Men turned on by shemales.

[MrsConfused]

I am curious about something, now that it has been brought to my attention. I, myself, thought I was straight until a few years ago. I was married, but my husband was less than ideal and I found comfort with my best friend and also discovered that she and I were both bi. To make a long story short, I divorced my husband and have been with her since.
I am paraphrasing here, but a male friend recently confided in me that he had never thought of himself as being bi, but he stated that he is really turned on by viewing or even thinking about pics or videos of shemales.
He said he was really confused because most look like beautiful women and that turns him on and he finds himself thinking what it would be like to be with someone who looks like a beautiful woman, but has a penis.
He said he can't see himself with a man or someone who looks like a man, but he said he would love to, at least once, be with a beautiful shemale and that he finds it arousing, the thought of kissing him/her and stroking his/her penis and making even sucking on it and possibly even having sex.
I know there has to be other men who have been in this situation and would welcome any insight or thoughts or experiences. If I get any helpful info, I will relay it to my friend.
By the way, he does know I am bi, but he doesn't know I visit sights such as this and doesn't know I am writing this and may not even know that this site exists.
Thanks in advance for any help on this matter

 

[alaskabibear]

Couple of thoughts for you;

Perhaps you should introduce your friend to this site. He would find a number of like minded men here and that alone should help him come to terms with his bi-sexuality. In addition, he could perhaps meet a trans friend here to chat with online to further advance his learning of the subject.

As to the attraction to trans-girls. Just an opinion here but, everyone's sexuality is somewhat unique - perhaps individualized is a better term. Some are strictly attracted to the opposite gender, some strictly to the same gender. Many respected studies indicate that the majority of us are somewhere in between. In my opinion it is not that unusual for a bisexual person who is attracted to both genders to naturally be drawn to the "idea" of a person who embodies attributes of both. I say "idea" because our fantasies tend to always wash clean the realities of individual relationships. Also, I suspect he (like most of us) indulge in some lust filled viewing of porn with professional trans-girl actors. Nothing wrong with that of course, but it can tend to warp our sense of reality somewhat.

But anyway, I think your friend just needs to learn a bit more about bisexuality and the many faces of trans-sexuality to try and discover his own place in the mix of humanity.

 

[Bystander]

Honestly I see trans-sexual girls as, well girls becuase that's what they are. I've been through similar feelings myself. It took me a while to be comfortable with the idea and in my experience it helps if you know there's other folks out there with similar desires. If he really wants to try out the experience without engaging in a relationship with a trans-girl his best bet might be to just get with an escort. You can do a good job of screening with all the info available on the net these days.

 

[Programmer Cat]

I think that if a t-girl thinks of herself as a girl, then I have no business arguing with her. Who cares if she has a dick? Not I, since I like to suck cocks and lick pussies equally -- and a clit looks just like a little cock once you've gotten the woman comfortable enough to move the little hood aside.

 

[CathyDomme]

be with a beautiful shemale and that he finds it arousing, the thought of kissing him/her and stroking his/her penis

really turned on by viewing or even thinking about pics or videos of shemales.

Hi MrsConfused

Your friend certainly isn't alone in his desires but to help him along in his quest I think I should point out a few things. You will notice that the quote above I have highlighted a few things, things that if he wants to meet a TG/TS girl he should probably avoid.

Pronouns are important. "Him/her" should never escape his mouth (or keyboard), as the correct pronoun to use for an MtF (male to female TG/TS) is always feminine. ie. her, she etc. For FtM's (female to male TG/TS) it is as you would expect, the opposite. ie. male pronouns him, he etc.

I can't say it enough, pronouns are important. Don't let your friend mess that up.

She-male... The word, or rather the composite word of 'she-male' was invented by the adult film industry and has now spread to other parts of the 'adult entertainment' world.

Whilst at work in the adult industry, a pre/non-operative transsexual may well identify as 'she-male', but in her private life the chances of 'she-male' being the identifier of choice is almost next to zero. The identifiers that she is most likely to use are, transgender, transsexual, transvestite (to a much lesser degree in the last 50 years) and of course identifying as a woman.

