Is "Gay" A Choice?

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HAHAHAHAHA

You want me to play Fool's Errand with you, so I can bring you facts you'll always reject. I dont fucking think so.

But you can do the research yourself. Google Androgen Hormone Insensitivity Syndrome.

 

[CharleyH]

Is obesity a choice?

Sometimes it is.

 

[Stella_Omega]

TheCarver,

JBJ is a poop-throwing monkey. He might or might not believe the opinons he offers; no one knows or cares. What he does do though, is try to trap unwitting newcomers into fruitless debates with him. he always chooses the ugliest, most insulting methods to express himself; he thinks it makes him more "honest" somehow.

An awful lot of people keep him on their ignore list because-- it's a social board, really, and no one needs to pay attention to monkeyshit.



And it's considered good manners to not quote him if you do reply to him.

 

[CharleyH]

I'm not gay, but based on what gays tell me, it's not a choice - it's something that's part of who they are that they can't deny. I'm willing to accept that. My question is why do some gay men choose to act all feminine (speech affectations, mannerisms, interests, make-up, women's clothes, etc) and some aren't any different than heterosexual men in their appearance, behavior and interests? Why do some gay men make this choice, or is this something inherent in being gay that they also can't deny and some other gay men are just covering it over and trying to act "normal" as much as possible?

As Pride Day comes upon us, I think your question very valid. Being bisexual and female, it is hard for me to answer.

 

[Belegon]

PLEASE stop quoting the troll.

 

[Liar]

Is "Gay" A Choice?

Depends on what you mean by "Gay".

If you mean purely sexual orientation then no. You don't choose which gender you're attracted to. Or even which person.

What you do with those attractions, hetero as well as homo, is a choice. What kind of lifestyle you make your own, is a choice.

Whenever you hear tales of the gay man who was "cured" and now lives a wife-and-kids family life, it's a fair chance they weren't 100% gay, and forced or socially conditioned to supress one set of urges and embrace another.

 

[sr71plt]

As Pride Day comes upon us, I think your question very valid. Being bisexual and female, it is hard for me to answer.

My response is that this isn't a choice of "being" or even "accepting/denying"; rather it is one of "acting on" or not.

But then, I think sex is sex is sex and that we all essentially could go any which way given the right circumstances.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

LIAR

It means do you take dicks in your ass? Simple enough?

 

[Liar]

Not really, buckwheat. When I play on that field, I'm a pitcher.

 

[Guest]

Did I rub you the wrong way or something. I didn't mean too.

I do have children and I do teach as well. I can't back up anything that I have said because I haven't research it other than speaking to various people that are gay, therapists, and one or two psychologists/psychiatrists. It was my own opinion based upon personal observation over the past 40 years.

My apologies for being so abrupt. That's one of my pet peeves, I'm afraid.

I am always frustrated when people put forth their opinions on sensitive and important (and scientific) issues without first checking out the facts. There can be no debate, no furthering of the discussion, no enlightenment on either side if the opinion is simply pulled from thin air.

People are entitled to have whatever opinions they wish, of course. But they'd better be prepared to defend them, especially when they post something that many would consider to be outrageous.

Oh - and Stella is quite right about the poo flinging monkey troll boy. Please don't quote him. He's not paper trained yet and I don't want to have to clean up the mess.

 

[CharleyH]

PLEASE stop quoting the troll.

Didn't realize there was one. Stopping and quoting you.

 

[Guest]

Not really, buckwheat. When I play on that field, I'm a pitcher.

I'd love to play. Er, catch.

Or maybe just watch. I could watch.

*lusting*

 

[CharleyH]

Not really, buckwheat. When I play on that field, I'm a pitcher.

Something wrong with anal sex?

 

[Belegon]

Didn't realize there was one. Stopping and quoting you.

Thank you, gorgeous. This one isn't the fun kinda make-you-laugh-despite-yourself Chilled Vodka kind. Just hateful and ugly.

 

[Liar]

Something wrong with anal sex?

Did I say there was?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Not really, buckwheat. When I play on that field, I'm a pitcher.

Then you oughta know what gay is.

But on 2nd thought, you rarely know which way UP is, so maybe I shouldnt be surprised at your confusion. Youre just being you.

 

[sr71plt]

And you're trying a bit too hard JBJ. I've seen that before, like in some Republican legislators. Pretty classic behavior.

 

[CharleyH]

Thank you, gorgeous. This one isn't the fun kinda make-you-laugh-despite-yourself Chilled Vodka kind. Just hateful and ugly.

I missed the hate part, I think, Bel.

 

[CharleyH]

Did I say there was?

Nooo. I was just asking.

 

[Remec]

Minor threadjack

I'd love to play. Er, catch.
Or maybe just watch. I could watch.
*lusting*

*thinking that watching or playing catch with Sarahh would be a sport I could definitely get into*

 

[CharleyH]

*thinking that watching or playing catch with Sarahh would be a sport I could definitely get into*

Catch Sarahh's what? That's fun. Lesbian fun!!!

 

[Safe_Bet]

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uuuuh, Is "Gay" A Choice?????

 

[Guest]

*thinking that watching or playing catch with Sarahh would be a sport I could definitely get into*

Remec!!!!

You could catch me - damn, you give the best hugs. Snuggled head to toe.

Who knows where more hugs could lead?

Catch Sarahh's what? That's fun. Lesbian fun!!!

Woo hoo!

Imp told me at the last Litogether that she loves to kiss straight girls. I have pictures. Hell, we ALL have pictures - LOL!

Imp kisses are goooood.

 

[Guest]

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uuuuh, Is "Gay" A Choice?????

Sorry.

 

[Remec]

[/ THREAD JACK]

uuuuh, Is "Gay" A Choice?????

*picking self off the floor*
*brushing off*
*making apologetic motions to the Powers behind the Thread*

*cough*
Sometimes?

*biting lip and thinking under the glare of the thread's focus*

Um, well, IMHO--again, without any personal research behind me, beyond my own observations, some anecdotal evidence from friends and acquaintances, and what I have read, seen, or heard from various media sources on both sides of the debate--I would say that my feeling is that whom you are attracted to is not something that you have much, if any, control over.

To that end, no, it is not a choice.

But whether you act upon that attraction and indulge the gamut of emotional and physical (and even psychological) pressures said attraction places upon you, that could be considered as a choice. Which would make being gay also a choice.

To me--and I can only speak for myself--I really think that people can't help if they like their own gender any more than they could help being left or right handed or preferring pizza to Chinese or the colour orange versus Navy blue. If we are defining 'Gay' strictly by that preference, then it is definitely not a choice.