Stories and Morals and Pics... Oh my!!

[FilthyAngel]

After a conversation I've just had in Private Messages, I'm interested to know other people's take on the "moralistic" side of reading erotica, looking at pictures as a married person.

I'm a single girl, I choose to be at the moment for many reasons, but the main one is the seemingly unerring ability I have for finding unfaithful men. Over the last 6 years I've been in no less than 3 relationships where I was constantly cheated on, so now it's preferable for me to be on my own.

I have about a dozen stories here on Literotica, and a thread with quite a lot of pictures. I've conversed with a lot of people in private, as well as on MSN with some of them. The latest one started off quite nicely, and we progressed into some very nice flirting It then transpired that he has a wife, and I decided not to pursue it any further.

Now, according to him, I'm a complete hypocrite, and should subtitle my pictures and stories with ""to be viewed only by single men with no emotional attachement to any other woman" and should change my name to MorallySelfRighteousAngel.

Am I completely missing the point here? In my opinion, there's no harm whatsoever in looking, reading, even having a good old fashioned wank if you find something horny. However, I don't want to get into a lengthy flirtathon with someone whose significant other might object. Fine, there may be people in open relationships (although I suspect they'll be few and far between) but I see nothing "moralistic" or "self righteous" about not wishing to get into an in depth conversation behind anyone's back.

Am I kidding myself? Is my co-correspondent right? I've no idea, but a discussion would be interesting I think

 

[cadman7777]

Well this should be interesting. This will go all over the place because people view morality so different. I'll need to reread your post and give it some more thought.

 

[joene]

Unfortunately I have the morals of an alley cat ..... but I respect everyone's point of view

 

[FilthyAngel]

Unfortunately I have the morals of an alley cat ..... but I respect everyone's point of view

Many people would say I have as well!! lol. I just feel uncomfortable encroaching on someone else's relationship I suppose. If both parties are aware of it then that's one thing, but going behind people's backs is not for me - and apparently that makes me moralistic

 

[yogiforlife]

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I understand where you're coming from. I've met some wonderful women on here, some have been married, but I knew that before engaging in chat with them. I myself may be a hypocrite, because I know I would not agree with my wife or significant other flirting with another guy online, no matter how harmless it may be. Therefore, for me to be that other guy, it is a bit of a moral conflict at times. At the end of the day, if all you are doing is chatting and flirting a bit, nobody is getting hurt. If you began said relationship with the idea of possibly meeting up one day, well then thats different.

 

[Pinktacokitty]

Maybe I am looking at this question through a prism that is totally skewed, but I feel if I flirt with or even sleep with a married man I am not the one cheating. It is his responsibility to his spouse not mine! I may not even know he is married at the time, even if I did is still not my responsibility to stop it is his. If I go after a known married man I will take that responsibility of guilt, but only in that case is it on me

If the man was getting what he needed or desired at home he would not be chasing my lil ass, nor would he respond if I hit on him. The third party may be an enabler at the worst, where that falls on the morality scale is up to every individual to gage.

 

[cadman7777]

Maybe I am looking at this question through a prism that is totally skewed, but I feel if I flirt with or even sleep with a married man I am not the one cheating. It is his responsibility to his spouse not mine! I may not even know he is married at the time, even if I did is still not my responsibility to stop it is his. If I go after a known married man I will take that responsibility of guilt, but only in that case is it on me

If the man was getting what he needed or desired at home he would not be chasing my lil ass, nor would he respond if I hit on him. The third party may be an enabler at the worst, where that falls on the morality scale is up to every individual to gage.

Maybe we should get together and then we can decide how we feel about it.

 

[FilthyAngel]

Maybe I am looking at this question through a prism that is totally skewed, but I feel if I flirt with or even sleep with a married man I am not the one cheating. It is his responsibility to his spouse not mine! I may not even know he is married at the time, even if I did is still not my responsibility to stop it is his. If I go after a known married man I will take that responsibility of guilt, but only in that case is it on me

If the man was getting what he needed or desired at home he would not be chasing my lil ass, nor would he respond if I hit on him. The third party may be an enabler at the worst, where that falls on the morality scale is up to every individual to gage.