The word 'she-male' in the greater majority of the trans-world is seen as derogatory and should be avoided.

He said he was really confused because most look like beautiful women and that turns him on and he finds himself thinking what it would be like to be with someone who looks like a beautiful woman, but has a penis.

For the most part it is like being with a natal woman. If his interest is purely fantasy/fetish, then there are plenty of working girls that can provide him with that experience at a price. If however his interest is more than that, then all the same rules as dating a natal woman apply. ie, Dress well, smell nice, be on his best behaviour, treat her like a princess, and don't expect that dinner and a movie entitles him to a roll in the hay.... All the same sorts of rules I am sure he knows already.

I hope that helps out your friend a little.

Cathy

 

[Daveinport]

As a bi-curious guy with no experiences as of yet, I can honestly say I would prefer the first time to be with a TG. Same reasons, I'm not really attracted to men, rather cocks and the fun you can have w/ them.
The problem is that most TGs (that I have seen in porn or on escort sites) aren't that passable. They look rough. Like a guy with a lot of make up and a boob job.

 

[emap]

Actually Dave your kinda falling into a trap with that assessment, on escort sites and in porn you always know that is a transgender woman. In real life just looking at a woman you will see either a beautiful woman or a woman transgender or not.

 

[Daveinport]

Actually Dave your kinda falling into a trap with that assessment, on escort sites and in porn you always know that is a transgender woman. In real life just looking at a woman you will see either a beautiful woman or a woman transgender or not.

Point taken. Although I've seen my fair share of transvestites and possibly transexuals while out clubbing and my usual first thought is, that's a guy (no offense to the transexuals). The one's so passable that I could not tell, those are who I'd go for.

 

[A_Kefka]

I just find myself wondering how many that totally pass you have seen and ddin't know.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Shemales are HOT, no matter what you call them.

I don't care what you call them, any body that goes that far out of their way to be attractive to me, a healthy bi male, is HOT. Babes with great figures, all made up pretty, and packing a cock as well, that is a complete sexual being!
I know they are going to know exactly what a man needs, and how to do it.
I can do it all with them; kissing, playing with boobs, f*cking, sucking, or even let them f*ck me...it's all on the table, and I love it.
I'm in love with Tara Emory, who describes herself as a 'fetish transexual pinup.'

 

[Metawampe]

I too would like to try my first bi experience with a beautiful T Girl. I don't know if I would like to be surprised or not. The mystery of a T Girl would certainly be erotic, but to get all worked up and find the unexpected might deflate the moment, sort of speaking. Knowing what was waiting for me might be the best road to take. I am looking forward to that day.

 

[CathyDomme]

I just find myself wondering how many that totally pass you have seen and ddin't know.

How many? More than you would know. It really depends on two factors, age at transition and the attitude of the girl.

The younger the girl is at the beginning of transition the better the chance of the hormones being able to do their thing. If transition starts at puberty then development is the same as a natal girl. Up to around the age of 22'ish the body is still pliable by hormones but after this point things like bone structure are fixed for life. So early transitioning girls are most likely to walk on by without you reading them at all.

Attitude, as I always tell my subs, will make up for and far exceed any physical flaw. I think that the major problem for most people when they think of the fantasy "shemale" (god I hate that word) is that they only ever have the picture in their mind of the most perfect female in the world and then judge them on that. If someone is looking for flaws then that is all they will see. Don't believe me? Go ahead, tell your girlfriend that her bum looks fat in an outfit that she loves. After she finishes beating you with the nearest heavy object, she will start looking at her bum and convince herself that you are right, even if her name is Elle Macpherson. So if you start with the image of absolute perfection, then not even 99% of natal women will pass as female to you. For the transgirl that is where attitude comes in...

