Incest question, please answer!

[romantic_always]

I am thoroughly confused as to why incest is one of the most popular topics on this site. I am not disgusted by it but I am not attracted to it, and as someone who sees no appeal in it, I just want to know: why is it so appealing to so many people?

 

[Guest]

Opinions differ, but one answer is likely found in the category name: Incest/Taboo. Forbidden fruit is very tempting to a lot of people, at least in fantasy. I suspect that avid readers of the column would probably throw up if they were confronted with a real-life incest opportunity, but fantasy is both safe and thrilling.

Another way of looking at it is unresoved sexual tensions from (probably) early adolescence through the mid- to late teens. I think it likely that all of us who grew up with siblings noted physical changes in them that caught our attention. Given the incest prohibition, a lot of people probably had repeated experiences of mingled arousal and shame. Depending on the strength of those feelings, it's practically a prescription for a sexual fixation.

I confess that I don't "get" the mommy/daddy aspects of incest. I wonder if having one's parent visibly and physically approve of one's sexuality is, to some minds, the ultimate affirmation. Or, it may be the ultimate expression of parental love to some.

In any event, I think Freud's Oedipal and Electra complexes have been pretty well discredited, so the floor is open for ideas. I'll let others wade in.

 

[RicoLouis]

Things such as cheating wives, gay / lesbain sex, interracial all where tabboo at one point. Now days there all most commen place in the porn industry not to mention you can see them on tv. However Incest is that one line no one seems to want to cross. It is rarley seen in porn and normally on TV and movies it is used for comic effect or in horror films where the two or mentaly unstable.

 

[sr71plt]

I am thoroughly confused as to why incest is one of the most popular topics on this site. I am not disgusted by it but I am not attracted to it, and as someone who sees no appeal in it, I just want to know: why is it so appealing to so many people?

It's permitted at this site and very few others. So, it's natural those interested in it would gravitate here.

 

[romantic_always]

It's permitted at this site and very few others. So, it's natural those interested in it would gravitate here.

No no, I get that. That's not my question. My question is, if anyone IS into this, what is the appeal you see in this??

 

[sr71plt]

No no, I get that. That's not my question. My question is, if anyone IS into this, what is the appeal you see in this??

Sounds like a fight starter, so I'll just tiptoe out of the thread.

 

[lex8508]

I am thoroughly confused as to why incest is one of the most popular topics on this site. I am not disgusted by it but I am not attracted to it, and as someone who sees no appeal in it, I just want to know: why is it so appealing to so many people?

I dont know if anyones said this, didnt read em all, but one thing could also be the trust thing.. who could you trust if you cant trust your parents or siblings? maybe thats part of it in that the incest thing is the ppl you trust the most and its about taking it farther than that.. Ive heard before of ppl that have issues trusting others from being put down alot throughout their lives having issues trusting others and it messes with ever getting sex... maybe for them incest is attracted because maybe someone in their family could love them enough to want to help them out and theyd be able to trust them.. dunno.. my 2 bits

 

[JammyJimmy]

I am thoroughly confused as to why incest is one of the most popular topics on this site. I am not disgusted by it but I am not attracted to it, and as someone who sees no appeal in it, I just want to know: why is it so appealing to so many people?

It came as a bit of surprise to me to find out it was the most popular, but I kinda asked myself the same question, as I'm trying to write a story in that genre at the moment, challenging myself and all that.
As far as I can determine, its a mixture of things..

1. The forbidden fruit - it's like having sex with the one person you are absolutely forbidden to. For some that thought alone is exciting, creates drama, and can lead to very erotic reading.

2. The ultimate male/female - as you grow up, then most peoples role models are their parents. That makes them your ideal man or woman in many peoples perceptions, and to be accepted and endorsed as a sexual partner by them could be a very positive experience.

3. Unconditional Love - The people who you know will love you no matter what, those you've known since your earliest memories. That brings a whole new level of intimacy to the table, as well as a secret, hidden and private part of each of the characters.

4. The parents view of it - that I can't get my head around at all. I can't remove myself from the abuse aspect of it, and point blank refuse to read anything from that POV.

Maybe that helped? I dunno? I'm sure there's more than three or four reasons, but I can't think of them at the mo.

JJ

 

[DeeZire]

I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the women are always just turning 18. Their bodies are perfect. Their innocence is still intact. It's the ultimate male fantasy to deflower a virgin. The excitement, the power, the sense of conquest can be very exhilarating to the reader. (Just speaking theoretically here, since I never, ever, ever, read or write incest stories - except now and then when I do it for research purposes.)