No, I can totally see where you're coming from. I'm sure there have been plenty of times when I've unwittingly flirted or even slept with a married man. Just that my personal preference is not to get involved at all once I know he's married. I don't judge anyone else on what they choose to do, I've just made my own choice after having been the woman who was cheated on

By the way, I'm not passing judgement on anyone else's morality here either. I should think a lot of people have already judged me on mine and even that doesn't particularly bother me

I think I'm just trying to see the link between posting erotic pics and stories, and that somehow meaning that I should be happy to flirt with anyone who wants me to regardless of their status. That made sense in my head lol

 

[Spankbank]

As women we must remember and never forget. Men Are Pigs will cheat because they can, and lie when the truth would work better for the situtation.

 

[cadman7777]

As women we must remember and never forget. Men Are Pigs will cheat because they can, and lie when the truth would work better for the situtation.

Spankbank...you are so shy and reserved.Come right out and tell us what you think........

 

[Wolfking05]

Spankbank...you are so shy and reserved.Come right out and tell us what you think........

LMFAO!!!

 

[yogiforlife]

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Maybe I am looking at this question through a prism that is totally skewed, but I feel if I flirt with or even sleep with a married man I am not the one cheating. It is his responsibility to his spouse not mine! I may not even know he is married at the time, even if I did is still not my responsibility to stop it is his. If I go after a known married man I will take that responsibility of guilt, but only in that case is it on me

If the man was getting what he needed or desired at home he would not be chasing my lil ass, nor would he respond if I hit on him. The third party may be an enabler at the worst, where that falls on the morality scale is up to every individual to gage.

I can see your point, it even has occurred to me in a few situations but in the end, we all have to take responsibility for our actions and especially our choices. If we didn't, then as guys we could just run around having unprotected sex, because its not our bodies that get pregnant, thats the womans problem. (Not that alot of guys don't do that anyways lol)

 

[RuReal]

I don't think you have missed the point at all I think some people just need to be honest. I think there would be very few people that I have spoken to on this site that would not know I am married.

I make no secreat of it and gasp I make sure my wife knows exactly what I am doing. If she had issues with what I was doing then I would not be on here. I think if one cannot explain what one is doing to there mate then they should not do it. I know the rules and play by them I can chat I can flirt, but I am looking more for conversation and fun online than to try and make a connection here.

I think it all depends on what someone's goals are on this site, what are your goals posting on this site?

 

[cent_fl_guy]

I don't really have anything to add, at this point, however it has been very interesting to read all the replies to the original post.

I can't wait to continue to follow this and I hope that it continues to be a mature discussion and does not turn into some ugly pissing contest about rights and wrongs.

I do find it interesting, however, that this has somehow already skewed itself towards men being the cheaters, and I am guessing that is because it started with a female post and almost all replies have been from women.

From my point of view, ok I am going to add something now, I have been in the following situations:

My long term gf cheated on me with a guy who did not know she was in a relationship and when he found out he ended it based on his moral beliefs

I have been the other man, and not known it, and when I found out, I ended it based on something, but not necessarily morals, just sick of the relationship more than anything

I have been the other man, and known it, and interestingly enough she left him for me and we dated for a long time and are still friends to this day

Not sure what any of this means, but it felt good to finally post a reply that didn't tell someone that their pics looked good.

BTW, your pic thread is hot

doug

 

[cent_fl_guy]

I don't really have anything to add, at this point, however it has been very interesting to read all the replies to the original post.

I can't wait to continue to follow this and I hope that it continues to be a mature discussion and does not turn into some ugly pissing contest about rights and wrongs.

I do find it interesting, however, that this has somehow already skewed itself towards men being the cheaters, and I am guessing that is because it started with a female post and almost all replies have been from women.

From my point of view, ok I am going to add something now, I have been in the following situations:

My long term gf cheated on me with a guy who did not know she was in a relationship and when he found out he ended it based on his moral beliefs

I have been the other man, and not known it, and when I found out, I ended it based on something, but not necessarily morals, just sick of the relationship more than anything

I have been the other man, and known it, and interestingly enough she left him for me and we dated for a long time and are still friends to this day

Not sure what any of this means, but it felt good to finally post a reply that didn't tell someone that their pics looked good.

BTW, your pic thread is hot

doug

 

[cent_fl_guy]

ok totally apologize for double posting, it certainly does not make it twice as good.