If a transgirl absolutely believes in herself, believes 100% that she is female, then she will stroll past you on the street and you will never even realise it. Even if she is 7'6" tall with a beard* you won't notice a damn thing. Why? Because as a person on the street you don't expect to see every woman as the image of perfection. If she presents as a woman, 100% mentally and reasonably well physically, then your brain will process her as female even with all her flaws, and you will never know the difference.

I will guarantee that 95%** of transgirls you have seen in your life, you have not read as being trans at all. Instead they walked passed you on the street and you saw them as female, because that is what they presented to you.


* ok, perhaps not the beard
** statistic not verified, nor even proven, but pulled out of thin air like 99.9%*** of statistics quoted on the internet
*** see above

 

[texharley]

I am curious about something, now that it has been brought to my attention. I, myself, thought I was straight until a few years ago. I was married, but my husband was less than ideal and I found comfort with my best friend and also discovered that she and I were both bi. To make a long story short, I divorced my husband and have been with her since.
I am paraphrasing here, but a male friend recently confided in me that he had never thought of himself as being bi, but he stated that he is really turned on by viewing or even thinking about pics or videos of shemales.
He said he was really confused because most look like beautiful women and that turns him on and he finds himself thinking what it would be like to be with someone who looks like a beautiful woman, but has a penis.
He said he can't see himself with a man or someone who looks like a man, but he said he would love to, at least once, be with a beautiful shemale and that he finds it arousing, the thought of kissing him/her and stroking his/her penis and making even sucking on it and possibly even having sex.
I know there has to be other men who have been in this situation and would welcome any insight or thoughts or experiences. If I get any helpful info, I will relay it to my friend.
By the way, he does know I am bi, but he doesn't know I visit sights such as this and doesn't know I am writing this and may not even know that this site exists.
Thanks in advance for any help on this matter

I have no problem admitting I am bi. The thing is I have not had sex with or sucked another cock for 40 years. I had problems with my desires so I wa sin a bad marriage for 19 years and after divorcing could not allow myself to admit I am bi. I have been married to my second wife 16 years now and I am faithful to her except for my secret cyber sucking with men and I now allow myself to watch bi, gay shemale porn.

I love T Girls a very pretty feminine lady whos is very sexy becomes even more sexy with a dick. Myself I don't really like hge dicks but 6 or 7 inches or so and one oe one and half inch round is a turn on. I am one of those gus who love cock but cannot see myself loving or kissing a man but is he has a cute dick I woul suck it in a second if I was not married and I could know he is safe.

 

[PoeticMusings53]

Couple of thoughts for you;

Perhaps you should introduce your friend to this site. He would find a number of like minded men here and that alone should help him come to terms with his bi-sexuality. In addition, he could perhaps meet a trans friend here to chat with online to further advance his learning of the subject.

As to the attraction to trans-girls. Just an opinion here but, everyone's sexuality is somewhat unique - perhaps individualized is a better term. Some are strictly attracted to the opposite gender, some strictly to the same gender. Many respected studies indicate that the majority of us are somewhere in between. In my opinion it is not that unusual for a bisexual person who is attracted to both genders to naturally be drawn to the "idea" of a person who embodies attributes of both. I say "idea" because our fantasies tend to always wash clean the realities of individual relationships. Also, I suspect he (like most of us) indulge in some lust filled viewing of porn with professional trans-girl actors. Nothing wrong with that of course, but it can tend to warp our sense of reality somewhat.

But anyway, I think your friend just needs to learn a bit more about bisexuality and the many faces of trans-sexuality to try and discover his own place in the mix of humanity.

Its not anywhere nearly this simple.

There's attraction, desire, and behavior. The individual in question has expressed attraction. They have not expressed desire for sexual relationships with the transgendered persons, and they have not taken steps to turn the attraction into a behavior. If you had all 3, then I'd say, yeah, its pretty reasonable to suggest that this person is bi, but attraction alone is a gray area.

And then there's the issue of what many transsexuals are: 90% of their anatomy is indistinguishable from a natural female, 10% is male. Saying that this is exactly the same as attraction to a man is a questionable statement.