 

[romantic_always]

No, I didn't want to start a fight! I genuinely just wanted to know the mass appeal to it, it intrigues me as someone who doesn't see appeal in it on a site where it is most popular.

All of these answers have been very informative!

 

[backyardbabe]

i do it because its frowned upon so i blew my cousint after junior prom big deal bottom line noone really cares

 

[The_Trouvere]

No no, I get that. That's not my question. My question is, if anyone IS into this, what is the appeal you see in this??

One either likes something, or one does not. Likes are different to explain. I dislike stories about sexual intercourse between close relatives. I particularly dislike a story of forced sex between a father and daughter. Nevertheless, a story of consensual teasing and experimentation between relatives can appeal to me as long as it is clear that the relatives love each other.

BTW, I have never done that in my real life.

 

[emap]

Ya'll kinda skipped one. There is some reasoning that the son or daughter wishes to sleep with mom or dad to show they are no longer a kid anymore they are adults and don't need their hands held.

Part of it does go into the mom or dad being the prime example of a desirable woman or man to their kids. Most people end up being with someone alot like their parents after all.

 

[lorencino]

Intriguing

I am a heterosexual man. I shudder at the thought of having sex with anyone I'm related to. In fact, the very idea is so abhorrent to me I have great difficulty even thinking about sex with anyone in my family. However, I love reading stories in the incest/Taboo section. I too was surprised to see that the most-read stories are about incest and I started reading them out of curiosity only to find some of them extremely arousing.

The point is, though, that when I'm reading about someone else's incest, it has no bearing on my relations with my relatives. I am not a participant, but an observer and so don't feel the least incestuous reading about incestuous relations. The stories I like the least are the ones about father/daughter sex and those stories feel abusive to me. I know that this is completely irrational but I enjoy the Mother/son stories the most and don't find them abusive. Though I loved both my parent, I had a far better relationship with my father than with my mother and never had any fantasies or desire for my mother. Nonetheless I am highly aroused by the mother/son stories while at the same time would be totally disgusted, shocked and broken if my wife and son where to have a relationship.

I cannot fantasize about incest in my own life. Now, getting back to the heterosexual part first mentioned in the beginning of this entry. I am strictly heterosexual in practice but have no problem with fantasies about homosexual encounters.

Bottom line is: nothing about lust and arousal is ever going to be logical. Now I must take my leave and go and read a few incest stories and have some fun.

Cheerio!

 

[homina]

my 2 cents

I am thoroughly confused as to why incest is one of the most popular topics on this site. I am not disgusted by it but I am not attracted to it, and as someone who sees no appeal in it, I just want to know: why is it so appealing to so many people?

I realize this isn't going to be very helpful, but why ask just about incest?

why are some people turned on by interracial, or non-consent, or anal, whereas others have no interest in it whatsoever??? or scat, BDSM, etc etc....you get the point

incest is primarily what i read on this site, but I much prefer the cousins, aunt/nephew uncle/niece ones to parent/child

 

[Vielle]

No no, I get that. That's not my question. My question is, if anyone IS into this, what is the appeal you see in this??

I was once like you too. Why would anyone even think of such a thing, much less find it appealing?

But, it's one of those things. Caviar. For instance. The idea of eating those gelatinous fish eggs is pretty gross. Wouldn't you agree? Maybe even the first time you try it, you just can't get over the idea that these squishy salty things came out of a fish. Yet, everyone else seems to just love it. You can't figure out why, so you try it again, and maybe again. Somehow, something changes, and you find that you actually like it. Before long, you realize you really like it. You like it so much, you're willing to pay top dollar for it.

Besides, you should really follow my mother's advice about vegetables, "Don't say you don't like it until you actually try it."

That's what I did. And, you know what? I really really liked it.

 

[charmingdimples]

Interesting views on this topic I have wondered about it myself

 

[terrivonlott]

I agree with this

I am a heterosexual man. I shudder at the thought of having sex with anyone I'm related to. In fact, the very idea is so abhorrent to me I have great difficulty even thinking about sex with anyone in my family. However, I love reading stories in the incest/Taboo section. I too was surprised to see that the most-read stories are about incest and I started reading them out of curiosity only to find some of them extremely arousing.

The point is, though, that when I'm reading about someone else's incest, it has no bearing on my relations with my relatives. I am not a participant, but an observer and so don't feel the least incestuous reading about incestuous relations. The stories I like the least are the ones about father/daughter sex and those stories feel abusive to me. I know that this is completely irrational but I enjoy the Mother/son stories the most and don't find them abusive. Though I loved both my parent, I had a far better relationship with my father than with my mother and never had any fantasies or desire for my mother. Nonetheless I am highly aroused by the mother/son stories while at the same time would be totally disgusted, shocked and broken if my wife and son where to have a relationship.

