how to meet other bisexual couples?

[Creutair]

My wife and I have been trying for nearly a year now to find a bisexual couple, near us in age (early 20s) to have some fun with--this seems to be an impossible task.

I've tried AdultFriendFinder (I even paid), Craigslist and a few others. Of 18 couples that showed some interest, they would reply once or twice then simply stop entirely. One couple got so far as talking about meeting at a nearby restaurant for dinner before saying they weren't yet ready -- the only one of the 18 to actually say "sorry, count us out" instead of simply vanishing.

UARGH. Why is this so difficult? I can understand it may be uncomfortable to say "sorry, you're to young for me" or "we don't think you're attractive" or whatever reason they may be but is it really so hard to simply say "I'm not interested"

Are there ANY decent sites for finding & meeting up with another couple?

 

[Oaklandish]

I've been wondering this as well, though I'm a single male looking for bisexual couples. I'm not sure where you're located, but I'm in the SF bay area. When I first started looking, I was sure it'd be easy, but... yeah... no.

Craigslist scares the hell out of me. I mean, I don't want to sound like an elitist prick, but if you're a "professional" couple in your thirties, and you spell like that, AND HAVE A SERIOUS ADDICTION TO CAPS LOCK... I'm sorry. I don't want to fuck you or your wife. I want to enjoy the people that I'm experiencing things with.

Sigh. Guess I'll just have to go hit on married people. Just not sure how many times I'll get slapped/punched before I find the right one =P

 

[TallOne]

It of course all comes down to the people in your area who use a particular site.

Swinglifestyle isn't bad, but of course most of the couples where the guy is bi, he's 'undercover' and only reveals that in chat.

 

[A_Kefka]

I'm sure many that are looking online are new to playing and not sure if they really want to. Or some could just llike the fantasy and not think about the feelings of those they chat with in order to excite themselves. Even those that do get together are probably very choosey, although they should have the courtesy to say they aren't interested instead of just trailing off.

 

[latendresse]

best advice I ever heard ...

The best advice I ever heard was in a book which was actually a documentary style narration of the writer's experience of the swinging scene in the 80s.

I doubt it is out of date ...

His advice was that generally even bi couples are tentative about admitting the male bisexual componont (female bi-ness is nothing at all uncommon, and arguably it is the glue that holds swingers together!). Male bisexual activity is not just not publicly cool even for most swingers and has to be approached with caution.

I suspect the best way is to leave well placed hints that make it seem vaguely possible. If you go straight to it you will scare most others away.

Try an ad or note something like this:

"Liberated, unconventional early 20s couple seeks same for fun nights out, a restaurant, or dancing, and then to see what happens next ..."

RATHER THAN
"Kinky bi couple seeks totally bi couple for fucking and hardcore action"

I am exaggerating but you get the picture.

Anyway. What would I know? My only experience was unplanned, unexpected, and was not preceded by advertisements etc.

My wife and I have been trying for nearly a year now to find a bisexual couple, near us in age (early 20s) to have some fun with--this seems to be an impossible task.

I've tried AdultFriendFinder (I even paid), Craigslist and a few others. Of 18 couples that showed some interest, they would reply once or twice then simply stop entirely. One couple got so far as talking about meeting at a nearby restaurant for dinner before saying they weren't yet ready -- the only one of the 18 to actually say "sorry, count us out" instead of simply vanishing.

UARGH. Why is this so difficult? I can understand it may be uncomfortable to say "sorry, you're to young for me" or "we don't think you're attractive" or whatever reason they may be but is it really so hard to simply say "I'm not interested"

Are there ANY decent sites for finding & meeting up with another couple?

 

[latendresse]

another option

Or just fantasise!

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=327246

 

[dad001]

Hi.

swinglifestyle.com.....is a very good sight, will have some of the same as AFF. But we have had good luck.

Good luck to you,

Dad

 

[Creutair]

Thanks, I'll try swinglifestyle.. though there's only 4 couples within 50 miles of us - you'd think that being right between San Francisco and Los Angeles (only 3 hours in either direction) that there'd be more.

 

[BBC4WMILFnCPLS]

Try The Zone

www.swingerszonecentral.com

or

www.swingersboard.com, they have section discussing this same subject and you can find people who are open to chatting with you about it and it's free.

 

[Samuelx]

they're more common than you think.