Suggesting that they're necessarily bisexual (a term with no agreed-upon definition I might add) because of the fact that they are attracted to something that is 90% female and 10% male is far too uncertain a statement. It would really be best to allow the individual in question to define their own sexual identity.

 

[eyeball1]

Here's my first big venture into this world.
(Sorry if thread archaeology is a no no.)

Years ago when I was living in SoCal a friend of mine's gf got an appartment in the "gay" area of San Diego so I ended up spending time in that area.
Now, I like women. I REALLY like dressed up women in lingerie who know they look good and want you to appreciate them.
I'm also not attracted to guys. Just don't do it for me. Give me the curves, nice smell, and softness of a woman. However I'm also secure in my manhood and hey, I have no issues with someone who thinks/acts/believes/lives different than me.
All that said I met the buddy's gf's neighbor. A pretty good looking gal...who...you guessed it...turned out to be a transsexual. She was cute, funny, dressed VERY nice, smelled great, and she was a she. Took me a while to wrap my mind around it and I never got up the nerve to really be with her other than a friend of a friend but I see no problem with how she lived her life and what she was. She was a hot woman to me.

So now I'm here after ten years of sex with women and I really don't mind looking at transsexual women too. Yes, they have a penis. So do I - big whoop. However they really take the time and effort to look sexy. Lingerie, hair done up, smell nice, just take those extra efforts to look, smell, and even taste good. I've had too many experiences with genetic females who couldn't give a damn about dressing up or being sexy or even having the confidence to beleive they're sexy to not appreciate the effort and desire that most of the hot transsexuals you see put into looking like they do.
Yep, I'm a fan.
Off my soap box now.

 

[Semler]

Here's my first big venture into this world.
(Sorry if thread archaeology is a no no.)

Years ago when I was living in SoCal a friend of mine's gf got an appartment in the "gay" area of San Diego so I ended up spending time in that area.
Now, I like women. I REALLY like dressed up women in lingerie who know they look good and want you to appreciate them.
I'm also not attracted to guys. Just don't do it for me. Give me the curves, nice smell, and softness of a woman. However I'm also secure in my manhood and hey, I have no issues with someone who thinks/acts/believes/lives different than me.
All that said I met the buddy's gf's neighbor. A pretty good looking gal...who...you guessed it...turned out to be a transsexual. She was cute, funny, dressed VERY nice, smelled great, and she was a she. Took me a while to wrap my mind around it and I never got up the nerve to really be with her other than a friend of a friend but I see no problem with how she lived her life and what she was. She was a hot woman to me.

So now I'm here after ten years of sex with women and I really don't mind looking at transsexual women too. Yes, they have a penis. So do I - big whoop. However they really take the time and effort to look sexy. Lingerie, hair done up, smell nice, just take those extra efforts to look, smell, and even taste good. I've had too many experiences with genetic females who couldn't give a damn about dressing up or being sexy or even having the confidence to beleive they're sexy to not appreciate the effort and desire that most of the hot transsexuals you see put into looking like they do.
Yep, I'm a fan.
Off my soap box now.

Well said.

 

[fortiesf]

People are missing the obvious.

A man's eye's are drawn to sexy shapes. That goes back pretty far in evolution.

 

[fauconier]

Interesting questions. It's been said many times, but it seems that sexuality and sexual attraction are not only on a continuum---they are surprisingly fluid. (If you pick up a copy of Jan Clausen's Apples and Oranges you might see what I mean). I think there are some men who are very attracted to a woman's curves and femininity but unconsciously uneasy with her anatomy. With a transgender woman, they can have feminine beauty with the comforting familiarity of sexual equipment that they aren't ambivalent about. Some men attracted to pre-op transgender women might have had a bad experience when young with a genetic female (I'm a little in this category myself---the bad experience that is). Then again, people are so complex that there must be as many explanations for attraction as there are people.

 

[rkpt]

Well said.

I get turned on seeing a TS with a beautiful cock. Very erotic seeing a masculine guy suck off a gorgeous TS. Hard to find that though.