I cannot fantasize about incest in my own life. Now, getting back to the heterosexual part first mentioned in the beginning of this entry. I am strictly heterosexual in practice but have no problem with fantasies about homosexual encounters.

Bottom line is: nothing about lust and arousal is ever going to be logical. Now I must take my leave and go and read a few incest stories and have some fun.

Cheerio!

This is the first time I have seen another man say the same thing I enjoy. I am not much into the father/daughter thing but the mom/son sexual ralationship is hot to me. I also love the sister/brother sex too, because I actually experienced that myself. I did have a brief flirtation with my mom once or twice or more. My sister and I had sex many times in our younger days but today we never mention it.

 

[lorencino]

No no, I get that. That's not my question. My question is, if anyone IS into this, what is the appeal you see in this??

Frankly, I don't really understand the question. The appeal is simply that it turns people on. Why this turns you on rather than something else is fertile ground for much speculation, but I don't see that there are any objective explanations available. I don't know for sure why what turns me on, turns me on, I only know whether it does or doesn't and my explanation for why a particular thing turns me on are no better or worse than anyone e;se's opinion about what lies behind my turn on. However, having said all that I am going to opine that it is the utter debauchery, the total lack of boundaries to unbridled passion and lust that is the engine of the turn on. The more I fling restraints to the wind, the more appeaing the situation is in my fantasies and my fantasies are about what can never happen in reality which is the domain of countless restraints.

So there!

 

[kskittles]

People are always drawn to things that are "wrong". Drugs, speeding, bad boys, etc.

 

[MichiganMike]

People are always drawn to things that are "wrong". Drugs, speeding, bad boys, etc.

What are you drawn to Kskittles? What trips your trigger?

 

[User_Name]

People are always drawn to things that are "wrong". Drugs, speeding, bad boys, etc.

I can do speeding and being very bad... not into drugs though, can be found drunk occasionally

Incest hey, it's the sheer naughty taboo thing that attracts people to the genre I do believe... Some might even be practising the art and like to keep abreast of things.

 

[Discretfun83]

Fatherhood

People are always drawn to things that are "wrong". Drugs, speeding, bad boys, etc.

After reading quite a bit of your posts... on this thread and others, all I can really say is that I would be proud and happy to be your father any day. If that day would ever happen one could only hope to have a daughter like you!

 

[BentSecrets]

Personally, I've had a lot of incestuous experiences, primarily with cousins when we were much younger, though a little touch and exploration occurred with my sister as well.

Back then, I think it was mere convenience--young people, similar in age, hormones raging and looking for an outlet, happen to have a lot of opportunities to explore with each other. There was, I assure you, a great deal of shame and guilt, both from the angle of having diddled one's cousin and from the fact that we were both male.

Where it came to my sister, that was of pure accident. She walked in on me taking care of business, wanted to watch and eventually wanted to touch my cock. We never had sex, though we touched each other a great deal for a time.

I do, yes, enjoy the incest stories with regards to brother/sister, cousin/cousin, but I don't care for the child/parent variety. At one time I found myself drawn to the daddy/daughter fantasy, but that dissipated very rapidly for me.

Looking back, I think one of the things I miss was the closeness and the sharing of something private between myself and my cousins. We could make each other feel good and nobody was the wiser. Moreover, that's been the overriding edict of my sexual history with every partner I've had, both male and female: a desire to pleasure them as much as possible.

I've always been the guy who makes his partner cum over and over, and often enough I have felt so sated from the giving that I didn't need reciprocation (not that I've ever turned down a good return favor, LOL). Even with partners with whom I've had little or no other connection to, I've always been driven to please them, and in my breaks between relationships I find that several will come my way for some release and pleasure, and always with stories about how their current partners don't do (fill in the blank), and yet, I'm open to almost anything (no scat, no animals, no children, thanks).

But yeah, it felt emotionally close to enjoy sex with my cousins and touching with my sister.

 

[heartlessnjaded]

There is one important reason that I either missed or it hasn't been mentioned... trust. Who, more than a family member, can you trust to not hurt or betray you?

Yes, there is the unconditional love, the familiar, and seeing each other grow and change. IMO, the strongest and most powerful attraction would be knowing that this person will always want to protect you from pain and heartache.

Considering current divorce rates and the number of affairs that take place in any relationship, why wouldn't one consider incest?

No, I am not nor have I practiced incest because I do not find a physical attraction to any of my relatives. However, if I did.....