True Real Anatomically Correct Carbon Based Submissives

[WickedEve]

Are you an online, on the phone, long distance sub? Are you ashamed of that? Touchy about it? The sub who actually feels her (or his) Dom's (or Domme's) hand slapping her ass, is she better than you? More submissive, more real. I bet she's more likely to be taken seriously than some sub who serves her Dom via web cam.

In the past ten years, I would have missed out on three good, solid relationships, if I had not gone online and started talking to people. The first man and I were in a D/s relationship for about 8 years. Over 95% of it was long distance. He was my Master. He was my Master on the phone, in emails, a few times in person. I loved him and respected him and had some of the best times of my life with him. The second man? I was involved with him (in an interesting which-one-is-the-sub relationship) while I was serving the first Dom -- with my Dom's knowledge. I never met the second man in person. The third one I met online and the very next day we met in person. We are going on two years together and we are engaged. We live about 45 minutes apart. We are with each other 2-4 days a week, until we move in together.

If I had not explored my submissive side online, then I know I would not be in a "real" bdsm relationship now. But those other relationships sure felt real, too.

The reason for this thread? Oh, I was reading another thread, and it once again reminded me that many online subs are sensitive about, well, being online subs -- I've been there. So I understand. I understand what it's like when you can't be with your PYL. I also understand and know that you can be creative and devoted and loving and submissive from afar and still make a relationship work -- more than work. You can make it a genuine pleasure for both of you.

So here's to all the kind of real, almost real, probably real, whatever real means, real subs out there.

 

[WriterDom]

I don't think I'd want a strictly online relationship if it couldn't get to the next level. But I've got no qualms with starting out that way.

But if it works for both parties then neither should give a fuck about what anyone says.

Lovely to see you hear miss we.

 

[WickedEve]

WD, it is a good way to start. Actually, I guess I'm still in a part-time L/D relationship since we spend almost half of the time on the phone. Well, without the internet and cell phone plans, I'd be sitting here alone with my dust bunnies and he'd be alone at a bar with his Jim Beam. We've discussed this before and came to the conclusion that we were both speeding toward the intersection of Pathetic and Lonely. Now we're pathetic, perverted and together.

 

[sinnocence]

Great thread WickedEve. I'll definitely reply to this when I get home later tonight.

 

[satindesire]

You tell'em girl. *high five!*

 

[Harmony_1985]

Gotta love pwning spin off threads.

 

[sinnocence]

Okay...well, I was gonna have a nice long reply but after responding to the other thread, I'm just gonna say this. I'm an online, phone, long distance sub, yes. I'm not ashamed. Touchy? Maybe just a little. But that's because I just wish that Our situation was different. Nonetheless, We are very much "real".

 

[WickedEve]

Gotta love pwning spin off threads.

What is a "pwning" spin off thread?

 

[WickedEve]

Thanks to someone for the pwning PM and now it's time for me to go pwn a sandwich. Yeah, I know I'm not using it right.

 

[Harmony_1985]

Hehe, silly.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pwnt

There ya go dear.

 

[satindesire]

Hehe, silly.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pwnt

There ya go dear.

Ppppffffftttt! *dies laughing!*

Someone made a PWN wiki?! Oh My Gawd.

 

[Myskaninen]

there is a wiki for everything

 

[nh23]

I've never had on online only relationship. However I've had two D/s relationships that were LDR. So I saw them once a month or so and otherwise talked to them on the phone, email etc..

I don't think that online, or LDR relationships are invalid or something to be ashamed of. I will say though that it's apples and oranges. I've been in a 24/7 TPE relationship for the last year, and it's totally different than anything before.

I won't argue that someone in an online relationship only doesn't have something valid, that they don't have real feelings, and a sincere desire to please etc..I believe that they do. I know I had real feelings in the LDR relationships I was in. However I do get upset at times when the two are compared as one, because they are nothing alike.

I won't say that one is better than the other. I know which works best for me, and only me. Each has it's own challenges, and benefits. But they are different challenges and benefits.

 

[00Syd]

I've never had a purely online relationship, but I've met everyone I've ever had a relationship with online. Everyone. Both of my loving relationships (one of which was LD), all of my sex only relationships, all of my play partners, I either met online or through someone I met online.

Sometimes its hard to admit where I met someone because there is such a stigma about meeting people online. A lot of the time I'll say that I met them through friends or friends of friends or something else equally vague. I don't really want to hear what people have to say about meeting people online, since its rarely good.

Even though I'm sometimes embarrassed to tell people how I met someone, I know that meeting people online works well for me and so, whatever.

 

[be_ignited]

Sometimes its hard to admit where I met someone because there is such a stigma about meeting people online. A lot of the time I'll say that I met them through friends or friends of friends or something else equally vague. I don't really want to hear what people have to say about meeting people online, since its rarely good.

This.

I met my PYL here. I've told everyone I know that we met randomly in the city where I go to school.