 

[pussy_liquor]

I love watching shemales.

 

[aronpete]

I have no problem admitting I am bi. The thing is I have not had sex with or sucked another cock for 40 years. I had problems with my desires so I wa sin a bad marriage for 19 years and after divorcing could not allow myself to admit I am bi. I have been married to my second wife 16 years now and I am faithful to her except for my secret cyber sucking with men and I now allow myself to watch bi, gay shemale porn.

I love T Girls a very pretty feminine lady whos is very sexy becomes even more sexy with a dick. Myself I don't really like hge dicks but 6 or 7 inches or so and one oe one and half inch round is a turn on. I am one of those gus who love cock but cannot see myself loving or kissing a man but is he has a cute dick I woul suck it in a second if I was not married and I could know he is safe.

Some of my best masturbating has been done to videos of "chicks with dicks" if you will pardon that term.

There is nothing more arousing than the vision of a female with male genitals. I have never encountered one in real life sexual intimacy but have enjoyed a very rich fantasy life masturbating to these lovely people.

Modest sized dicks appeal to me more than those huge poles flaunted by porn stars. I like dicks with foreskins, not denuded. As to the spurt, since I am a dribbler rather than a shooter I most enjoy watching loads erupt when they are like mine and not humiliatingly superior to what I can do.

The most essential thing is that my fantasy lovers must give me total eye contact. I will not stroke to a person who is busy with someone else or who is looking away. I want you to look intently into my eyes and I gaze right back into yours. Let me see the look in your eyes that tells me you really want my load and I will do my best to serve you.

If you want to trade .jpgs or short video clips I am at petepetr@gmail.com and if you send me a pic of yourself I would love to stroke for you and send you a pic or video of the moment of joy we will share in the cyberworld.

 

[pigpen1491]

T girls

I would love to find a t girl, passable or not and make love to her anyway she desires. I can not find one around here except that want 200/ hour. I am fine with helping a girl out with financial help but at 200/ hour I need to pass

 

[boxmaker]

would love to have a t girl, got the best of both worlds, a cock up your ass and tits to play with yummy

 

[jshawk52]

would love to have a t girl, got the best of both worlds, a cock up your ass and tits to play with yummy

I couldn't have said it better

 

[jblast]

Shemale "Yummy"

I saw my first tranny girl ten years ago on the net. I couldn't get the idea of a hot looking lady with a cock out of my mind. Last summer my girl friend, who is a very kinky babe started to talk about me and a t girl doing it. She wanted to watch and play too. She had visited several tranny sites and downloaded some very hot movies. The more I watched the more it turned me on. Thinking about having a cock in my mouth or ass is one thing. I am not interested in men. But a tranny perked my attention.
For my birthday last summer I had a date with the most beautiful black tranny. My girl friend set up the date behind my back. She went to CL Tampa and searched for the perfect cherry plucker. I work all over the country. I returned home for a vacation and she started bringing up the t girl subject while we were making love. She knows I like black girls. She said it would be hot to have a hot hung babe in bed with us. How she would hold the girls cock while I sucked her off. And how good it would feel for me to have a cock pumping away in me. I got excited and said it would be over the top. Then she sprang the trap. She had already contacted and met the perfect girl for me. Two weeks later I traveled to Tampa to meet the special lady. We met at an upscale place for dinner. I was not able to pick her out in the place. She was a total soft sweet looking woman. I had seen the pictures and emails from her and she looked very good. Up close she was even better. I expected a manly voice and a beard. She was a total woman with something extra.
After meeting her and relaxing during dinner and a few glasses of wine. We went to her condo. She was a perfect lover. By the next morning I had made love to and with her. Upon my return home I described it all to Lin. She had a lot of questions. How did her cum taste ? How big was her cock, did it hurt?
We have since met the girl and one of her friends for a few times for weekend get togethers. I now wish I had lost my cherry a long time ago.
I have started to write a story of our lusty adventures and will post it here when it is ready.