b, so let me be the first to offer to help you with face to face personal instruction...

Indeed, a lover with more experience and patience may allow you to forget your worries and guide you to the best possible outcome. Chances are, your past partners didn't have your pleasure in mind as much as they did their own. Or they were also in the early stages of understanding their erotic selves and lacked the insight to know what you needed.

Time is on your side, and so am I.

Using the HT section to hit on women who've come here for help - low, thy name is Arotico.

 

[silverwhisper]

um...i'm not sure just how new that particular development is, to be honest.

but i agree, it's probably on the forum list of "worst practices"...which gives me an idea for a poll. :>

ed

 

[Eilan]

This is a link to a thread on the General Board, if you filter out all the usual crap, you will find some good info and staitstics in the poll which hopefully will allow you to not worry so much about the fact that you are perfectly normal.

I saw that thread. I wish I could vote for more than one option, but I will say that I've been consistently able to orgasm through PIV alone since I was around 27.

um...i'm not sure just how new that particular development is, to be honest.

It's not new at all. Almost any time a female-sounding username asks for help, particularly along the lines of "I've never done [insert activity here]," she'll get at least one public offer of "help" (leg-humping), and probably a PM box full of offers as well.

 

[satindesire]

It's not new at all. Almost any time a female-sounding username asks for help, particularly along the lines of "I've never done [insert activity here]," she'll get at least one public offer of "help" (leg-humping), and probably a PM box full of offers as well.

Hence why I have a disclaimer in my profile

I haven't gotten a single horny PM since.

I tend to notice that if you make yourself sound like a ball busting bitch, the panty wastes leave you be out of sheer fear.

 

[silverwhisper]

i think it would be entertaining if one of you ladies would add a sig: "all PMs and contents may be subject to public posting and general mockery".

ed

 

[satindesire]

i think it would be entertaining if one of you ladies would add a sig: "all PMs and contents may be subject to public posting and general mockery".

ed

See Asshat thread.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=387054

 

[silverwhisper]

satindesire: omg...that's beautiful!

ed

 

[satindesire]

satindesire: omg...that's beautiful!

ed

It's worth a read, really is. I know it's a damn long thread but there's some gems in there that you just can't fake.

You know what I'm saying?

 

[DrHappy]

3 partners: Quality is more important than quantity.

As someone mentioned, most woman can't achieve an orgasm with intercourse if clitoral stimulation isn't used. With the minority of women who can, they may have more powerful orgasms if clitoral stimulation is added.

Have you tried rubbing your clit during intercourse? Have you tried using a vibrator on your clit during intercourse? Both can be fun regardless of whether you "need" it.

Have you tried working with your partner to find positions and motions that provider some grinding friction? Some women have better luck when they are on top. Some work well when the guy is on top and emphasizes grinding against the public bone, rather than "in and out" motion.